EPISODE 152: “Eliminating FATA From Your Life – Part 1”
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You’re probably wondering what FATA is, right? It’s an acronym I just made up and it stands for Fear, Anxiety, Tension, and Anger.
When you really think about it, we humans bathe ourselves in these emotions and most of us take this bath for life…and then we wonder why we’re not getting what we want in life.
When we look into it we can all agree that these emotions and thoughts rob us of well-being and happiness and what most people never think about is what they cost us in terms of our health.
In this episode, I start laying the foundation for ways that we can begin eliminating these mental poisons from our life and how our lives will immediately change when we do.
The fact is this, most of us have gotten into these negative emotions for decades and we don’t even identify with them or recognize when we’re in the emotions and yet they are “running in the mental background like a cell phone app.”
Not only do we want to eliminate these negativities from our lives for reasons of emotional well being, we also want to eliminate them to raise our spiritual connections and vibrations to source.
In this episode I discuss:
And, of course, much much more.
Self-Integrity is VITAL to your success in any activity and according to a Harvard business professor who studies it, it’s one of the most over looked concepts in business and life.
When we’re out of self-integrity, nothing works, we keep failing over and over in many areas of life that we think are important to us.
Let me rephrase the last paragraph, things work in life but they rarely work the way we want when we’re out of integrity.
Everyone on this planet is going to live and die. How do you define life? Define death?
You're listening to the Transform your Life from the Inside Out podcast. In this episode, I talk about an acronym that I have titled FATA, F A T A. Now what that means, and we'll dig into it in this episode is this episode is to start talking, talking about ways that you can eliminate fear, anxiety, tension, and anger, F A T A eliminating fear, anxiety, tension and anger from your life. Keep listening.
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FATA Is Habitual, We Can Unlearn It
Okay. So eliminating fear, anxiety, tension and anger. Normally, every week, I think through what I want to do, and I'll start the week prior, and I'll start making some notes and jotting some ideas down. And, you know, I'll look through, you know, things I've done in the past and old notes or, you know, I keep, you know, kind of a not a file, but just some ideas of what I want to do podcast on. And this week until today, or actually last night, I had it all thought out. And I knew exactly what I wanted to do for this episode, which I'll do in a couple of weeks from now. But my brother in law, the shaman Don Xavier came over last night. And he was talking to me. And he was talking about fear, anxiety, tension and anger. And I said, You know what, that's and it just hit me. I just go with what I sense for the episodes. And it hit me that you know what, that's what I want to talk about this week on this episode.
And the frustrating part is I always go with my sense S E N S E as he I can't spell itS E N S E, I go with my sense.And the frustrating part is when I'm like, okay, here's what I want to do an episode on. And I get it all organized in my mind. And then last minute like today, I changed my mind. So anyway, I want to,talk about the conversation that he and I had last night. And then I want to make this a two part episode. Because he was talking to me last night, none of this is new to me. I mean, I've been working with him for 25 years now.But he was talking to me in a way that he really hadn't talked to me before. And what started the conversation, he was like, How are you feeling? Meaning as you know, if you've already listened to the last episode, you know that I had had a hemorrhagic stroke last a couple of months ago, and I'm healing and very well. And he said, How are you doing? kind of the first thing when he walked in, and we started chatting. And he started talking about how we and what I said to him was just laying everything out for you.
And I'm not going to go too much into it this episode, because I want to save it for the next episode.But the first month out of the hospital, the medications really weren't working for me, meaning they can control my blood pressure. And it was going really, really high. I mean, like where doctors are like, you should go to the ER, if it goes that high and stuff like that. But yet I was on meds for this. So technically, it should not have been happening. And what I've recognized really profoundly, and by the way, it's under control now. But what I've recognized profoundly in the last two months, is I got well I got online, you know, on Amazon, and I started looking at some things and there was just one blood pressure and it wasn't a medication. You can't sell that on Amazon. But it was it was basically a natural formula, a remedy that people were talking about. And a lot of the comments were about, well, this worked for me when blood pressure medication did not work for me.
Now, I'd never been on blood pressure medication before. Well for a little bit. I was earlier in the year when I had heart failure, which we'll talk about not on this episode, but another one on how you can heal yourself which is partly what today is about. But the blood pressure medication wasn't working and I was having a really hard time managing the blood pressure the first month, and it's under control now, but I told my brother in law, Don Xavier last night, said, you know, what I've really, really come to understand is we can do all the external things in the world, whether it be diet, or exercise, or, you know, or medications, or acupuncture, we can do all these external things.
But what really matters, what really matters is the internal game, literally the internal game. And that's how we manage our thinking, which I know this, you know, talked about on many episodes, specifically. And I've talked about, you know, running your own factory, if your mind is a factory, and a metaphor, and how do you manage and all that kind of stuff. Last night, when he started talking about fear and anxiety, and tension and anger. And when he talks to me, he never talks arbitrarily. He's always talking. I mean, if he's talking about whatever it is, there's always a reason for it.
And these are all things that I've, for the most part worked through with many years, or through many years of being with him and working with him. And I look back over my life at the many years, and, you know, 25 years ago, and I've been in this field for a lot of years, but I look back at all the fears that I used to get into and, you know, ridiculous things and what I call them ridiculous now, and back then it was like, are people gonna like me, and it's my content good enough. And, you know, this program and that program, and can I, you know, am I as good as a presenter as this, you know, all these social things, and, but I look back at all the fear and anxiety and tension and anger, and I was never, and again, I'll save this for the next episode. I've never been really classified as an angry person. But yet, I had many, many, and almost a lifetime of low grade anger, just being angry at, you know, the world and different things around me. And, you know, a lot of you are just we're angry air quotes are just normal things in life, our mother in law, and our mother and our father, and sometimes our kids and different things. And we spent all these years being angry.
And a lot of times we learn these behaviors, and we learn these things. And we don't even recognize that we've habituated. We have habituated being fearful and anxious and tense and angry. And if somebody were to say to us, me, you, us, somebody were to say, Well, you know, do you consider yourself to be an angry person, you would say no, and not me, when that's all delusional, and that the person really is an angry person. So I started thinking about how much I've dramatically changed over the years. And then I started thinking about last night, and he was here. I mean, he came here at 8pm. And he was here till I watched the sun come up, I went to bed at 7am this morning. And he stayed till about six this morning and talked to me and some other people that were here that work with him. And throughout the night, I was thinking, you know, I said to myself, he never talks to any of us as a group or individually without a purpose. There's some reason that he's talking to me about fear and anger, and tension and anxiety. And then I said to myself, I said, how much fear and anxiety, intention and anger? Do I have still left in me, that I don't even know, that I have left in me.
And this relates back to you know, when he walked in, he said, How are you etc, which is health and wellness, because he's always for and I've seen, I've never seen him sick. And all the years that I've worked with him.And he's always talking about your highest state of function is a being your highest state of function is a state of well being. And if you're not in well being, then you are in some sort of dis ease. And then generally, that comes from and I've learned this, I really have, I've learned it, yet, I'm still mastering it, let me let me put it that way. But I've learned that whatever happens in our body,whatever happens in our body, first starts at some level in our mind, because we're multiple levels of consciousness. We operate in multiple Unified Fields, or multiple layers of consciousness.
And, of course, because a lot of it's unconscious 95% of it, we don't recognize it. We, you know, we don't recognize how much is going on at a level that we cannot air quote see So I know that you know, he was talking to me for a reason last night about my own fear and anxiety and tension and anger. And as I started this episode, I could definitely relate to these. I mean, if you said, you know, Jim, are you an angry person? Like I said earlier? No, I mean, no one, no one that knows me can ever say, and I would bet money on this. They could never say, Jim, I've seen you yell or scream at anyone. I'm not a yeller, I'm not a screamer at people.
And many years ago, I would have classified that and said, Well, I don't yell at people. Because that was my definition, is that angry, people yell and they scream. And if I don't yell and scream that I must not be an angry person. But yet, for many years, the shaman that my brother in law worked with that I also worked with who was a mentor of mine, for many years back in the early 90s, he would be like, you have to let go of your anger, you, you know repetitively, you have to let go of your anger. And for for many years, it didn't make any sense to me, because again, I was defining it in a way that wasn't consistent with the way that has been explained to me. And I just wasn't owning that.
So I look at fear and anxiety and tension and anger. And I'm like, okay, so I had heart failure at the beginning of the year of 2020, which I'm completely healed from, which we'll talk about in next episode and other episodes. And I know that because cardiologist told me that I have no heart failure, yet I was diagnosed with lifetime congestive heart failure, which is people do not air quote, heal themselves from that yet I'm completely healed. And my brother in law even told me two months ago that his house for dinner, and he's talking about heart failure, and it gives you're in his you know, I think I mentioned on this podcast is his intonation was and his words were, you're already over that you're, you're healed. And then I was in the hospital, what, two months later, and they're like, the cardiologist at the hospital, I went through all these, you know, heart tests and everything else are like you have a really strong heart. So, anyway I was looking at, okay, so if I had a stroke.
All right, which I did a hemorrhagic stroke. How much did fear and anxiety and tension and anger contributed to that, but I'm not even aware of myself running the fear, or anxiety and tension and anger. Because like, for example, when it comes to fear, literally, and I know, because I know how I feel emotionally, when I think about it, you know, a big fear that people get into is, you know, are people going to judge me? Well, I already know people are gonna judge me, because I'm out in the public and doing things. So actually, I own that I don't care, because I already expect it. And I tell people, one of the easiest ways to transcend the fear of judgment is to invite it and expect it because now you're not being resistant to it, because you already know what's going to come.
Okay, back to the episode.So anyway, I'm kind of, in my mind categorizing and as of last night, going through fear and anxiety, intention and anger. And I thought, well, you know, what, if this pertains to me,it definitely pertains to all of us as human beings.And candidly, I pretty much for the most part, have my stuff together in life. I really do. And, unlike Geez, if I'm doing what I'm doing at the level that I'm working at, and doing pretty well, then I'm walking my talk, and I still have all this in me, that I'm not aware of. And then I thought back to 25 years ago on myself. I'm like, how much of this does he every day, you know?Bob and Mary walking around how much fear and anxiety and tension and anger do they have in them? That's destroying their well being, that they don't even know they're getting in to the fear and anxiety and tension and anger.
So last night and today, I said, You know what, to myself, I'm going to spend one week because see, what we love to do as human beings is we love to answer immediately. And again, most of us are blind, I don't know how to correctly pronounce his last name. I think it's Anatole France,F R A N C E even though it's, uh, you know, French, everything I believe. I think he said he, he said one time that the greatest ability of man is the ability to deceive himself. So we love to get into the self-deception. And we can say things like, no, and I've seen it for crying out loud. I mean, it's like, Are you blind or what?
Even with my students, but people, people will be like, No, I'm not angry, and I'm not fearful. And they'll mix and match, oh, you know, I've caught you know, I've conquered this, but I'm still working on that or whatever. Not even seeing because they've habituated the fear or the anger, or, you know, the tension or, or anxiety, they've habitually used it. Not even recognizing that you're getting into it, but not even calling it by that name. So I said to myself, I'm going to take seven days, and I'm going to observe myself. Now what I want to share with you is we tend to forget things. That's why I put alarms on my phone all the time for things that I'm doing. And I'm working on myself.
Everything from, you know, holistic regimens, that I'm taking everything I just put on the phone and put alarms on it till it becomes habitual. So me sharing this with you in the podcast, you could hopefully be saying, yep, that's a good idea. You know what, Jim, that that is a great idea. I'm going to do it. And then once you stop listening, you know, to this episode, and an hour later, you're going to be off to something else, you're going to forget this. And then you'll spend the whole week, just perpetuating your behaviors, again, not even knowing you're perpetuating your fear and anxiety, intention, and anger. So I would say however bested works for you spend a week and a couple of times a day checking in with yourself, maybe even at lunch, and dinner or the end of your day. And just asking yourself a simple question. How much of FATA F A T A the fear and anxiety, intention and anger that I get into prior to lunch.
And then just kind of take some time and survey? How you showed up before lunch? Were you angry because the vendor didn't show up or your boss said this or your mother, you hung up on her because she said that, or the kids forgot their lunch money, or your husband did this or that or your you know, survey? survey around lunchtime, and make a note. So you've got you know, let's keep it easy. Let's do Monday through Friday, 10 times, take your next, you know, Monday through Friday, and do at lunchtime. And do you know in the evening, how much fear and anxiety, intention and anger that I get into in the morning and in the afternoon? And take a survey of yourself, literally, but what I want you to do first, before you do that, is I want you to have a clear definition of how you define what is fear to you. And what does it look like which we'll get to in just a moment. What does fear look like to you?
What is anxiety, or being anxious? How do you represent that to yourself? What about tension? How do you represent that to yourself? And then what about anger? And that one's pretty easy for a lot of us, for most of us. So for me, for example, it's something I'm still working through which it was partly wrapped up in all these things that I'm learning about myself and healing and creating well being is that I grew up with a father who had to always be busy. My father was literally like non stop busy. And I did not remember till recently, last week or so that my father used to work as kids. I grew up on a farm. And my parents were even arguing one time my mom was saying why can't the kids just be kids on Saturday morning. And my dad would literally have is working by 10am Saturday morning. And as I look back now, in retrospect, you know, 45 years ago, it was all busy work. I mean, basically metaphorically move this pile of x, y, z from here over there, move the pile from you know, make the yard nice and neat and clean and mow the yard and blah, blah, blah and everything's you know, nice and neat.
And then guess what, two weeks. You know, two weeks later, we'll move it all back again. And I was busy as a kid and I remember that and then I look at my adult life, and I'm going somewhere with this in my adult life, even till the last couple of years. And last year, I had to stay busy all the time. I'm a DOER, even though I talked about be do have, and I know definitely, that BEing is the genesis of personal creation, I would go do things I would decide what I had to be and how I had to be. And then I would go do and do and do. And I've been one of those people that it's hard for me to sit still. And that you know what, I can be doing something right now. Instead of just lying on the couch? No, let me do something, you know, let me get on my phone. Let me do that, you know, and that creates where I was going, that creates tension in me.
Why? Because if I'm not doing enough, or I'm not doing things that I think I should be doing, that creates tension. And so I had all this tension in my life for decades, not even knowing and not even calling attention. But it was almost like a low grade anxiety, because the tension was causing that. So really, what I want you to look at is in your life, define the fear and anxiety and tension and anger. What do they mean to you? And how do you represent them to yourself. And then what I want you to do, as I said a little earlier, is around lunch, just stop set a timer on your phone to remind you, and you can put F A T A on your phone as a reminder at you know, noon and 8pm at night and F A T A at noon, okay, how much fear and anxiety and tension and anger that I get into this morning, and then evening time. And then what I want you to do no judgment, do not judge yourself that simply creates actually, it creates fear in people because you're like, Oh my god, I'm bad. And what's going to happen because I'm bad and tension. Well, I shouldn't do that, and anxiety and people and I'll stop. Just stop and watch yourself for one week. That's all that I simply want you to do is observe yourself. And that is it.
The reason I'm doing all this is because this fear, and anxiety and tension and anger. They literally I didn't really think about it this way to my brother in law Don Xavier and I were talking about it last night. Now I've thought about it this way before but these rob you of well being literally. And the phrase that he used last night I never classified is it as that. But he said these are all negativity. And I always you know in my life, classified negativity as what you know, the Debbie Downer negativity, and the bad attitude and the complaining and all that. And when I just sat and thought with it, even though it's very basic, I'm like, yeah, those are negative emotions. And so I thought, and what I'm sharing with you is, how much because they affect your well being? How much negativity Do you get into throughout your day, and you don't even classify it or recognize it as negativity. And then you look at a whole different vein, we're not going to go here now. But is the law of attraction, which is physics. And then we're all vibrating frequency. So we attract what we are through frequency and vibration.
So if you're into the fear and the anxiety in the tension and anger, and I have thought about this part. So what is your frequency and vibration? And what are you attracting back to you? What kind of life are you creating? for yourself? And specifically, here's the thing for me, because I've been working on it. I've mentioned it many times in the podcast is I'm working on well being. And if I'm in fear, and anxiety and tension and anger, then I am not in well being. And if I am not in well being, then I am not at my highest function. And if I am not at my highest function, then what I'm quite literally doing literally is shutting down my spiritual connection. And my highest value is spiritual growth and spirituality. So for me to live at the highest function of myself is to take a survey of what I call these 3D ego things, what I call and the phrase that I use in shamanism the T O N A L that the phrase that everyone else uses is ego. How much of this ego of the fear and anxiety and tension and anger do I get into and don't even know it and perpetuate it for many years.
Couple more comments here, or at least one more comment is I know people, and I coach people, and I'm friends with people that are very successful people, socially speaking, and financially speaking, and online and everything else. And, you know, for example, you could make and I've seen this, you can make $5 million a year. And by the way, trust me when I tell you, I do very well financially. So I understand those kind of numbers, and it doesn't change. For most people, it doesn't change your state of well being because your state of well being is dependent, I mean, independent of your finances, literally, that's how it works. But many of us make them actually dependent upon each other.
Or I was going is that many times, we think, oh, because I got the perfect marriage, yet your finances are upside down, you don't ever attribute to the negativity that that causes or the tension or the stress or, or the anxiety or the fear or the anger, because your finances are upside down. So what I'm saying, I'm talking to every single one of you, I don't care how well known you are, how famous you are online or offline, or whatever, I don't care. I'm talking to everyone. This week, your assignment, which I've already given it to you I'm not going to recapitulate is to observe how much fear and anxiety and tension and anger you get into. Because then what I want to do in the next episode is let's dig a little deeper into those. because ideally, my goal for you would be the goal for me, is to live at my highest function as a being.
We're all cosmic beings, we're all spiritual beings, whether we want to believe that or not, there is an essence in us. And I want to live at the highest function of that. And I want that for you. Because when you live from there, then it brings you all the things that you want in the external world, the relationships, and the money, and the Mercedes Benz and the house and the Aston Martin, and the boyfriend and the girlfriend, and all these things that we air, quote, want. When we're functioning at high levels of spiritual being, I promise you, because I've done it, it's very easy to create those things. But yet where I was missing the boat, and this year was my wake up call for me to be able to serve you guys at a greater level is health. Now I've always been in great health. I mean, I've not had until 2020, I had not had the flu and 20, which I still haven't in years, had the flu. And I will move on to this way I had I had not had the flu in 20 years. And I've not had had not until you know last year, how to medical prescription since 1992.
So in my mind, I was categorizing, I'm perfectly healthy. When in essence, I had some of these things mentally operating like a battery on a cell phone in the background, operating, which contributed to what happened to my health this past year. And Don Xavier and I were talking last year and he goes, all this happened to you so that you can grow and evolve and you can reach more people. So that's what I'm doing with this episode is just sharing with you part of my journey where I am on what's going on. And hopefully you can see yourself in your life, and the fear and the anxiety and the tension and the anger. And you know what? Let's explore that. And let's put that behind you. Okay, no, there's no transformational takeaway. This episode will continue on the part two of this on the next episode. Take care if you would, please share this episode with your friends and people you think will find value and I'll catch you over on the next episode. Make it an amazing week. Bye bye.
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