You’re listening to the transform your life from the inside out podcast. This episode is titled kicking the fear that stands between you and what you really want in life. Now I am aware that this is going to appeal to many people listening. Why? Because most people deal with fear. And here’s the thing we’re going to talk about in this episode. Many people are experiencing emotions. 
 
but they’re not even aware that these emotions are fear-based and fear-driven. And what we’re gonna talk about in this episode is that there are only two emotions. One is love and the other is fear. And most of us make our choices and our decisions and live our life from fear, but then we’re not happy because we’re not getting what we want. And the reason we’re not getting what we want is because we’re making our decisions from fear. So if you’re experiencing fear, 
 
And even if you’re experiencing negative emotions about things in life, somebody makes you angry, you think. By the way, no one makes you angry. It’s that you’re choosing to be angry. But let’s say you’re dealing with perhaps negative feelings, anger, frustration. Maybe you feel like you’re being treated unfairly. Maybe you’re annoyed, frustrated, whatever it might be. You’re going to find in this episode, they’re all driven by fear. Keep listening. Hi, I’m Jim Fortin, and you’re about to start transforming your life from the inside out with this podcast. 
 
I’m widely considered the leader in subconscious transformation and I’ve coached super achievers all around the world for over 25 years. Here you’re going to find no rah rah motivation and no hype because this podcast is a combination of brain science, transformational psychology and ancient wisdom all rolled into one to take your life to levels you’ve never thought possible. If you’re wanting a lot more in life, to feel better, to heal, to have peace of mind, 
 
feel powerful and alive and to bring more abundance and prosperity into your life, then this podcast is for you because you’re going to start learning how to master your mind and evolve your consciousness. And when you do that, anything you want then becomes possible for you. I’m glad you’re here. Okay. Fear, fear, fear, and getting rid of the fear. The first thing that you have to know is that you have fear. 

And of course, most of us would say, okay, I know what things make me fearful. You know, what’s interesting is I was watching something on YouTube last night. I think it was a First Amendment auditor and I had it on in the background as I was working. And there was this police officer in LA, young guy, probably 28 or so. And what’s interesting, what I thought about is many people, they go into fear when they’re pulled over by the police. And then sometimes you have hostile police officers and that creates more fear in people. 
 
But this officer is very transparent. And he said, he goes, I’m 28 years old and I’m afraid of my mother. He goes, I’m Hispanic and Hispanic mothers can be very tough. And I found that interesting, the chain of fear and that this guy, a police officer, may by his profession instill fear in people. Yet this guy who’s instilling fear by being a police officer and other people is afraid of his mother. 
 
Okay, well, let’s go back to what I opened with. And I said, we’ve got to know, we’ve got to know that we have fear. And I did say that, you know, that you have fear. But what I was saying earlier is I said, if you’re in negative emotions, that’s fear, but you’re not identifying it as fear. So if you are in anger, stress, frustration, you feel like you’re being unfairly treated. 
 
you’re annoyed, whatever it might be. All these emotions are driven by fear. Let’s take the first one. Anger. Now, when we talk about anger, if I said, are you afraid? You’re like, no, I’m not afraid, but I’m pissed off. Well, the anger, the being pissed off is driven by fear. Let me give you an example of what I mean. Let’s say that you’re getting a divorce and it’s a nasty divorce and 
 
your partner is being really nasty in the divorce. Well, you may be getting into anger and you probably are getting into anger about it, not even recognizing that it’s fear-based, but the fear is, my gosh, I’m a failure. my gosh, I’m Catholic and I’m supposed to be married for a lifetime. my gosh, what are my parents gonna say? What are my friends going to say? my gosh, I’m the only one in my family to ever get a divorce. 
 
what’s society going to say about me? Or I’m in fear that I’m going to lose most of my possessions in this divorce. So we ostensibly look like we’re in anger, but it’s fear driving the anger. Many years ago, I was sitting with Don Juan Matus and he had said to me, he said, all these negative emotions that people have, his exact words were many times people misidentify their emotions. 
 
They think their emotions are one thing, but their emotions are not that. That thing they think it is, is that it is skies for something deeper. Just like I talked about anger, but other negative emotions. We talked about anger and you know, let’s talk about traffic for a moment. Have you ever been in traffic and you’re angry? Let’s say you’re running late for an appointment and you’re angry because all this traffic and road work is making you late to wherever you need to be. 
 
And then you’re angry about it, but let’s dig a little bit deeper. What are you angry about? Guess what? You’re angry about something fear-based. I am afraid that I’m going to be late. I’m afraid that if I’m late, I may lose a deal. I may lose a contract. I may lose money. I may lose face. I may lose something, which is obviously fear. Let’s look at stress. Now we generally don’t equate stress to fear. 
 
but stress is fear-based. Why? I am so stressed, I’ve got to finish this work project. And if I don’t, bad things can happen. If bad things happen, meaning I could lose my job, I could not make my bonus, meaning I didn’t deliver all the time and I’m not going to get my bonus. And if I don’t get my bonus and I can’t buy the kids birthday presents, Christmas presents, I can’t go on vacation, whatever it might be. 
 
My husband, my wife, my boyfriend, my girlfriend, they’re gonna be mad at me. I’m gonna be in trouble. Notice how it’s all fear-based. Frustration, same thing, fear. Unfairly treated. I don’t like the way you treated me, is what a lot of people say. A lot of people are triggered when they feel like they’re air-cold being disrespected. And what I’ve said before is, of course it’s a common courtesy, but what I’ve said before is who said the world owes you respect? It doesn’t. 
 
You’ve got to be the kind of person that gives respect to get respect. And some people don’t even respect themselves. And if they don’t respect themselves, how can you expect them to respect you? But many people think they’re being unfairly treated. And because they’re unfairly treated, they get vindictive and they get angry. There’s an example of that. guys, I literally, I just don’t give a crap who you voted for. But what I’m talking about, unfair, 
 
perceived unfair treatment. There’s a great example of that at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue. And then that person’s getting into anger, but it’s all fear-based. It’s all fear-based because all these people did all these kinds of things to me and it can be anything in life and it can be anyone. And they did this. And as a result of them doing this, I’m going to lose face. I’m going to lose my good name. I’m going to lose my reputation. I’m going to lose my house. I’m going to lose my partner. I’m going to lose my kids. 
 
whatever it might be, and notice that it’s all fear-based, but we don’t, when somebody’s unfairly treating us, we think it’s that they’re unfairly treating us in a particular way, but you know what? There’s a fear behind it. And that’s why I said, we have to look at, and we have to know that we are in fear. And anytime you’re experiencing a negative emotion of some kind, I said anytime, I’m gonna contradict myself, but. 
 
Almost any time you’re experiencing a negative emotion, and actually it could be all the time, but I want to give myself a little bit of a loophole here and a little bit of wiggle room. So pretty much any time you’re experiencing a negative emotion, we look at the negative emotion and we pinpoint that. We want to go deeper to what is the fear causing this emotion? Because all of these negative emotions are fear driven and we want to explore that. 
 
You might’ve heard me say before, we only have two emotions. In all transparency, I don’t know how many emotions human beings have. I know we have many aspects of emotions, but when it comes to how many emotions do we have, I’ve been taught, and I do find it in my own reality, my own experience, my own observation, I find it to be true. Don other years taught me we only have two emotions, love. And the opposite of that is fear. 
  
And if you look at that also, black, white, polarity, yin, yang. So it makes perfect sense to me. The only two emotions are love and fear. And what most of us, and I know I’m generalizing there, but I’ve been in that camp before. What most of us do is when we’re confronted with a decision, we just automatically, boom, default to making a decision out of fear. 
 
as opposed to making a decision out of possibility. And then when we make our decisions from fear, not even knowing we’re making a decision from fear, because we think we’re analytically and rationally thinking through the decision, but the mechanisms underneath it are fearful. When we’re making the decision from fear, we reap the results of that fear-based decision. So I’m asking you, ask yourself, anytime I have a negative emotion pop up, 
 
What is driving this? What is driving this? And dig deep to discover what is driving this. Like for example, the anger about being late or the anger about being divorced or the anger about feeling like you’re not being properly treated, whatever it might be. Dig deeper, go below that and start asking questions. Well, what am I really experiencing here? And you could even ask yourself this simple question. What is the fear behind this? 
 
What fear is driving this negative emotion? Now it’s vital that you have to be honest with yourself. So you’ve got the base of it, but the next part, this is something that I learned many years ago. And I had always thought to a large degree that I’m pretty authentic in life. If you’ve listened for any amount of time, you know that I can be pretty unvarnished. A friend of mine once said, Jim, you’re an acquired taste. A friend of mine, 
 
And I were kidding one time, he’s like, Jim, you need to get a finishing school. And I get that. But with me, you never have to be concerned about what I think or where you stand with me. Not that it would matter anyway, providing, you know, if you were in a personal relationship with me, you never have to wonder what I’m thinking about you or what you’ve said or what you’ve done when it pertains to me. Because if you ask me, I’m going to be authentic and I’m going to tell you exactly what I think. 
 
And again, it doesn’t mean that I’m right. I was talking to Don Javier one time. It was a family dinner and we were talking about something. And he said to me, he goes, you need to learn to have more filters. And that’s fine. That’s great. But you know what? I enjoyed being without the filters. Give you an example. If somebody walks up and they’re wearing, in my opinion, what I think to be is a hideous looking dress. And maybe she’s like, what do you think of his dress? 
 
Even if I think it’s hideous, I’m not going to say anything. Okay. What’s the point? And it’s just my opinion anyway. All that matters is that she likes that dress. This day and age, all that matters is that they like that dress. Okay. But anyway, if you ask me about feelings and emotions and what I think about different things, I’m going to tell you authentically what I think, what I feel, what I perceive, what I observe, as long as you did literally ask me to share my opinion and that’s relevant. 
 
then I’ll just authentically share. But many of us have a hard time being authentic with ourselves. And I want to talk about authenticity in two ways. One way would be my friend, Gary Zukov. Now, Gary constantly talks about being an authentic being. And what Gary means by that in the much bigger picture is not living in the ego. To live in the ego is an authentic authenticity, is what Gary is saying. 
 
And I fully buy into that. fully understand that I fully know it. I fully air quote, believe it is that your authentic self is not Bob or Sue or Jim or Mary or Jane. Your authentic self is the soul behind the ego container. That literally is just pure authenticity. But the way that I’m talking about it here is being authentic about the emotions of the being. 
 
And I could relate to this because this was me many years ago and I’m just being transparent. When I grew up, I was indoctrinated that, and I grew up on a farm. If you’ve listened for any amount of time that you boys have to be tough. My dad was of the mindset that boys have to be strong. We literally don’t show vulnerability. We can’t be weak for whatever reason. My father had an evaluation that weakness equated to something. 
  
Not good. So for many years, if I were afraid of something, I would act like I wasn’t afraid of it. I would ignore it. I would discount it. I wouldn’t say anything or I would be scared as hell while I was doing something and I would still do it. Why? Because I didn’t want to look weak if I didn’t do it. So then you look at the fear behind that. What’s the fear behind looking weak? Then I’m going to be less than and if I’m less than 
 
then people are going to criticize me. If I’m less than people are going to judge me. If I am less than I am not good enough. So in the context of this conversation, we have to recognize there are times that yes, things are going to scare the shit out of us. But many of us do what I did for many years is we play it off instead of saying, yeah, that scares the crap out of me. I’m not, I’m. 
 
And again, to Gary’s point, that’s all ego. So understand that when I talk about authenticity, it’s being aware and then just being authentic and saying, yep, I am afraid of this. I’ve said it before in different episodes. The best thing that ever happened to me was 2020 when I had, I was in heart failure. I had a hemorrhagic stroke and around that same 12 month period. I also had COVID for 13 days. I was in bed for 13 days. 
 
You know, it’s interesting. What’s that phrase comorbidity? I believe they call it. So I wasn’t just comorbid. I was double comorbid, meaning I had heart failure and I had a stroke. I was double comorbidity. And they say that the people that were most likely to die of COVID were people with comorbidity. And I had COVID pretty bad, where at one point I’m like, am I going to make it out of this? And even when I thought that, 
 
literally zero worry that entered my mind. I was in fear a zero amount because having the heart failure and the stroke within 12 months prior, I already knew that I could leave the planet in any given moment. Like when I had the stroke and I mentioned it before, I learned that when you leave the planet, you’re not going to know it. I mean, it could be a plane crash and you’re not going to know the second that plane smacks into the ground. You know, it could be anything. Somebody’s shooting you. 
 
And the second you leave the body, you’re not going to know it. And this game is over. This little, this little journey, this little ride, this roller coaster of life is over. So I look back and I had the good fortune of having these things happen, even though people call them unfortunate events. I had the good fortune because I remember, and I’ve said it before in the podcast when I had the heart failure, which I had first February of 2020. I was in the ER that did all this testing. The doctor came back in. 
 
you know, very matter factly, he put his hands on the railing of the bed in the ER and said, well, we’ve done all of our testing, you’re in heart failure. My whole approach was, I I didn’t, I knew what it meant, but I didn’t know what it meant. I mean, what does it mean to be in heart failure? Okay. Even though you analytically, shit, that’s not good. But I never went into fear about any of that ever. 
 
And so I’ve learned over the years that a lot of fears that people get into about being judged and being good enough and about money, I just don’t go there anymore. And it’s not because I’m any better than anyone else. It’s just that I’ve had different experiences to create that in me. What many of us do is I’ve been saying here is we have the fear that we have to be aware of. Okay. And that fear is, I being judged? Am I being criticized? Am I less than? Do I feel inadequate? I’ll talk about that a little bit also. 
 
You know, am I afraid people aren’t going to like me, whatever it might be. We have to be authentic with that, but that’s where we do what I did for many years. We try to hide that and that’s not a good place to go because that’s not being authentic with ourself. I mentioned before is our two greatest fears are the fear of abandonment and the fear of inadequacy. Been there, done that many years ago. No question about it. 
 
Even until like 2010 or so, I remember thinking, even in my own field that I’m in now, I don’t know, my podcast has five and a half million downloads, whatever it is. I don’t have many guests. Most podcasts that have a lot of downloads have guests who share them. This is all on me, which means what I’m sharing is resonating with people. A lot of people, okay? A lot of downloads. But I used to think many years ago, am I good enough? And I was on the same path of Donovoy here 15 years prior to that. 
 
But I used to think, am I good enough? And I felt inadequate. And we don’t like being inadequate because of what I said earlier. And here’s the fear. If we’re inadequate and we feel inadequate, we believe that’s going to cause people to judge us. We believe people are going to criticize us. We believe people are going to find fault with us. And if they judge us or criticize us or find fault with us, we are less than, we are not good enough. 
 
and that scares the shit out of a lot of people. So again, just make note of that where this plays out on your own life. Now let’s talk about how to transcend the fear. And I’ve said this before, I’ll say it again, but I’ll say it in a different way. I’ll say it and we have said it before and I’ll say it in a different way. Whatever fears you’re experiencing, you have to be authentic with them and you have to own them. It doesn’t mean, which I’m gonna talk about how to transcend them, 
 
you can transcend them. And also what I see is people being in a lot of fear and they’re even in fear about tackling the fear. Many times, not always, depending on whether it’s organic or whether it’s just thought process based, many people are into levels of anxiety about money, relationships, whatever it might be, jobs, careers, et cetera. And they are an anxiety and the anxiety can be really debilitating. 
 
But when they look at actually learning to manage the anxiety, that puts them in fear about the anxiety. Therefore, they never attack the anxiety because they’re afraid of the anxiety. I had a similar thing happen to me many years ago with that. Back out of college in 1988, believe, back when I had clinical depression, panic attacks, what did I have? I clinical depression, panic attacks, and anxiety all at the same time. 
 
And I remember when I started healing it, panic attacks for me were no fun. And I’m sure anybody that’s had a panic attack would tell you they’re no fun. Now, back then I didn’t have the mental tools that I have now. And now I know how to manage it if it ever happened again. But I remember one day, because I knew what a panic attack felt like when it was coming on. And I remember one day I had just a little twinge of that feeling. And then I got in the fear that I was going to have a panic attack. 
  
I was literally in fear about fear. And many of us do that. And I understand that, but we have to do what I’m going to show you here. Okay. And I’m not a medical practitioner and I’m not a mental health practitioner and expert, but I’ve been down this road before. And I’m going to tell you how I literally learned to overcome fear. I’ve said it before. I’ll say it again. Before I tell you the exact process that it’s really simple. Okay. When you confront the fear, the fear goes away. 
 
You know, when you look, for example, at maybe someone wants to blackmail you. So when someone wants to blackmail you, you live in all this fear and they can be blackmailing you financially. They can be blackmailing you with a secret that guess what? Most people don’t care about your secrets anyway, because they got their own secrets. read many years ago, people live three kind of lives. They lead public lives. They lead private lives. 
 
and they lead secret lives. Many people have secret lives that they’re ashamed of, and it can be a sexual fetish. It can be just different things for different people. Maybe it’s that they just can’t manage money and they’re always broke and they’re afraid of that. And many people are afraid of other people finding that out. But then when someone does find that out, the person that has the fear is afraid they’re going to be blackmailed by the person who found it out and they live in even more fear. 
 
And the way to overcome the fear, are you ready? And I’ve said this a bazillion times, own it and confront it. I want to give you my real story here. And I’m sure that before the podcast, anybody who’s listening for any amount of time knows this about me and that I’m gay. I came air quote came out 30 years ago. And I remember we were going on family vacation in 1999 to Yosemite national park. 
 
And Don Javier at the airport called me. We were at the airport in terminal. He just kind of motioned for me to come to him. And he said, you will come out on this trip. And I was like, what? He goes, you spend way too much time hiding. You, you waste your energy hiding. And he goes, you’re going to come out on this trip to mom. He calls, he called my mom, his mom as well. He goes, you’re going to come out to mom. didn’t say anyone else. He just said, mom, you’re going to come out to mom. 
 
Now, prior to this, I spent a lot of time dodging questions and hiding. know, mom was always like, do you have any new girlfriends and all this? And I would always dodge those questions. Anybody that’s gay can probably relate to that. But I wasn’t being authentic. And anyone that’s gay will tell you when they come out, it’s like a weight is left. Most people, most, many will tell you when they come out, it’s a weight off their shoulders. Why? Because now they don’t have to live in fear. 
 
and they don’t have to hide anymore. But what they’re really being is they’re being authentic. Now I was gonna say a quote a couple of minutes ago, what really helped me in this process is when I read a quote that said, I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not. And when I’m who I am and I’m authentic about that, people are gonna judge, people do it here on the podcast. People are gonna criticize, people are gonna condemn, people are gonna say thank you for being an inspiration. 
 
I’m going to get the entire gamut of responses. What I know is that no one can threaten me. No one can make me fearful about this. No one can say, I know this about you and I’m going to share it about you. Why? Cat’s already out of the bag. And that’s what I mean about being authentic. If you’re afraid of something, just say you’re afraid of something. Because guess what? You might think that’s being fearful, but you know what that really is? That is courage. 
 
When you have the courage to say, and I’m just kind of laughing, you know, stories of my own life, and I’m sure many of you can relate. When you have the courage to say, scares the shit out of me. You’re being authentic. Okay. I have no problems telling you. Remember, I probably shouldn’t, but for me, I don’t like snakes. For many years, I couldn’t even go in the snake house at the zoo. And I think in some past life, I was probably consumed by an anaconda. lived in the 
 
You know, I lived in Rio or something and I was eaten in the Amazon by a snake. So even if I would look at a snake, they would give me the heebie-jeebies. I couldn’t even look at a fricking snake. And even now I don’t want to be around the snake. I’m not going to hold a snake. I don’t want to touch a snake. Yeah. So I’m not being, you know, Mr. Badass. I’m telling you, I’ll tell you something. It’s really how mean my sister was to me one time. She was a year younger and she was not afraid of snakes. 
 
And she found a snake. It’s pretty stupid story. Now that I look back into, you know, being in high school, she found a snake and in the garage, when my parents garage was set up, it was a really tight garage. So she found a dead snake and I got in the car. like, get it away from me because she’s kind of swinging it at me. Get it away from me. So I got in the car and shut the door in the car. She hung the snake over the window, over the part of the roof of the car, over the window. 
 
So if I opened that door to get out of the car, the snake was gonna touch me, you’re gonna follow me. I think I stayed in the car for like an hour or something. I think you get the point. I fucking hate snakes. Now again, I know spiritually, they’re medicine, they’re grounding. Why? They’re close to the earth. Still doesn’t mean I wanna hold one. So I have no problems admitting that. You show me a snake, I’m gonna run like a 12 year old school girl. I do not like snakes. So that’s very clear. 
 
But I don’t have to be all macho about it. I’m at some event that somebody says, hold a snake, Jim, we’re going to demonstrate. Hell no, I’m not holding a damn snake. I’m not holding anything. You hold a snake yourself. I don’t care. But you got to confront the fear. So what I request you look at is look at your fears and look what’s behind the fear and then confront it. Because when you confront it, you weaken it. Let me give you a tangible example many people can relate to. 
 
Doing what I do, I get judged all the time. Why? Because I’m in the public domain. I mean, I’m not as big as a lot of people. I don’t want to be as big as a lot of people. I would probably shoot myself. And I’m kidding. But if I were as big as Justin Bieber or someone like that, I have no desire whatsoever to be at that level of notoriety. I find it quite draining if it were me and quite taxing and debilitating. I have no desire for that. But doing what I do, 
 
You know, people know the podcast and different things. And when I run ads on Facebook and I’m out and about, or here or there, or speaking at events, I’m always going to be judged. I know that, but for many years, I wouldn’t put out my content. They wouldn’t put out my training. Why? Because I was afraid of being judged. Now here’s the mistake that most of you guys are making. Because you were afraid of being judged and you’re having the negative emotions that I talked about, you’re being inauthentic. 
 
You’re not sharing that you’re in fear, which is actually courageous. So then what you do is you cower down. Now to concretize that I was afraid of being inadequate. I thought that if I put my content out, people are going to say, get out of here, kid. You’re not good enough. mean, you’re, you’re just, there’s nothing there. You’re, you’re, you’re stupid. You’re this, you’re that. And I was afraid of that for, for a lot of years. And what broke me out of that is when I read a quote, 
 
stop asking how good you are and start asking what the world needs. And I care so much about helping people that higher value literally helped me override the fear of judgment. But what I did prior is I would avoid being judged and I would avoid it by so to speak, not putting my content out there. And what I would do metaphorically, if you’re watching this on video, is that metaphorically I would like shield myself so you couldn’t see me, meaning I wasn’t putting my content out. 
 
And I thought, well, if they can’t see me, meaning my video or they see me on video, if they can’t see me, they can’t judge me. So when I said candidly, fuck it, I’m going to put myself out there. Whatever’s going to happen is going to happen. I’m going to roll the dice. Well, what happened is not what I expected to happen. Things took off, things caught on. For whatever reason, and I still understand today why. 
 
what I say resonates with a lot of people, no clue why, but it’s not my job to figure out why, it’s just my job to do what I do. And this day and age, I work from the position I already know, because I see it on YouTube, I see it on different places. I already know people are going to hate on me, people are going to judge me, people are going to troll me, which is what people do. People are gonna do many of these different kinds of things. People are also gonna be grateful and appreciative in whatever it might be. 
 
The bigger point is I was authentic enough. I was courage, courageous enough to recognize that wasn’t fear. And then I went through the fear. You’ve heard me say it before. If you don’t go through the fear, you will always be trapped from and by the fear. You have to go through the fear. There is no other way. You have to go through the fire. Elvin John has a song. I love the song. You can look it up anywhere. 
 
It’s called the bridge. And the theme of that song is that there’s a bridge in life and everyone has to cross that bridge. When it comes to fear, that fear is the bridge. But many of you stand on one side of the bridge and you’re afraid to cross the bridge of fear to the other side. And on the other side is everything that you want. So that being said, I asked you to look for a moment. 
 
Look at what fear has cost you in the course of your life. Look at what fear has cost you. Look what it’s cost you in terms of quality of living, in terms of your personal evolution, in terms of money, in terms of relationship, in terms of happiness living where you want to live. How about this one? You’ve got a job that pays you an XYZ comfortable amount of money. 
 
And you’re afraid to leave, even though I’ve heard people say their job is soul sucking. You’re afraid to leave. Why? Because what if I fail and what if people say certain things about me and what if I can’t find another job? So I’m going to just stay in this soul sucking job because of my fear. So you have to review. It’s important you review. You don’t have to do anything, but it’s important you review your choices and look at how many choices in your life have been filtered. 
 
and made through the lens of fear. And then ask yourself, what does that fear cost me? So we’ve looked at what fear costs you and think about what it costs you because fear costs you the home. As I mentioned earlier, it costs you the car, the livelihood, the boyfriend, the girlfriend, the husband, the wife. Maybe it’s caused you not to move across country and you want to move across country because you want to live in the Pacific Northwest and you live in South Carolina and you want to live on the 
 
and on the opposite coast, but you’re afraid. What is my family going to say? What are my friends going to think? What if I can’t make it? What if I can’t get a job? All of that is fear. So you have to look at what has your fear cost you. This is vital because your fear has cost you every single thing that you want in your life. That’s why said earlier, everything you want is on the other side of fear. Okay, next. 
 
Let’s get rid of fear even further. Name it. And you can name it whatever you want to name it. Don’t name it a name that you like, but fear. Maybe you’ve got somebody in your life that you know, I’m going to use this for a fact, is the biggest asshole in the world according to you and your interpretations. You don’t like them. You don’t want them in your life. You don’t like being around them. And let’s say their name is Bob. Well, guess what? You can name your fear generically Bob. Now, 
 
When we name things, we can identify it. And every time that feeling of fear comes, what you could say is this, and you can literally say something like this. okay. Here comes Bob again. And you know what, Bob? I don’t need this crap in my life right now. I don’t need you. I don’t need any of this in my life. I let it go and I remove you from my life. Notice what you’re doing now. You’re disassociating from the fear. 
 
And not only are you disassociating from the fear, you’re dialoguing with the fear. And when you dialogue with the fear, what you’re not even recognizing you’re doing is you’re setting your intention. And when you set your intention, that literally moves you. And you’re also using your brain because when you actually get in the habit of naming the fear, identifying it, calling it out, saying, I don’t have time for this crap. You’re not welcome. I don’t want you here. Get the hell out of my life. 
 
When you’re doing that right there, you’re conditioning the brain. When you do that habitually over and over and over again, the brain learns, okay, if I bring this person this fear, they’re going to eradicate it, eliminate it and kick it out anyway. So I’m not going to bring it to this person anymore. Now you’re managing yourself instead of the fear managing you. Very, very vital step is that you name it and then you dialogue with it and tell it to get the hell out of your life. 
 
You know, talking a bit ago about embracing it and having the courage, two biggest fears, as I said, fear of abandonment and fear of inadequacy. I’m well aware that there are many people that can do a lot of things that I can’t do. And would I be inadequate? And maybe it’s that I can’t, well, many I can’t do. I mean, I can’t do brain surgery. If you ask me to be a brain surgeon, I’m deeply or highly or whatever inadequate about being a brain surgeon. 
 
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If you ask me to run the Boston Marathon, I’m 60 years old. I haven’t run a marathon and I’d never run a marathon. run a half one many years ago, but ain’t going to happen. I’m going to be deeply inadequate compared to other people running that marathon. If you ask me, for example, to do your taxes, I’m not deeply inadequate. am like colossally, monumentally inadequate when it comes to doing your taxes. 
 
That’s why I have CPAs. I can’t even do my own stuff. So I know all these areas in life where I’m very inadequate compared to other people. What I don’t do anymore is try to play it off and act like I can figure it out or I can do it. Basically I’m like, I’m inadequate. Now here’s the thing about that. When I recognize and I don’t do it, I don’t do it in like a negative way, like, oh, poor me, I’m inadequate. It’s like, can’t do it. I mean, I guess if you want to call it inadequacy, 
 
I’m inadequate. But here’s the thing. If somebody said to me, they came up and said, Jim, you’re really inadequate at running a marathon. No shit, really. I already know that. Notice it doesn’t have any teeth. But if I’m trying to put this front up and trying to act all like, I can do this and I can do everything, when somebody calls me out, then it creates more fear in me. But when somebody calls me out and I already know I’m inadequate in that area or I’ve already faced the fear, I already know it. 
 
Big deal. Meaning whatever they’ve said to me has no teeth in it. So I just accept myself as that. It doesn’t mean that I can’t grow. It doesn’t mean that I can’t evolve. It doesn’t mean that I can’t change. But you know what? I’m going to be authentic and I’m going to authentically live in my courage. And I have the courage to be inadequate or not good enough compared to other people or whatever anywhere else in my life or everywhere in my life. Because guess what? For me, I just don’t care. 
 
We’re all different. Everyone’s living their own Dharma and I don’t care. Okay. I want to dive a little deeper into this topic for many people that have had some significant things go on in life. In particular, people that have had some kind of trauma go on and they’ve got a lot of fear around the trauma and that fear is driving their life. can be financial trauma. can be relationship trauma, whatever it might be. But I want to talk about that on the secret podcast to listen to that. 
 
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part of this podcast and the secret podcast, the part on trauma, go to jimforton.com slash app, jimforton.com slash app, and actually join my Be Do Have Insiders. Inside the Be Do Have Insiders, we talk about all of this. I do coaching in there, all that kind of stuff. But the secret podcast is in there as well. And I’m going to talk about trauma as it’s related to fear, jimforton.com slash app. Your transformational takeaway in this episode is number one, be aware. 
 
Be aware of the fear. Any negative emotion is fear-based. Number two, be authentic with it. Just recognize that you have the emotion. Number three is name it. And then number four is disassociate from it. When you name it, disassociate and give it a name and tell it with repetition, get the hell out of your life, get away. You don’t need it. You don’t have time for it. Now’s not the day for it. Whatever it might be and whatever way is comfortable for you, but basically interact with that fear. 
 
that now has an identity as if it’s somebody outside of you and you’re directing them and commanding them out of your life. When you do that, you’re using your intention. When you use your intention, you’re setting the energetic mold to create new ways of being for you. Thanks for listening and I’ll catch you over on the secret podcast or over on another episode. Bye bye.