The Jim Fortin Podcast

EPISODE 260: “Your Identity Causes Your Biggest Problems And Keeps You Trapped “

March 8, 2023

So, we’ve been talking about identity for two months now, and I want to finish the identity series with a problem solving approach. 

The only reason you listen to the podcast is because you’re wanting to solve a problem, and for most, specifically, that problem is how to create a better quality of life. 

With global audience I have coached, when I ask people, “What is your biggest obstacle,” most people instinctively say, “me.” Yet, they don’t know what that “me” is or what it means. 

It’s not your physical body that causes the lack in your life. It’s not your mind, per se. It’s your subconscious identity. 

I've said it a bazillion times, “You’ll not have it on the outside until you first have it on the inside.” Let me ask you a question. If you have heard me say that, think back to the first time. How long ago was that? A month ago, a year, three years? 

You MUST get your mind around this and you must take action on this if you want to create a better life. Your circumstances aren’t going to magically change until you change, so this episode is a reminder that you have to BE more before you can ever have more in life and that pertains to all areas of your life. 

Ok, so what are you biggest problems? They most likely fall into one of three areas: Health, Wealth, Relationships. 

Before I offer you a solution or thoughts about solving your problems, you must, and I repeat MUST, understand that there is a part of your identity (brain) that will try to prevent you for changing your circumstances. 

In this episode I’m going to talk about the dichotomy of wanting more and life and self sabotaging yourself at the same time. 

Transformational Takeaway

Your identity keeps you trapped in thought…and the only way out is action of some kind to see the error of the thought identity keeping you trapped. BTW….TCP…

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Full Episode Transcript


You're listening to the Transform your Life from the Inside Out podcast. This episode is part and actually it's the last one in the identity series. And this episode is titled Your Identity Causes Your Biggest Problems And obviously Keeps You Trapped. How are your brain? Not all of your brain. How your brain, not all of your brain, but a part of your brain keeps you trapped. I'm going to talk about your blind spots. And your blind spots actually keep you from changing your identity. But see, you don't know that. Because it's your blind spots that keep you trapped and that keep you from actually creating the change that you want in life. And then finally, I'm going to talk about. What to do what you have to do. If you're really serious about creating change in your life. Everyone wants to go to a higher emotional state. That's just part of being in a physical body. Babies cry because their diapers are wet or they want to be held or they want to be fed. They're wanting to go to a higher emotional state. You you're listening to the podcast because you want to go to a higher emotional state. But the reality is for the most part, you haven't been able to create a lot of it why because of what I just mentioned. So if you'd like to know how to resolve all of this, keep listening.

Hi, I'm Jim Fortin, and you're about to start Transforming Your Life from the Inside Out with this podcast. I'm widely considered the leader in Subconscious Transformation. And I've coached super achievers all around the world for over 25 years. Here, you're going to find no rah-rah motivation, and no hype. Because this podcast is a combination of Brain Science, Transformational Psychology, and Ancient Wisdom, all rolled into one to take your life to levels, you've never thought possible. If you're wanting a lot more in life, to feel better, to heal, to have peace of mind, to feel powerful and alive, and to bring more abundance and prosperity into your life and this podcast is for you. Because you're going to start learning how to master your mind and evolve your consciousness. And when you do that, anything you want, then becomes possible for you. I'm glad you're here.

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Okay. So, I know that you want to create a, let's say better, a more enjoyable emotional state. Now in layman's terms, which means a better life. But let me ask you this. How many times have you wanted to create something new, better and different in life? But you've failed. Now what I'm going to cover in this episode, I have shared many, many times in different places. And even here. But what I want to do in this episode is consolidate it. And then, and then obviously, hopefully you recognize that it's all tied to your identity. Your identity keeps you trapped. See when people think about the identity. Meaning, who am I? What they do is there, they're trapped in the identity of the identity. Because they personalize it and they think about, this is me. And then they defend that against the world. Now truth be told at night when I'm working, when I'm actually thinking about what I'm going to do for the podcast or creating a training or whatever it might be. I watch Reality TV. The reason why is because not because I like TV, not because I like Reality TV. But because it's a study in psychology. And in particular, I watched TV shows that, you know, I'm watching one right now and, and do not judge.

Because I don't care about it. It's literally, it's, it's learning for me. It's an observation. About the host of the show and then people on the show. But I'm watching, I think it's called the Million Dollar Matchmaker or something like that. And the woman's name I think is Patti Stanger or something like that. Now we all do. But that woman has her own issues and in particular, an anger issue. But I don't know if she knows it or not. Now on one of the episodes that I just watched, she's talking to a guy that is really, I would say probably textbook classical narcissist. Now here's the thing. A narcissist doesn't know they are a narcissist. And the reason I tell you that it's just like identity. We don't know that we're not this, that or the other, or can do this, that or the other, or can be this, that, or the other, because we can't see that in ourself. So basically. I'm not really calling anyone, listening a narcissist. But metaphorically, we are kind of narcissist in our own way. So, I want to talk a little bit about how we keep ourselves crap a little later in the episode. But I also want to talk about which I've talked about in many places. How it's beyond just psychology, how your brain keeps you trapped.

First, I want to talk about a part of your brain. Now for simplicity we're going to call this part of the brain the reptilian part of the brain. Overall, there were three major parts to the brain. There's the thinking analytical part of your brain. That's listening to me now which actually all of your brain is listening, but your prefrontal cortex, the analytical part of your brain it's actually sits above, you know, right behind your eyes. Top of your head behind your eyes that's the analytical part of the brain. It reasons that rationalizes and many people call this part of the brain, the executive part of the brain. Then we have the middle brain or what's called the limbic system, which a lot of our emotions come from the functions in that part of the brain. And then we have the reptilian part of the brain, the oldest part of the brain.

Now, I know that's simple three parts of the brain, but it's also actually kind of very accurate. And what I want to point out is there's not one part of the brain that only does. For the most part, one thing. It's kind of like, a superhighway of neural connections all through the brain. Let's just say that there, there are some parts of the brain that are more responsibility for regulating behavior or some biological function. And that part of the brain shares more responsible before it, but it doesn't mean that there are or no other parts of the brain that also assist with that. So we'll want to be very clear about that. So, as I said, it's your thinking part of the brain listening right now? Going okay, Jim? Yeah. Yeah. I could follow you. It's the limbic part of the brain that feels when I'm talking about things, when you're thinking about your own life. It's part of the brain, the limbic system. That our emotions or feelings come from this part of the brain. But it's really the primal. What many people call sometimes the monkey brain or the reptilian part of the brain? But I want to talk about today to some small degree.

Now I want to say some small degree of this. Isn't a lecture in neurology. But what I mean is this. Research has discovered that in the reptilian part of the brain, There's different functions that go on and there's part of this brain part, there's part of this part of the brain. That actually functions very well and actually perpetuates for lack of better words and likes predictability. Predictability is believed to be a survival mechanism. And the reasoning behind this was that many thousands of years ago. When we, you know, we had to get, leave the cave and go get food. We, we didn't have you. We don't, we didn't live in the world. We live in now and me, if I'm going to go out and get food for the family. I have to actually look outside of the cave and then predict, okay. What's the probability of me being eaten by a tiger or what's the probability of me being able to hunt safely to provide for my family. So this probability aspect of the brain is believed to be a vestige of our evolution. To keep us alive again, a survival mechanism. But how that plays out today. We still have that part of the brain. We still have that function of the brain. And so, there's a part of your brain that doesn't like change ever. And this part of the brain, because it doesn't like change. We'll do everything that it possibly can because it believes that if we actually go out and do things that are unpredictable, that's going to actually threaten our survival.

So therefore, to dampen that. What that part of the brain does is keeps you in predictability. Even if you don't like to predictability. Think about that for a moment. This is why one of the reasons it's so damn hard to change because even if your life sucks and it's upside down, you know what at least you can predict it. And if you can predict it, you might not like it, but you know what? You can predict what you don't like. And if you do something new, guess what? Oh, I can't predict what's going to happen. Therefore, I'm not going to do anything else. So, let me ask you this. Not all know if you know a lot about identity, subconscious identity. But have you ever really thought about the functions because see you thinking that you want change in your life? Is the prefrontal cortex. That's the part of you that's the analytical part of you the executive part of you, the part of you that thinks. But the part of you that makes it challenging to change is the older part of the brain, the reptilian part of the brain. And what I also want to point out is this is the way the brain works. And over the years of your life, You've created many beliefs about who and what you think you are based upon the outcome is that you created in life and you've created these outcomes from these parts of the brain. So these parts of the brain have led you so to speak, to create part of your identity, but you know what. You created this part of the identity from the neurological functions of the brain. It doesn't mean that it's your identity. It means you've created it through function of the brain. Through things that happen as a result of your brain, part of your brain acting as a survival mechanism.

And when it comes to your everyday life. This is why. You might think I'm going to emphasize the word Think you might think. I want a new home. I want more money. I want a better job. I want better health and wellness. Now make the mistake. They could think back. You know, over the past. Seven weeks, your identity and all the things we cover, it's all woven into what I just said, things that we create, things that we want. Better health, better money, better relationships. But the reason we want these things. Beyond going to a higher emotional state. As we think we want these things. But if you notice and I know this from personal experience many years ago. Many times, it doesn't happen for us. And it doesn't happen because the subconscious identity is keeping us trapped. We have blind spots that don't actually, you know, help us become aware that we are being trapped. And then our brain, the older part of the brain is actually because it doesn't like change. Is actually keeping us trapped and the status quo. So, part of our brain is working against us. Part of our identity is working against us. It's brain-based, it's actually subconscious, the psychological part then the analytical part of us says, I want, I want, I want. I'm going to make all these plans, all these kinds of analytical things. But it doesn't happen.

You know, I was thinking a couple of days ago. That oh, good grief this day and age on Instagram and everything else. You see all these blooper videos. You see, maybe somebody that's wanting to, you know, jump over a Creek that looks about eight feet across. I don't leave and even five feet across and they think they can jump over the creek and they jump and they miss the other edge and they fall back in the Creek, you know, a big cause splash a big splash. But this is what we do a lot of times in life. We think we can create X, Y, Z. We desire we want. But at the end of the day, we just fall right back in the Creek again. So, what I want you to recognize right now, because see many people personalize this. It's not about you. It's not about your characteristics. It's not about your quality of being, it's not about yourself worth. It's about your subconscious programming. And it's about your brain actually part of the brain not liking change. So one of the first things you have to do is recognize, Hey, it ain't me. It's my brain trying to protect me. It's my past. That's my subconscious identity. Keeping me trapped. And again, as I mentioned, subconscious identity.

I suggest you do go back through the episodes again, the last seven episodes and listen to them again, because I'm going to tell you this. Your brain, which I'll talk about in just a minute, your brain will filter out a lot of what I said and the reason the brain does that is because it can only take up some, taking so much information at a time, but also your brain will automatically filter out what is not consistent with your identity. This is why, for example, somebody that has an eating disorder. You can tell them you're really, really, really underweight. You need to eat, but you know what? Their brain filters that out. They can't see it because they're working both psychologically and at an identity level, trying to accomplish something by starving themselves and they don’t see when they look in the mirror, they might not see they do sometimes, but they might not see that. Hey, my clothes are just hanging on me. So I also look at it this way, something else that kind of dawned on me because I look at my own life. A lot of times people will ask me how I come up with topics. Well, I've worked with a Shaman for 26 years. A better way to say that as an apprentice with a Shaman for 26 years, and it's been quite a ride and I'm going to continue to take the ride. But there's a phrase that I live by, and I use this heavily in my. You know, my private Transformational Coaching Programs that I do a couple of times a year. My groups when I have, you know, when I do these groups, there are 13 weeks. And when I do them. People literally open up very quickly. And they start sharing who they are and they start sharing things they would never share with their friends, family, different people. And the reason why is because I created a safe space.

But also there was a phrase that I teach people right away and my programs and that phrase is this. What's most personal is most general meaning, meaning the things that you think are most personal in your life. And you don't want to share with anyone. Guess what? You're not the only one dealing with that. As a matter of fact, a lot of other people are dealing with the same thing, but no one talks about it because they don't want anyone to know about it. So therefore you don't know, someone else is dealing with dealing with what you're dealing with. But when you share what's personal, other people can recognize themselves in that. So for the podcast, when I talk about these things, of course, a lot of it's you generalization, but I have worked with, I can't even tell you, I mean, A million or more people. And I mean, interfacing, not just an audio, but interfacing over the years. And people are people I don't care if you're in Japan where I've lived. You're in Europe where I've been, you've been in south America where I've been, or wherever, anywhere in the world I've been, it doesn't matter.

People are people they get into the same shit all over the world, even if, even if they speak. You know, one person might speak Chinese. One person might speak, I don't know, Russian, and they still get into the same human crap. Because of human socialization. So when I create these episodes, I look at the way that I was socialized and how I became my identity. And I know that if I came that way became that way and the amount of people that I talk to, I see the same patterns over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. For the most part we're all the same. Even if we don't think that we are. So I've noticed in my past many years ago, That I always would dream that I always wanted bigger and better and different things in life. And I always had all these grandiose plans. But part of it was this. I wouldn't take action. I wouldn't take action on something. And I used to blame myself for that. And what I recognized is that I didn't take action. Because I was working by fear and from fear I was working from circumstance. I was working from no time, no energy and no money. But what I never recognized at a deeper level, which is what I'm sharing here. Anytime I would make the, the excuse. That I don't have time, energy and money I would stop there. But I never recognized. To make the excuses that I didn't have the time, energy and money. Believe it or not was a reflection of my subconscious identity and who I thought I was.

The same thing applies to you and this is why. You're not creating the kind of change you want in your life. Because you're trapped. You wanting to create a new identity, but you're trapped in the old identity. And that trap is what I call blind spots. Now we all know what a blind spot is right. But many of us are trapped in our blind spots. You know, I was talking about this dating show just a couple of minutes ago. I don't know if I got off track because I don't have notes here. But the guy on the show was a textbook narcissist. Maybe I said this, I don't know. But, you know what Patty was trying to get him to see that he was a narcissist and no matter what she did, which basically, which is a little bit neurological also, but no matter what she did, he could not see, literally he could not see that he was a narcissist. And so she even had him go on these dates with all these women. Or this group of women, like six women. And then they all gave feedback about him and they all said, one person said that guy's a douche. And they all said very negative things about their interaction with him. She showed him the video and he literally became deflective and said, well, I'm an Eagle and I don't want to hang out with turkeys. And if they can't see the value in me, that's their problem not mine.

My thinking is if you've got six people telling you. Now of course, you've got to consider the circumstances. There were six people there. But if these six people are all kind of seeing the same thing and you're not guess what, it's probably them and not, you. But it's not about that guy. The bigger point is that we don't see things because of our blind spots and our blind spots come from our identity. This is why it is vital to change our identity back to the brain. No matter how much we think we want to change things in life, it doesn't freaking matter because the identity and the brain are what keeps us, keeps us trapped from changing it from taking action. There's the key. We are trapped in a blind spot that keeps us from taking action to change things in the identity. So this episode, Back to your biggest problems I already know right now. And there can be a, you know, a segue from this, but your biggest problems for the most part, fall into one of three areas. Either money, health, or relationships. Lack of money, lack of health or lack of relationships. And what I'm wanting you to get right now. All of these. Com. From your identity. About money. About health. At about relationships. So what's most personal is most general as you've listened for any amount of time. You know, that I grew up, literally, I'm not making this shit up. I grew up on a farm and a small Texas town with pigs and chickens and cows. And I fed the cattle in the morning before I went to school and I was a ranch hand in high school. I literally grew up working my ass off in the fields and driving crackers and irrigating and wearing what we call water boots and all these kinds of things.

And I went off to college. But you know what? I took the farm boy with me to college. And I went to a private school, liberal arts school. And afterwards I got out and people I'm saying this humbly people were often saying, you know, you're a really smart guy. And what I couldn't understand is if I'm a really smart guy. How come I have such a hard time. I mean, I can get a job that was not a problem, and I could make money. That was not a problem, but I could never get out of the rut, the rut of just enough. And I used to think and berate myself if I'm so smart and everyone, a lot of people, not everyone, but a lot of, some people say I'm a dumb ass, but a lot of people say I'm smart. Then how come I cannot get ahead. No back then I did know it was identity. So you want to shift your money? The only, only way to do that is to shift your identity. About health if you've listened for any amount of time. You know that I had a stroke and heart failure in 2020 the same year. Now when the cardiologist, neurologists were telling me all the bad crap, that would be my future. I didn't listen. Why because it wasn't conducive to who I was then 20 years ago. Oh my God. I would've listened but, you know what. In 2020 when I was told this, it went in one or not the other. Now, remember I said earlier, Which I'll talk about in the bit content versus context.

I can tell you, you can be a billionaire. I can tell you that you can be in perfect health. I can tell you that you can be with the nicest, most amazing supermodel in the world, whatever that is to you. But if that's not conducive to your self-image, subconsciously, you won't believe me just like I had the hard time making money and many years ago I had a client of mine. It was a billionaire and he said, Jim, I can show you how to make a million dollars a year. This was 25 years ago and I said me. I can't make a million dollars a year. This day and age in 2023, if I made a million dollars per year and the business that I run. I'd be freaking losing millions of dollars if I stayed in the business. So I've changed but I'm still the same bag of skin minus the regeneration of it so to speak. But, you know what I changed on the inside the change, my outside. So, let me ask you a couple of questions here.

What are you afraid to do? That needs to be done to create change in your life. Think about that? What are you afraid to do? That needs to be done to create change in your life. Where do you think you want change, but you keep repeating. Your old patterns. Even though you tell yourself you're not going to repeat your old patterns. Well, what's keeping you here again, The blind spots. And one of the first places we go into a blind spot is we work by circumstance and that circumstance is yes, but we don't even know we're doing it. We don't know we're going into going into circumstantial behavior. Meaning anytime we have the opportunity to create something more in life, we could say, I don't have time. I don't have energy. I don't have money, but we never stop ourself in that moment and say, whoa, okay. I'm going in my blind spot. That's kept me stuck in my blind spot for the last 15 years of my life. So, what we do is we automatically stay in the blind spot. Not knowing we're staying in the blind spot. And we don't like it there, but that's where we stay. Let me show you how this runs in the background. Okay.

Liver and onions. If I put liver and onions in front of you, let's say for lunch today, wherever you are in the world or tonight at dinner. Would you eat it? Would you eat the liver and onions or would you say hell no, I'm not going to eat liver and onions. What I want you to notice. Is not the thought about the liver and onions. I want you to notice that you did not analytically have to think about eating liver and onions you knew automatically. Yeah. Why not? I'll do it or hell no, I'm not going to do it. No analytical thought you knew automatically. Why did you know automatically, because that was determined at some point in your past and you're holding it in your subconscious long term and brain, brain based long-term memory. Can't talk today. Okay. So that's your brain acting on autopilot. Let me ask you this. How many times do you have the opportunity? To do something. That no, that's a calculate a chance, but it will probably get you ahead. But you don't do it and you pass up the opportunity. Guess what that's the identity subconscious that's the brain holding you back.

How about this? You're offering a new opportunity, but then you start making excuses. You want the opportunity, but you know what I can't because of X, Y, Z. Well guess what, that's your brain and your identity holding you back. And I've mentioned this before, but something I want to say in this episode, Is that, and I know we're jumping around here. I get it. Because I'm talking about your three biggest challenges in life, money, relationships, and health, but those challenges, if you're having them. Come from your subconscious identity and your brain not wanting to change, but on the flip side, if you've got amazing things in those categories, it also comes from your subconscious identity and your brain. But, but what I was saying here is what we often do. Is we fall into the blind spots. We fall under the metaphorical spell of the brain meaning ooh uh, okay. It changed. And I'll know about that. That's a little bit scary. But then what we do is we make it okay. And when we make it okay. We just keep repeating the pattern. Why? Because it's okay.

So, what we do. Is we rationalize and the reason that we rationalize not doing something, oh, I can't be and do and have blank. And the reason why is because I have no time, no energy and no money. Therefore, I'm going to now rationalize that. And the reason that we rationalize it is because we feel bad because of our three biggest problems, no time, energy, money. Or not our money, health and relationships. Then we feel bad because we haven't done something about it. And then we rationalize it. Blind spot blind spot blind spot. So, what I want to do is I can talk about this all day long. But let's, let's do something here. I just want to share some very concrete steps with you. You can listen. You cannot listen. But I'm going to tell you how to get out of whatever rut you might be in when it comes to the three biggest areas of your life. Health. Wealth and relationships. If you want to create something new, the reason you are not because of your blind spot. And your brain would, which I'd mentioned. Now I want to go back to maybe 15 years ago. Someone is a really good friend of mine. Dr. Laurie Emery, she's been on the podcast before. She was my coach many years ago.

One day, Laurie called me and she had already coached me prior and she said, Hey, Jim, do you want to transform your life? That's exactly what she said. And I said, absolutely. But I can't right now because of A, B and C. And back then I said is because of time and money. And she said, now Laurie's very correct and that works with me. Laurie said I didn't ask you for your excuses. I asked you a simple question. Do you want to transform your life? And I said, yes and she goes, okay. You're going to go into coaching with me. And in that moment, I didn't argue. I, as a matter of fact, had I not done that, I would not be doing the podcast today and doing what I'm doing, creating the impact all over the world. It's the best decision I ever made to take action on what I'm sharing with you right now. So right now. We try to think our way, which is, which is prefrontal cortex, left brain. We try to think our way. To a new behavior, a new life, new circumstances. And it doesn't work for the most part overall.

Why because we think of thinking think, and especially if we're overthinkers, we love to overthink it and not take action. So here's what you have to do. The big tall guy, uh, the motive, he's the peak performance guy. Well, I don't know what he calls himself, but he's a big tall guy in the industry and he's, he's the most one-line person. He says, you've got to take massive action. I partly agree with that, but you know what, Jim Roan, who was one of his mentors said, if you, if you motivate an idiot, you've got nothing more than a motivated idiot. You've got to take action, but you've got to take action. They get you the outcomes that you want. You've got to take the directed action. That's consistent with what you want at a subconscious value level. Meaning what do you want? What actions will get me there. Then what we do. That's a stopping point for most people. That's that little Creek I talk about we try to jump over.

We stop right there because we don't want to jump over the Creek. Why? Because jumping over the Creek is going to actually cost us time, energy, or money. I don't want to do that. So therefore that's my blind spot, but I don't know. It's my blind spot now. I rationalize it. Okay I feel better about myself. I don't have to do anything else, but you know what? I don't like my life. Well, you got to take action because you can think all day long. And then I, that ain't gonna change shit. Secondly, what you can do. And I'm just being candid. Stop, fricking lying to yourself. I did that for 30 years of my life. Lying to yourself as saying, you know what. Maybe something will change, maybe something will get better. So what a lot of us do is we will either lie to ourselves creating a false hope. In five years later, we're in the same place or we go into learned helplessness and learned helplessness is that you've actually tried the change before and failed. Therefore, you've learned you can't. You can't change; therefore you don't even try anymore. And the reason that most people fail is not because they can't do something is because they have the wrong strategy.

I mean, if I told you had to hammer a nail in to a board. You wouldn't use the fish to hammer the nail in and you, you could say, well, Jim, I can't actually put a nail on a board because every time I do it, I've always used a fish and it doesn't work. So therefore I can't put a nail on a board. Well, you've been using the wrong strategy. You need a hammer. So, stop lying to yourself, but when you do take action, take action with the right strategy. And lying to yourself as saying that you can't do it. That's a bold lie because you can do and you can be, and you could have anything when you have the identity of a person that can be in do and have anything. And then finally here. Content versus context. Now I know, I know because of how quickly the podcast has exploded. Millions of downloads. And just a few years, I know the content resonates with people. I get emails all the time message messages on Instagram and everything else about how people have used the podcast to change their life.

What blows my mind that I am being a hundred percent transparent is that people create a little bit better life. And they stop right there because of everything else I've talked about in this episode. And what I want to share with you is when you stop in life, that's not when you stop. That's when you keep going. Because see if you stop. Now that your brain. That your analytical thinking that your past, you know, the identity of that's been created, that's your self-image and we stop. And then we hope and wish and want and pray, which I just talked about. Things are going to change. But they don't change. So I want to share with you right now, whether it be me or someone else, that's entirely up to you, whoever you like, whoever you feel comfortable with. I'm just going to be candid. You got to start doing different shit. You've got to start doing something else and a different way. Because obviously this applies to me as well. What's most personal is most general in the past. If you're staying stuck and you're staying stuck year over year. It's foolish to stay there. That's your identity in your excuses, keeping you there. And if you want to stay there, that's great. I have to respect that, but I'm passionate about this and I'm telling you, you got to do something different, but again, you've got to take that action. And at the very least you got to take action, even when it scares the hell out of you. Because if you're not taking action, what's the identity of a person not taking action. What's the blind spot of a person not taking action. What fears, which is identity based and brain based. What fears is someone getting into if they're not taking action on something. So come to me. You know, get enrolled in one of my, you know, more advanced programs where I coach in there or find someone else that's entirely up to you, but you know what? I'm pretty damn good at what I do.

Actually I'm damn good at what I do. Not just pretty damn good. That's why people from all over the world, that all levels of life want me to coach them. But your takeaway is this. Your identity keeps you trapped. And the only way out of that trap is not to think your way out of it. Because if you look at your life, you’ve tried to think your way out of it. And for the most part and strategies they don't work. You're trying to use strategies like the fish and the nail that I went to had just a couple of minutes ago. You're trying to think your way out of something with broken strategies, but you don't know that you're working from broken strategies. So, what you have to do is find someone that can help you see your blind spots. You know, expose your fears to you, what's causing them. And then to help you start creating a new subconscious identity, which is a new image of yourself.

When you do that, it's a matter of like being a lawyer. Being a lawyer you don't have to know all the laws. What you have to know is the foundations of the law. Then when you got a lawsuit that you don't know what to do with it, what a lawyers do. They go to the law library and research. And that's the S the same thing about the fundamentals of identity. Once you learn to change the subconscious identity, which I've talked about in many places in this series, and I talk about on my up and coming BE DO HAVE Accelerator. And I talk about another programs once you learn to reprogram your subconscious mind, that's like going to law school, metaphorically speaking, you're skilled, you know how to create the change. And then if you want to do something in particular, you simply metaphorically go to the law library and you'll learn how to do that. But the key is learning how to create change at a brain-based subconscious level. And I want to help you do that.

So the best place, I don't know when you're listening to this episode, what part of the year, whether I'm even offering a transformational live program with me and my coaches. But the best place to go is to my website, and just make sure that you're on my mailing list. Because when you're on the mailing list, you're going to know about events and you know, what at some point. Whether it be with me or someone else. You got to take the plunge you got to take action. Because nothing's going to change until you do. Okay, thanks for listening. And I'll catch you over on the next episode. Bye-bye.

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Jim is an international subconscious self-transformation and high performance expert with over two decades of expertise in brain based transformation and high performance. Using a brain based approach coupled with transformational psychology and ancient wisdom Jim has created programs that create long-term core-level life transformation in his students.

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