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You are listening to the Transform Your Life from the Inside Out Podcast. This episode is titled, Pretend Your Life Is Made Up. You know, when you think about that, such a banal statement, I mean, come on, we're not 10 years old. Pretend your life is made up right? Well, the reality is your life the things you create, all these things, your fears, they are made up and you are the one that makes it all up you're the creator. In this episode, I'm going to talk about obviously this topic, and I'm going to give you a short process that I have used for many years and just being a 100% transparent these little bitty steps have made a huge difference in my life. I don't even know why I said being transparent. There's nothing transparent about it, but I guess just being forthright or honest or direct or whatever you want to call it. But these steps, these little simple mental steps have made a difference in my life and I don't really get into fear whatsoever anymore. Literally, no matter what's going on in the world or anything else, I don't get into fear, and that's because of what I'm gonna share with you in this episode. And what I'm gonna share, you can start using right after you listen. Keep listening.

Hi, I'm Jim Fortin, and you're about to start Transforming your Life from the Inside Out with this podcast. I'm widely considered the leader in Subconscious Transformation. And I've coached super achievers all around the world for over 25 years. Here, you're going to find no rah rah motivation, and no hype. Because this podcast is a combination of Brain Science, Transformational Psychology, and Ancient Wisdom, all rolled into one to take your life to levels, you've never thought possible. If you're wanting a lot more in life, to feel better, to heal, to have peace of mind, to feel powerful and alive, and to bring more abundance and prosperity into your life and this podcast is for you. Because you're going to start learning how to master your mind and evolve your consciousness. And when you do that, anything you want, then becomes possible for you I'm glad you're here.

Okay, so this episode is titled, Pretend Your Life is Made Up. Couple of statements think about what scares you, think about what makes you happy, what does scare you? Do you have a list? You have a laundry list. What does make you happy? You know, you could probably list four or five things, maybe a hundred things. I don't know. It's different for each and every one of us. As I said in the opening, this episode can be so simple and you know, banal and ridiculous that you could be tempted to like, Jim, I get it. I don't need to hear this. I understand that. But the question is, if you truly understood it or know it, what I'm going to share, meaning your life is made up, and if it was so banal and so simple, and so ridiculous then how come you allow yourself to get into the fear and the worry, and I don't mean the brain-based anxiety, but the fearful anxiety. So until you can actually eliminate the fear and the anxiety and the worry from your life, you might understand, but you don't know what I'm talking about in this episode.

And when you come to know it your life's gonna become so much easier. So let's go back to what makes you happy. Question number one. It's a simple question, what scares you? Now as you think about that, two people can look at the very same experience and have very different interpretations about it. So when we go to what makes you happy I could put you in a circumstance that, you know what, let's say, and I've mentioned before as a crazy little example, let's say that you loved liver and onions, so I put liver and onions in front of you. Yum you love it, but me trust me, that ain't gonna make me happy because I don't think I like from my past experiences and notice that what I said past experiences, I'll talk more about that later, but I don't like it. I don't want to eat liver and onions. So two people could be eating liver and onions. And they're having two very different experiences of eating liver and onions.

What about what scares you? You know,, it doesn't scare me. I ask a friend, I've never done it before, and I ask a friend of mine if they wanted to go skydiving with me, and their exact answer to me was, hell no. Why the hell what? I want to jump out of a perfectly good air. So what exhilarated me scared them even though it's the same thing. So the same thing was happening to both of us had we jumped out of an airplane, but yet we had very different, actually diametrically opposed, almost different ideas about the experience. Now as simple as it is, my friend made up his interpretations about the experience. I made up my interpretations about, well, had we had the experience, I made up the interpretations. What I want you to notice here, and I'm talking really slowly, just take your time with this. Each of us, we are the creator of our own experience again. I said earlier, this can be al so simple, so ridiculously simple, that we dismiss it. Each of us is the creator of our own experience, and that applies to everything in your life you're the creator. Take some time with that. I know how easy it is. I'm gonna be, I'm just gonna share something, a little bit of a confession here.

Do you know that with the billions of podcasts in the world, I don't think I've listened to a single podcast episode ever in the history of podcast, I just, I'm not a podcast listener, thankfully, that you know, you are, and millions, if not, you know, maybe a billion people are podcast listeners. And my podcast has not billions, millions of downloads, and I'm very grateful for that. But for me, I'm predominantly visual and I'd rather watch something than listen to something anyway. All of us, you know, I said it, it could be very banal and very, this, you know, you can dismiss it, but the truth is you're the creator. You're the creator of all the fear. all the worry, all the socially based anxiety, and I don't mean the brain-based anxiety that's been conditioned, conditioned into the brain and then perpetuated, but I mean, just anxiety for example, you could look at your checking account and that creates anxiety, or you could have a hot date in the first date and that creates anxiety. You could be, you know, doing anything that might in some way take you out of your comfort zone that creates anxiety, but, you are the creator of it, and that's powerful when you really come to know that at a deep level, which I'll talk about in just a minute.

So when I talk about you being the creator, what a lot of people do. And I'm not tossing stones because I think at some point in my past I was there, and this is also self-image psychology, but a lot of people will say, yeah, Jim, yeah, but you don't understand my family growing up circumstances. My dad, that's the way and you know, that's the way that I am. And I am like I am because of those circumstances. That's not true. You are you because of your interpretations about those circumstances. You know what I wanna share with you is other people have grown up with your circumstances better, worse, but you know what? They have their own interpretations about those circumstances. I remember interviewing a guy many years ago. I do not recall his last name actually. Yes, I do. It just came back to me. Thank you subconscious mind his name is Clayton Moss and he was on Oprah. I saw him on Oprah, I don't know, maybe 15 years ago. I reached out. I, I interviewed him and Oprah said with, I mean, these were her exact words. It's the worst case of child abuse I have ever seen. Those are her exact words about Clayton and you know, Oprah's seen a lot, I would suppose. I guess I speculate she has seen a lot having something like 25,000 guests on her show and she said it was the worst case of child abuse she's ever seen. When I talked to Clayton, and I can read body language pretty well and voice inflection and how a voice changes and tone and timber. These, these things are pretty adept at understanding and reading.

I can read subconscious language mainly because I was a hypnotist for many years and I've been trained to watch with high sensory acuity watching the subtleness, uh, the subtleness of, of tone and voice and change and shifting in everything else in people. And I have to say. when Oprah said the worst case of child abuse I've ever seen, but yet Clayton was like the most amazing, enjoyable person that I had talked to in a long time. I was beyond impressed. I mean, I was blown away at his approach to life, his attitude, I. You may be able to find his story now on YouTube. I don't know. I don't know. I know he's off the radar because I wanted to interview him again for the podcast, but his parents used to wrap him in chicken wire, leave him in a coat closet, and if he cried or screamed, they would open his mouth and they would pour dish soap into his mouth.

I mean, it was beyond horrific. In the way this boy was treated. But you know what, when I talked to him, he wasn't this bitter, angry, vile, resentful kind of guy. I mean, he was the most jovial, inviting. He had this, he had this very pleasing presence about him. Now, I would wish that on, no. But had someone else gone through that experience or a thousand other people, what do you think their interpretations of that experience might be? Because you are the creator of your interpretations. So where I want to go from here is that you make up your life, not me, not Ronald Reagan. Not Donald Trump. Not Joe Biden, not Putin. No one you make up your life. But here's something that a lot of us do. So, we talk about Clayton just a couple of minutes ago. So, what Clayton could have done is he could have actually.

He could have shared his experience and his views about life based upon his past history, what happened to him as a child. He did not do that. What most of us do is, and people will ask me all the time, Jim, how come I keep repeating my same patterns over and over and over again? Well, your patterns are habits, and your habits are brain-based and, and what's brain-based is unconscious. It happens on, you know, brain autopilot. So that's one reason, but our thoughts also, they can become habitual. But here's what we do. Most of us live our lives right now in the moment. From our past, meaning what happened to us, what we learned about ourself, what people said to us. And we live today from 10, 20, 30, 40 years ago when all we have is and all, you know, we're in the now, the right now, but many of us live from our past and many of us. Remember I said a couple of times, we are the creators of our life. You create a brand new life each and every day. But what many of us do is we create today from yesterday and yesterday from the day before and this year, from the year before. And we recreate and recreate and recreate in the now from our past but you know what, we're the ones creating it. And then what a lot of us do is we create what we do not think that we want. And I have been here before, trust me. We bitch about what we create. We're upset about what we create.

You know, it takes me back to that old story. I'm sure I've told it here on the podcast before. There are two guys. They were construction workers and they were working on a building and Bill opens up his lunchbox and he is like, damn, peanut butter and jelly again. His friend hears it and they go on about their day and have their lunch, and the next day Bill opens up his lunchbox and he goes, damnit another peanut butter and jelly sandwich again. They go about their day. The next day Bill opens up his lunchbox and he goes, damn it another peanut butter and jelly sandwich. and his friend goes, for heaven sakes, Bill, why don't you ask your wife to make you something else? And Bill said, I don't have a wife I'm not married I make my sandwiches myself. Well, you make your sandwiches yourself. You create your life yourself. I'm not the one, you're the one. So, here's what many of us do. We want to create something new today. The reason you're listening to the podcast is because you want to create something new. You want a better different experience of life. So what many of us do is we'll ask ourselves, okay, I want to create something new in life and then we ask, okay, but what can I have and what can I create?

And in that moment, that is a failure point for a lot of us because what we do is we go back into our past to tell us what we can create. When truthfully, you are an extraordinarily powerful being simply by the fact of being conscious and having the ability to think you can create. You can choose to create. You can choose to think about anything you want. Yet what most of us do is we operate from the past and we create from our past. So we don't manifest our lives from now. Because see, you're manifesting 24/7 all day long. You're manifesting, but we don't manifest from now for the most part. We manifest not even knowing we're doing it from 10 years ago. We make our decisions today from 10 years ago, like to liver and onions. You know, when I talk about liver and onions, I don't know when, but I think I know when I decided I didn't like liver and onions and I remember, oh gosh, back in 1971, 1972 thereabouts. Maybe 1970. I was born in 1965. My dad would come home from work and my mom would have lunch for him, and he loved liver and onions, and I do recall my father making me eat liver and onions and I don't, I mean, I don't know this consciously, but I don't have a conscious . I don't have a conscious memory of ever eating, you know, liver and onions Again, after that time in 1970, 1971, whatever it was.

I think in that moment, what I had consciously decided is I ain't gonna do it. I don't like it and I'm not going to eat it because I was that kind of kid. Also, I did what I want and I got, I got in way hell of a lot of trouble for it as a kid, and some people would call that stubborn, but that was me as a kid. So even today, being 58 years old, I probably have not had liver and onions and 53 years and unless I had to, and I wouldn't know what case set would. I ain't doing it. I am not gonna do it. No way. No hell. But notice right now, I'm making that decision from some point in my past. So even though we don't even really recognize, we're recognize that we're manifesting each and every moment. Often we're doing it from the past and this is why we repeat the past on autopilot. I want to go a little bit different direction here, and I want to talk about a buzzword. It's become big on social media in the last few years. It's a word that I hear a lot of, and the word is trauma. Now that being said, people will say, you know what trauma is stored in the nervous system. You know, there is trauma, there are things that happen. PTSD is very real I get that. I respect that. I understand that. You know, traumatic life events can be very traumatic, but what I see a lot of people doing, talking about the past, I see a lot of people when I see a lot of people, I coach a lot of people each and every year.

I see a lot of people identifying with the trauma and it goes something like this, I am a person who has or had trauma, therefore that means blank about me. Then what they do is they wallow, so to speak. They relish, they live the identity of a person having trauma and they carry that identity for years of the person having trauma. Now, where I'm going here is working with my brother-in-law, Don Xavier for decades. Not one time I am not exaggerating. Not one time in 30 years, 12, 27 years have I ever heard him talk about trauma, because what I watch him do is go through something, process and move on. But a lot of us identify with what we're going through and then we make that our identity and we stay there. And because we're creators, we keep re recreating that over and over and over and over again. You know, to give you an example, an old college friend of mine, Went through the Transformational Coaching Program that I have a couple of years ago. I hadn't talked to her since college. She found me online, saw me online, saw an ad or something, and she asked me to be on her podcast and I did. And we were talking before we started recording and she goes, Jim, you helped me so much. She goes, I for many years, identified and I thought that's who I was. I identified as a breast cancer survivor, and a lot of my reality and identity was around being a breast cancer survivor. Now, what I see a lot of people do is they attach to the identity, which is something in their past, and then they carry it forward, or that puts 'em in the fear in anxiety.

What I mean by that is I've seen people actually heal from having cancer or whatever ailment or malady or sickness or whatever, and then they say, I hope it doesn't come back. I hope it doesn't come back. I hope it doesn't come back in that moment. They're creating in the now from their past. The whole takeaway here, please, the whole concept you want to come to know aside from everything else I've said, you are the creator of your life. So this podcast I talk about pretending, pretend your life is made up. Well, you know what? It is made up. So, you're the one making it up. And I'll talk more about that in just a minute because I'm gonna give you a process to go through. It's a very short. But let me concretize this for you a little more. For many years, probably 15 years, I taught subconscious persuasion and the influence to selling professionals. I have many times coached and trained some of the highest performing selling professionals in the United States.

In interacting with the amount of sales professionals that I have into the hundreds of thousands, if not even more than that over the years here's a behavior that I see. Let's say that someone makes a hundred thousand dollars per year in sales for the most part. Out of a hundred percent, there might be 3% that are an exception to this rule, but let's say someone makes a hundred grand a year. I might have seen a handful of people over the decades cover from a hundred thousand to $275,000 to $400,000 the very next year generally, what I see is this imagine this is a graph, so they make a hundred thousand This. Then they make $125,000 next year, and the graph goes up. Then they make 117,000 the year after, and the graph comes down. Then they make $133,000 and the graph goes up. So, notice this, they're always working. I've talked a lot about self-image in the episodes. They're always working from the past, and the past is creating their current right now self-image, and they're creating their life. Creator, creator, creator. They're creating their life from their past now, where they're, where they're not working from what do I want now? What can I create right now in this moment?

And if you could set yourself, and if you did set yourself free from your past, what would you create right now without the encumbrance of your past pulling you backwards? So what I want to do in this episode is just for now, forget your past. Forget what you think you think about yourself. Forget who did what, forget what you think about yourself. Forget what job you got turned down for. Forget what business loss you had. Forget everything, and let's create from today from now. What I wanna share with you is a little process I mentioned a little earlier and you know, obviously I'm on the planet too. I am not immune from all the human experience. I really wish, seriously. I wish you could see into my brain because it's so easy for people to lie on podcasts and they could tell you make it and all that other shit that a lot of people do. I tell you the truth, as best as I know. , and again, I don't know how long you've been listening, but I've been through a lot in the last couple of years, meaning in 2020, having heart failure and a stroke in the very same year. Not only that, I moved half a continent away. I moved from Texas to Arizona. I had covid twice I run a business. My home that I was supposed to be moving into wasn't done. I was living at a rental. I mean, I've had all these things happening in one year. They say that moving is one of the most stressful things you can do in your life. Not only did I move, I had a stroke and heart failure the very same year.

I mean, talk about a double, triple, quadruple whammy. But you know what? That's all in the past. None of that exists anymore. But I wanna share with you how I got through that, because how I got through it, and actually I had the physical challenges. I had to rehabilitate my body and I had to get back to feeling well again and feeling healthy again. But I wanna share with you how I manage myself mentally, because how I manage myself mentally was actually how I created the great health that I have today, because I did a whole lot of pretending, which again is the title of this episode. I did a whole lot of pretending. So let me explain what I mean by that, and I want to share with you the exact things that I said. So, what I'm going to do first is I'm going to share with you. The few steps that I went through mentally, this self-talk and that I'm going to come back and I'm going to explain this self-talk to you. Okay?

All right. Here's the first thing that I said when I, when negativity, when fear would come up and when I said, I wish you could look into my brain. Fear doesn't come up for me anymore. I mean, I might have like a little bit of, a little bit of a teeny, bit of a twin every so often. Like, well, shit, what am I gonna do here? But overall, it just doesn't faze me. As a matter of fact, someone said to me today, Jim, it, it, it amazes me. You manage yourself so well you don't get. X, Y, Z that a lot of people get into. Well, over a time, I've conditioned myself with what I'm gonna share with you right now. So basically, I'm telling you my secrets. I'm telling you what's helped me it's really simple. You just gotta do the work, meaning you just gotta do what I share with you. This can change your life. All right? So, let's say some fear creeps up, let's say some anxiety about a bill or moving, or maybe you're losing your job or somebody's sick in your family, whatever. Let's say some anxiety creeps up, so fear, anxiety, and worry. So that creates a negative feeling in us. Now, if we hold on to the negative feeling, we manifest more of that.

Why? Because we don't manifest by what we think. We manifest by how we feel. So, here's what I crafted several years ago, verbatim. Write it down and if you're in in traffic or something, or you're driving, please listen to this again later and write it down. Here we go okay this negative emotion. Done anymore, but it did. Here's what I would say. These emotions, they are my creation. That's the first thing I'd say. Second thing I would say is they are not real. I made them all up in my mind. Third thing that I would say is because I created this in my consciousness I can uncreate this through the power of my consciousness. Fourth thing that I would say, I reclaim my power from this creation of my consciousness. Okay, those are the four things that I would say. Let me walk you through that first one. These emotions, they are my creation. Okay these creations, the negativity, they rob you, they steal from you because fear, I know you've been in it before. Fear is heavy it weighs you down emotionally. So, here's the key right here. When you feel the negativity or the anxiety or the fear, Here's the pivot right here. Tell the truth about it because see, many times when we feel that what we're thinking is it's real shit. I got this notice from the bank. I'm overdrawn. I might lose my job. It's very real, but you're the one who created it.

So, here's telling the truth about it. The truth is this. I, I created it because see, when you tell the truth about it and you own and you're responsible for you being the one that has created it in that moment, that gives you leverage and freedom over the creation of the fear that you're the one who created. Now, in fairness to you, it took me a while to learn this one. Many times that will give us some temporary relief and then our brain will pop back into the old fear. So, what's vital here is that you learn this process, ah, and you repeat it over. And over and over again as a method to recondition your brain, recondition your thinking. The third one, they are not real. I made them all up in my mind. Now, that's what the episode is about, is about pretending. Because see, you made all of this up in your mind, all the negative things you have made up in your mind, and then what you do, you pretend it's true. It's not true it's made in your mind. That's why I title the episode what I did. So, all this negative shit happens. You think it's real, it's not real, but you pretend like it's real, and you know what? You're the one who made it up in your mind. Therefore, if you made it up, you can unmake it. And if you can pretend that it's real, you can pretend that it's not real.

What you're doing is you're looking at the circumstance that you created and you're making it more real. By hopping off the high diving board into the bad circumstance and just swimming around and doing the backpedal in it when you don't have to stay there because you're the one who created it. So that was step number two they are not real meaning and negativity. They are not real. It's all made up in your, made up in the mind. Go back to earlier in the episode when I said the same experience, two different people experiencing, they are making up different things in their mind and they're pretending that it's true. Number three, because I created this with my consciousness, I can uncreate it. Let me change the words, because I created this fear with my mind. I can uncreate it with my mind. That's a truism. And then the fourth one here is this. I reclaim my power from this creation of my consciousness. Let's change the word I reclaim my power from this creation of my mind. I do this in a very simple way. Step number four, I reclaim my power, and this is how I do it. I say to myself, I am pure consciousness being as such. I can create, I can uncreate. I've created all of this fear, and I now choose to uncreate the fear.

There's a lot of things I could say at this point. I don't want to do that right yet. Maybe on a future episode, because what you might be wondering, what you're probably wondering is, well, okay, when I uncreate it, what do I uncreate it too? Meaning I have the fear. I recognize that I'm the one who created it, but what do I uncreate it too? Let me give you a very simple answer. The answer is this. Well, simplicity. You can recreate it to anything you want. But what I noticed in my own experience, and I do ask you try this out for yourself, when I recognized the sheer simplicity that I was the one creating the fear, and because I was the one creating it with my mind and my consciousness, I could uncreate it with my mind and consciousness in that moment when I came to truly know that at a deep level. I'm not kidding. I automatically stopped creating the fear because where I went in my own mind, okay, if I created it and I can uncreate it and I don't like it when I create it, what the hell's the point of even creating it anymore when I know that I'm the one who created it in the first place?

That realization, right there was the linchpin, touchstone, whatever you want to call it. That realization right there, and the realization was this, in simplicity, the realization is, Jim, I am the creator. That right there has stopped my fear and negativity. I don't know if it'll do it for you, but you know what? I have a pretty good feeling that it will. But the thing is, You've gotta take this process. You've gotta work with it. Please do not change it from what I gave you, because each step is in here for a reason. But when you recognize that you were the sole creator, Of everything that you actually choose to entertain in your consciousness in your thinking. Now, in fairness to you, things will pop in that comes from the subconscious mind. But what you choose to entertain is what you create, and you're the one who creates that through the power of your mind and the power of your consciousness. And when you recognize that, that's what I call supreme power and the reason why I've used the word consciousness many, many, many, many times. The reason I use that word is this, the universe. This is science. Quantum mechanics. Quantum physics. The universe is pure consciousness, and what that means is guess what? You are pure consciousness and being pure consciousness, you are pure power.

So the big takeaway, or the reason I title the episode, when you pretend like your life is made up, which I've already established, it is made up when you pretend that your life is made. That gives you the power to make up anything that you want to make up. And hopefully you're gonna make up from the here, from the now, from right in this moment, and you're gonna start making up things that support you, things that bring to you what you want, not things that hold you back. I do wanna point out one more thing here is that I have a new, it's been around, I guess for about a month now. It's a nine-day challenge. It's called the Be Do Have Challenge. I'm not promoting it right now, but if you're on my list or you keep listening to the podcast, I'll mention it some more. And in that nine day challenge, I've created a lot of programs over the years and people have said to me that, wow, it's an amazing program. It goes a lot deeper than what we talked about here. Honestly, I've created a lot and I'm pretty, I'm pretty, I'm pretty happy with a lot of things that I've created. But this program, the one I'm talking about, the Nine Day Challenge, I think is perhaps the best, most sublime program I've ever created. Anyway, you'll hear more about that later and I'll mention it here in different places. And if you're on my email list, which you can go to jimfortin.com and get on my list by downloading something there, you'll hear more about. Okay. Remember, your life is made up so you, you don't even have to pretend that it's made up because it is made up and you're the one that makes, makes it up, that gives you the power of consciousness over the circumstances of your life. Thanks for listening, and I'll catch you over on another episode. Bye-bye.

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