EPISODE 68: “How Do I Manage My Anger?”
This is a powerful question I got this week and one I’m sure a majority of people are working through.
Anger is so destructive and it destroys so many lives and relationships and yet it runs through so many lives.
Anger is poison. (I know because it also used to be very prevalent in my life.)
In this episode I talk about:
And, some practical applications to alleviate or stop anger.
In my opinion, this is a vital episode for most people because anger is destructive, it causes health issues and it divides relationships.
And, for most people, it’s controlling.
No matter your level of anger and how it influences you I’m sure you’ll find value in this episode.
If there is no anger in you you cannot be angry.
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You’re listening to episode number 68 of the Transform your Life from the inside out podcast. On this episode, it is a Monday Q&A episode. And of all the questions I get this is one that I think is going to resonate with a lot of people. And the question for today’s episode is this. And this is exactly how they asked it. It’s very simple question, “How do I manage my anger? “Now the reason I picked this is because I’m sure it will resonate with a lot of you. So stay tuned.
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Anger is Externalized Helplessness
Okay, so anger. You know, in my Transformational Programs, this comes up a lot. And it’s not just men, it’s women. I think culturally, a lot of times we think that here in the US, and in the West, that men have anger issues, and etc. But really across the board, it’s men and women, and I see a lot of this in my programs. So the first question would be is what is anger? Now anger, and over the years, I’ve looked for different definitions and you know what to be transparent with you I’ve even looked at my own life with anger that I’ve had in the past. And even looked at and said, well, what’s causing that? Where is that coming from?
All right. And I’m going to talk a little about me because I’m sure a lot of you can relate to my life and anger that I used to have, which I no longer do. And I want to talk to you about actually how to move through anger. So the definition of anger is an internal response to external stimuli, or stimulus, meaning that you’re having an internal response, meaning you’re thinking something based upon something outside of yourself. Plain and simple. That is what anger is. Also, it can be a response to stress or frustration, meaning you feel like I can’t control something, I can’t make something happen. And that can also be, situations that bring on anger.
Normally, but not always, not always, normally for most of us that are pretty well balanced is that generally the degree of anger is usually proportionate to the degree, here’s the operative word – of perceived stress or frustration. Now what I mean by that is something can happen. And one person can perceive it to be a high level of stress or frustration, and therefore they have a high level of anger. And a second person can perceive it to be a low level of stress or frustration, and have a low level of anger. But yet the same external thing has happened.
Now, I’m not really going to dig into it in this episode, but all of my programs and most of this podcast for the most part, even notice the title of the podcast, Transform your Life from the inside out. It’s about internal state management. And when we get angry, we’re having the internal state anger that we’re experiencing, but it’s something externally causing it. And we’re not managing ourselves. Basically, we’re working from what I say, You’ve heard me say a bazillion times, we’re working from the outside in instead of the inside out.
Also,reasons that people get angry is generally speaking, and I’ve noticed this in my own life is that it’s a response when someone thinks that someone else is trying to hurt them, whether that other person trying to in terms of perception trying to hurt someone is either conscious or completely unconscious. Now, the reason that I give you that is because I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about human emotions. And, you’ll hear different speakers say, Oh, these are the six predominant emotions or we have to have these, all these things about emotions, and we are obviously emotional creatures. We’re also hardwired reptilian part of the brain, the oldest part of the brain. We are also hardwired for survival.
So it makes sense that all of our predominant emotions are survival related. And when you look at anger, it’s definitely definitely survival related. It’s because most people get angry about something. And we’ll talk about triggers here, just very quickly, I’m not going to go into triggers, but I’ll talk about them. But most people actually go into anger when they think they’re not getting something they want, or something they need, or their expectation about other people in some way in some context, and then people go into anger. And that’s very true. And I look at my own life when I felt like I wasn’t getting things that I wanted or deserved, or were supposed to be given to me or whatever. I would get an anger.
And if You look at your own life, most times, and also you can learn anger, I’ll go there in a moment. But most times, you’re angry, because you’re not getting something that you think that you want from someone else, or you’re not being accorded something that you think that you want. And again, I want to point out that it’s completely interpretation, expectation and subjective, because two people can have two very different interpretations and evaluations of what they think they deserve or what they want or what people are supposed to give to them.
Now people also have triggers that drive them in the anger. And I’ll give you a couple here, for example. Now one could be, this is survival based, that when a person is threatened or attacked. Now, you might notice that when you’re threatened or attacked verbally, what do you go into? What emotions do you go into? You may go into fight or flight, but that’s survival. Okay? Many times also people because angry when they are feeling powerless. Now I do want to point out that which I’m not going to go into in this episode is that people can also learn what’s called learned helplessness, which also means that we’ve come to believe that no matter what we do, we have learned that we cannot help herself. And again, that’s nothing more than psychological conditioning over time. And it’s nothing more than a thought process.
Other things other triggers that can drive people into anger. I see this one a lot is actually a whole lot is when people feel like they’re being invalidated, or they’re treated unfairly. And again, these are interpretations. And let me go here for a second about being invalidated. You ever notice when you call and I’m just making this up, but like the phone company,any major company, you ever noticed how you feel when you feel like you’re not being listened to like someone’s not hearing you? Many times what we do, and I used to do the same I do no longer do that. But what many people do is if they feel like they’re not being heard, what they want to do automatically is they want to be louder, and they want to start talking louder, because you’re not hearing me, the person on the other end of the phone. And people get into this nonsense all the time. Also, when it comes to political arguments, which are obviously every like, nine seconds here in the United States on Facebook, or Instagram or somewhere for the past few years.
But people,people want to be heard. They want to know do other people,do you validate what I’m saying? Do you hear me? And many times this is a big trigger for a lot of people as if they feel that they’re not being heard, or they’re not being validated. And something else that something else that I find interesting is that people get into anger when they feel like they’re being judged. And the interesting thing about that is, that would be like me saying, and I’ve been there before, so I get it okay. But that would be like me saying, you know what, every time a dog barks I get angry. Well, that’s what dogs do. Right? They bark.
So if that’s in the nature of a dog to bark, why would I be angry at a dog for barking? And I’vecreated episodes here one of the episodes was is I’m not who you think I am, you are who you think I am? recent episode and it’s all about people judging us. So many of you. Many of you are triggered when you feel like you’re being judged. But the interesting thing like the metaphor, the dog, dogs bark, people judge. So if people judge then what would cause us to get an anger and hold it? When this is just what people do, right? I mean, even right now you’re judging the podcast, and you guys are judging it either. Now fortunately for me, most of you are judging it positively, but you’re judging, you’re judging positively or you could say something like, some one of the comments and like I said, I promise I don’t read them. I don’t stay up at night going, Oh, my gosh, I got a new review on my podcast, I have to go see what this person’s I don’t go there. Why? Because if I did, then I would potentially be allowing my internal state to be driven by my external state or my interpretations, or whatever it is.
Let me segue there for a second also. I remember finishing the last podcast and I sent a heartfelt genuine thank you to all of you that listen, if you’ve not done it yet, and you’re getting value here and why else would you come listen, if you are not getting value? If you would, please. seriously, please leave a positive review here at iTunes, if you’re listening on iTunes, and the reason why is because that helps me reach more people. When I say that it helps me reach more people. What I mean by that is it just validates when people come and they visit or they look at reviews or whatever. And hopefully, the validation. It’s called social proof, which is the formal psychological world word. You know, it gives me more social proof and obviously, will help pull people in and listen to the podcast, so they can also transform their life.
So at this point, what I want to share with you, my observation is looking at my own life and I’ve taught persuasion and influence for a lot of years to marketing and selling professionals. And I always go with the latest brain based research, neuro research, etc. And many times people will say, you know, Jim, your contents really innovative. Now, I’m not teaching right now, I’ve been doing only transformation for the past three years, which I’ve done for a lot of years, but I’m doing only transformational work right now because it really lights me up.
But people would say things like, you know, Jim, that’s a really innovative strategy, strategy you came up with, where did that come from? And it’s really pretty simple. I just watched myself, because we’re all we all have the same kind of brain. We have different programming in the brain. But we all have the same brain, we all have the reptilian brain, the mammalian brain, the prefrontal cortex, etc. And when I look at myself, what I look in the world and I just see you as reflection of me and me as a reflection of you and what I’ve been conditioned to do, in some ways, if you’ve been conditioned in the same way you do the same things.
So my observation, looking at my life, is that I used to get into anger, when I was not getting something that I thought that I deserved, or something that I thought should be accorded to me or use whatever word that you want, but that’s the gist of it if I wasn’t getting something, and I’m going to tell you right now, if you look at your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, I don’t know maybe you have both a husband and wife and I don’t know. I don’t know how you live your life. But if you look at when you get angry for the most part, many times, it’s because you’re not getting what you think that you want. And then your automatic response which is unconscious is to go into anger.
You know, I don’t know where you are in the process with me in terms of, here and listening to the podcast. If you’re new, I do recommend not because I recommend it, but because I hear it a lot from a lot of people. Go back to episode number one and just start the entire series and go there. But for the rest of you that have been with me for a while, you’ve heard me talk about my brother in law, the Shaman which I talked about on pretty much every single podcast because he has brought me decades of transformational growth, personal evolvement, energetic involvement, which by the way, one of the podcast episodes coming up, which I love and I’m excited for is about being which you might have heard me say before is we’re not spiritual beings. We’re not human beings. We’re predominantly cosmic beings. And I’ll tackle that. I think it’s a next episode, by the way.
I remember one day I’ve shared this in the podcast before, is that he was sharing with me, he was talking to me. And he said to me, he calls me, Jimmy. And he goes,your biggest limitation is your expectations. And you have all these expectations, which are also stories of the world. And I remember where I was, this was so like a two by four to the head. I lived in New York City. This was 22-23 years ago, and he said, your biggest limitation is your expectations. And then he said, when people don’t do what you want, or expect from them, or what you think they should do, then you get into your anger. And then it goes, you know what, you’re irritated. You’re blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and you get into all this mental nonsense when the world doesn’t do it. Don’t do what you think they should do. And I’m not that person today. And I share that with you because it probably pertains to a lot of you.
So quite seriously, when you look at what triggers the anger, it’s probably because you’re not getting something or people are not doing what you think and your model of reality. You think what they should be, you know, should be doing. Okay, I’m gonna keep on going here. But I want to give you a really quick little, a little hack here, an anchor hack, is that when your partner, your wife, your boyfriend, your kids, when someone’s actually angry with you, most likely the reason that they’re angry is obviously the stories and the expectations are having of you. But generally, it’s because you’re not getting something from you. And if you want to diffuse the anger very quickly, you can ask somebody this very simple question. And the question is this. Are you ready? The question is, what is it that you want from me? What is it that you want for me?
And let’s look at this look at your own life, as I just said. And I’ve said a few times, generally when you’re in anger, it’s because you’re not being heard. You’re not getting something, somebody’s not meeting your stories, not meeting your expectations. But notice that you’re wanting something. And then notice also when you get that something satiated, the anger goes away. Also, I want to point out is we learn what anger is and how to be angry.
So, to give you an example, I tell people that happiness for babies happiness is a factory setting. I mean, babies are born happy. You see babies that are not happy when you know they’re crying when they want to be held. They want love, they want food or they want their diaper changed. Otherwise babies are always you know, smiling. And you don’t see babies if you look at a one year old toddler. Now, okay, I’m going to get myself on a little trouble here because People,I was going to make a little joke here and say, well, you don’t see babies saying, Mom, what are you talking about her dad, I don’t want string peas, I want carrots for dinner. And I was gonna laugh there because your kid,your kid could dump the food upside down on their head thrown on the floor, whatever. But generally, you don’t see babies getting angry because the world is not meeting their expectations, at least at that at that age. But what I want to share with you is you’ve learned to be angry to whatever degree that you have it or hold it by watching your parents.
One of my friends, I’m just gonna leave it at that. One of my friends is angry with his mother to a certain degree, because he’s in his 30s now and he’s angry as are his siblings, because they don’t think they got from their mother what they should have gotten from air quote, a traditional mother, and they’re angry many years later. So again, that just reinforces what I’m sharing with you but we learn by watching our parents. So maybe for example that you’ve been brought up, maybe your mom or your dad would go into bouts of rage, which is anger on steroids that go into bouts of rage. And you learned at a very early age, hey, it’s okay. That’s how we respond to the world and this family, when something when I don’t get what I want, then I go into a bout of rage or anger, I throw something and guess what, that’s how I get what I what I want.
Now, me personally, my parents and there’s it for all people, there is a level of, or not a level of self awareness and a lot of people but there’s a difference between who we think that we are, and who we actually are. A disparity between these two things, these two,views of ourselves, or this view of who we are who other people think that we are. And my parents, I think they thought as a kid that they were, I think they thought that they were parents that gave their kids a lot of latitude and a lot of autonomy, but the reverse is true. I remember that my brother and sister and I, we were controlled very much as kids.
Now, what my parents thrived on, is my parents thrived on hearing. And this is back in the 70s. I mean, I’m 54 now and when they would take us to dinner on Friday night or something, or whateverthe Saturday or whatever, my parents, I tell you, I look back now 45 years ago, 46-47 years ago, and my parents would thrive, and I mean, thrive. When people would say, Oh, my gosh, you have the most well behaved kids. Your kids are amazing. Other kids come in here and they’re crying and throwing things, but your kids know your kids are amazing. Well, my parents turned us into robots. I mean, literally as kids. We were expected to set up and not put our elbows on the table. And I think that part of being a kid was taken away from us, but but where I want to go hear is that autonomy.
Autonomy was taken away from us as well as authority. My parents would also like many times, say, well, it’s I’m gonna let it be your choice. And I think my parents thought that if they gave us choice, we would learn to choose his children. But the caveat was my parents would say, Okay, I’m going to let you choose. But you can only choose from what I’m putting in front of you right now. You can only choose a, b and c, but you cannot choose d, e and f. So as a kid, I had and I just knew it at some level, but I had a lot of autonomy and authority taken away from me.
Now more about me because I know this pertains to a lot of you why because we’re all the same. As for many years, I grew up with low grade anger. Now what I mean by that is, I was not the explosive angry person. No one that knows me in 25 years can tell me they’ve ever seen me yell at anyone. That’s not my way. It’s not what I do. I did well, the last time I remember yelling at anybody was in college. And that’s a funny story. I’m not going to go into now on the podcast. But I had this low grade anger at the world. And I recognize many years ago that the anger was actually what it was. What was being caused by was a feeling of which I’m in a different place in my life now. But it was caused by not feeling like I had control in the world. Which by the way, I’m going to go a whole different direction very quickly is control is an illusion. I think I’ve been shot an episode not shot but recorded an episode on it is that control is an illusion. And I’ll share something else with you. For all of you listening when you get into control. Because control is an illusion, you’re actually controlled by the illusion of control. Consider that control is an illusion. And when you get into the issue of control, you are controlled by the illusion of control.
So, I think my low grade anger came from for many years, which again, I’m operating at a completely different level in this life. But I want to say in my teens and my 20 yeah in my 20s, is that I never felt like I could control anything. And that would put me in the anger. And I learned that because I never had any control as a kid. We learn from watching explosive parents or, or we learn by watching how our parents respond to the world at a very early age. And then however they respond is actually how we learn to respond. The reverse could be is that a person does not communicate. And then when the person doesn’t communicate, they get into anger because they feel like they’re not being heard. And because they don’t communicate, they’re not being heard and then that causes the anger.
So anyway, just want to point out however you actually get an anger at this point in your life is because you have learned to do that at a very early age. I’m going to make a general statement here. And it’s very general. This is not scientific. I do not do hypnosis anymore. I was a hypnotherapist for many years. But it’s been 20, I guess, 20 years or so. But what I noticed also, and there’s research around this, but what I noticed empirically, is that the people that were the most unhealthy and had the most ailments in the body. Were also the people that had the most counterproductive emotions, and especially anger. Anger is an extremely unhealthy emotion when it’s held. It can be a defense mechanism, but many people hold anger for a lot of years.
Now, when I started, I said that anger is a byproduct of stress, meaning something’s not happening. We can’t control which, you know, causes stress. I didn’t go just look up. This is just from memory. I didn’t I didn’t go look it up right before the podcast. But there are significant health consequences to living your life full of stress. And research is demonstrated if it’s not 90% I know it’s 85% of all illness is stress related. So think about that and think about what your anger is actually doing to you. not going to go too far here but but for example, anger, when you’re in anger, you’re affecting the endocrine system in the body. And it’s quite literally to give you a metaphor here, it’s like just a slow IV drip. It’s like anger drip, drip, drip, drip, drip, and you’re creating these not healthy emotions in the body which affect the chemical composition of the body because your endocrine system talks to your body and your body actually is is alive and your all your cells talk. And when you live in all this anger, literally, it’s like you cocooned and enveloped yourself, and just anger bath. And that is not healthy.
Okay. So the question was is how that let me go somewhere differently here and then I’m going to give you some practical solutions here. As somebody said, How do I manage my anger? That was the exact question how do I manage my anger? Okay. The Buddha said, if there is no anger in you, you cannot be angry. So, where I work from at this point of my life is to be anger free. Because remember I said anger is created by your stories and your expectations of what you think other people owe you or you deserve or you’re not getting or should beginning or etc. And if you’ve listened for any time to this podcast, you know, I’ve interviewed people, so some of my students, and they talk about the power of stories.
So if you’re having trouble with anger right now what I want you to look at is, what am I stories about anger? What am I interpretations about anger? What meanings am I giving things that create and proceed the anger? So I’d love to say, and I say this working with a shaman for many years because I have never seen him. I was just with with him for two weeks on family vacation. I have never, and I mean never in 25 years, ever, ever, ever seen him be in anger. I have only seen him be happy and loving and kind and jovial and joyful and supportive, but not once have I seen anything not even to 1% degree, akin to anger and being a shaman. I was also mentored for some time, alongside him with the shaman who was his mentor. And his shaman once said to me, and there are other more formal names for it. But I use this just for cultural vernacular. So you can understand when I say his shaman and stuff, I mean, there are other words that I use in my personal life with it. But his shaman told him, and he told me, he told me, no person is worth my anger.
Consider that, no person is worth my anger. So what a lot of people do is they get into all these stories. And I’ve been there, as I said, all these stories and these interpretations about what they’re supposed to get and how they’re supposed to be validated, and how they’re, not supposed to be judged, and especially how other people are supposed to be in the world, including kids, if you’re a parent, because parents actually, many times are triggered by their kids and they go into a lot of anger. And what they’re actually doing is teaching kids hey, hey, hey kids, here’s a here’s how to watch mommy and daddy have anger. And we’re going to teach you to live your life the same way and have anger like we do, because we’re triggered by you guys and toys all over the house and the chocolate milk that’s been spilled and everything else. But imagine this, if there were no anger in you, the things that people do and the expectations and the stories and all these triggers, they wouldn’t effectively work because there’s no anger in you.
I also want to point out that anger never solves anything. And that hit me like a hammer one time I was talking to a really good friend of mine a very close well i’m going to share with you just the general details. He and his wife and the this I could shoot a whole episode on this as well. I’m not going to or just want to say shoot I should a lot of video to I could create an entire episode on this and I probably will at some point. But he said to me, he goes you know what he goes my wife and I we have no sex life. That there can be many reasons for that I mean, she could be and it’s very real, she could be asexual. There are people that are just non sexual people.
And he and I were talking one time. We talked about a prior for some time. And he said, you know what he goes, my wife actually just runs around with her family and act like we have the best relationship in the world. We have no intimacy, physically. And he said, You know what? He said, I used to get into a lot of anger about it. And then he said, one day, this is what he said, and I’m like, wow, that’s very powerful. He said, anger solves nothing. So consider that, anger solves nothing. And then I go back to what I told you earlier about no person is worth your anger.
Now, I want to share also that you know what, this could be something you could adopt very quickly. Most people make change very hard. Most people when they change, they think, oh, I’ve got to make it this arduous and long process. And the truth is this. You can change anything.in your life very, very quickly. I think it’s episode number five where I talk about habits. Well, anger is also a habit.
People don’t think about it that way they think of habits like drinking Diet Coke or biting their fingernails or, different behavioral habits or gambling or whatever, but thought and thought that we have over and over and over. So for example, if the same things trigger you, well, guess what, that’s a habit. Anger is a habit. And then many times we might even be in the habit of anger, not even knowing that we are in the habit of anger. So when I worked from in my life, and then I’m going to give you a little practical, some steps here, but where I work from in my life, and this has been right at the forefront of my life the last few years.
And I think it’s the Dalai Lama who said this, he said, and this is powerful, and this is this could be, you know, some lifetime work for some people. But he said, let nothing… What did he say? He said, Let Well, I’m going to paraphrase, “let nothing anyone does take your internal peace.” Think about that. Let nothing anyone does take your internal peace. And you probably heard me talk about here the most powerful place that we can be as a being the most powerful place that we can be is in mental well being. When you are a mental well being you are then a high functioning being on the planet.
Okay, so let’s look at some practical things here before we wrap up this episode. Okay, so here’s things that I would suggest these are practical application things. Number one is if you’re getting into anger, look at your expectations of others. Now, as I said, I alluded to earlier, you might have kids, what are your expectations of kids? Are your expectations realistic for kids? I mean, kids and children are going to do what kids and children are going to do and are your expectations that kids should not do that? So number one, is look at your expectations of others, including if you’re triggered by your children, your expectations of your children.
Number two, and I’m sure you can find some book on Amazon on this is CBT. Yeah, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. With cognitive behavioral therapy, it’s not like talk therapy like you would go to psychoanalysis or any of that. It’s quite literally cognitive processes to intervene with irrational behavior. Basically, it’s a rational way to manage irrational behavior. And by the way, anger is unconscious and irrational. I mean, no one ever says, You know what, hmm, you know, it’s like 12:31pm and I’ve got nothing better to do right now. So I think I’m going to actually, you know, get into a little bit of rage and a little bit of anger right now. No, it doesn’t happen that way. It’s completely unconscious and irrational and CBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can help with that.
Next is problem solving. Most of us are not effective problem solvers. As a matter of fact, and I say this and it probably doesn’t apply to, I would say, a significant percentage of people listen to my podcast. But I’m going to tell you what is in short supply in the world. And that is critical thinking skills. And then you’re going to hear me say different things, which is more I don’t like this word, but I’m going to use more evolved ways of being is not thinking at all shutting down the left brain, and working from sense and higher consciousness. But for the most part, and that’s 3d analytical world that we live in critical thinking, critical thinking skills are in short supply. But learning problem solving skills is another way because if you’ve always got problems, guess what, for those of you that’s all interpretations and stories anyway, but you’ve always got problems you haven’t learned problem solving skills. And when people always have problems that generally throws them into anger, frustration and stress as well.
The number four this is a big one. And this used to apply to me, is learning how to effectively communicate. As a kid, I was not allowed. I grew up a small town, Texas farm boy outside of the bazillion times. In my household, it was demanded that I respect my parents. Now, the things that I hear today are shocking to me. Because if I used some of the language I hear kids talking to their parents with today, I literally would have been grounded until forever. I mean, when I was in high school, I told my mother and some of you’re going to fall out of your chair when you hear this. Well, I told my mother one time. Are you ready? I just said shut up, is what I told my mom. And I got grounded for two weeks for telling my mother to shut up. I mean, that is banal, banal not ban-al but banal meaning there’s just it’s plain and simple. Compared to what kids say to their parents. Some kids say to their parents now. But what I learned out of that is that I wasn’t allowed to have a voice. I wasn’t allowed to communicate my thoughts and my feelings. So that created a lot of anger in me as well. And I carried it into my adult life. So look at your own life.
Can you communicate your feelings openly and if you can’t, that may be causing anger for you as well. So some for practical things. We looked at it looking at your stories and expectations CBT cognitive behavioral therapy, problem solving and communication. A couple of more things here is self hypnosis, which I think it was the last episode where I had mentioned, the hypnosisdownloads.com and I’d mentioned the Learn Instant Self Hypnosis. That’s one way because I guarantee you when you’re in self hypnosis, you are not angry. Why? Because it just, you’re you’ve taken your analytical mind offline. But secondly, breathing and breathing down the anger breathing through it. There’s a technique that already called the 7-11 breathing technique. It’s also over at hypnosis downloads, and you can actually we’ll put a link here in the show notes. 7-11 breathing technique. Basically you breathe in seven, exhale 11. Breathe and seven, exhale 11. By the time you’ve taken a half a dozen breaths like that you’re already in brainwave state called theta, which means you’re deeply relaxed, but you can breathe down the anger and breathe through it as well.
Alright, so as Zen or shamanism, or, or nebulous as this might be, your transformational takeaway is this week is this. If there is no anger in you, you cannot be angry. If there is no anger in you, you cannot be angry. Okay, the next episode I’m really looking forward to, man it was a life lesson for me and I I’m guaranteeing you every single person that listens to this podcast, please, please listen to the next episode and share it with people that you know, because it can help a lot of people. All I’m going to tell you right now the title of the next episode, and when you listen to it, I guarantee you’re going to find it to be true. The title of the next episode is, this is your greatest cause of suffering. This is your greatest cause of suffering. So make sure that you actually catch the podcast in a couple of days. And if you would, again, please share with your friends because it will help a lot of people. Okay, thanks for listening, and I’ll catch you over on the next episode. Bye bye.
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