You’re listening to the Transform Your Life from the Inside Out podcast. This is a
throwback episode to episode number 54. That one was titled The Relationship Between
Self -Worth and Habits. You know, I think back many years ago, I had a woman inside
TCP, the Transformational Coaching Program, and she said, “Jum, I want to go to the
gym. I have the best intention, but I just can’t get in the habit of doing it.”
And what I talk about in this episode is the concept of self -love. And I talk
about how we, and you’ll find this to be true, how we don’t take care of things
that we don’t love. Meaning if you don’t love something, then why would you take
care of it? So if you don’t love it and you don’t take care of it, then you get
in the habit of not taking care of it. So for many of you, you know, you’re
wanting more in life. You’re wanting to be, do and have more in life, But you’re
finding that you don’t have the habits to create it, whatever it is that you want
and what you want to look at is go a little bit deeper and look at your level of
self -worth and self -value. So if you’d like to be, do and have more life, enjoy
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You know, the question that was written in by Malia is what is the relationship
between habits and self -worth? Very powerful question and one that a lot of people
don’t think about. I remember many years ago, I was in my home office and it just
dawned on me one day. It just popped in my head and I was really referring and
thinking about myself. And what popped in my head was this phrase, “We treat
ourselves like we perceive ourselves.” And I wrote it on the whiteboard behind the
door in my office, which the door was always open, so I never saw the whiteboard.
But literally, I did a little remodeling in that room, just, I don’t know, three,
four, five months ago. And that was on the whiteboard. And I’ve seen it from time
to time by closing the door. And it rings so true that how we treat ourself,
which is the topic this week, Molly has questioned the relationship between self
-worth and habits. How we treat ourself there’s a reflection of how we perceive
ourself, and if we perceive ourself in a negative way a condescending way,
a hateful way, an angry way, that’s how we treat ourselves. So our habits are
definitely related to our perceptions about ourself. You know,
doing what I do and doing it for a lot of years, I cannot tell you the degree to
which self -worth is one of the biggest issues that I see in people. And I don’t
just mean self -worth, but I mean a lack of self -worth. And not only that,
the degree to which people work from that they don’t deserve something. I mean, it’s
amazing. And I am definitely not, you know, casting any stones because I have been
there, no question about it. And And I’m gonna tell you where I work from today
when it comes to self -worth. And it’s a very, it’s a very calming place and it’s
a very peaceful place. But I’ll tell you a little bit more about that at the end
of this episode. But it is so amazing the amount of people that limit themselves or
will not reach for something or will subjugate themselves or hold themselves back
because they feel like they’re not worth something and they don’t deserve it. And
you know, when I look at that, and I’ve been there before, and I look at it these
days, I’m like, deserve relative to what? I mean, who on this planet other than you
is to tell you what you deserve and what you don’t deserve?
Now, I don’t know. I read some research many years ago. And a lot of people don’t
ask for things because of low self -worth, but we’re also in this culture. I don’t
know about you, but we’re conditioned, and I was, that the answer is no. Whatever
we ask for, the answer is going to be no. And I read somewhere that by the age
of 18, the average kid, and this is in the United States, and this was some
psychological book that I probably read 15, 20 years ago, so is it a valid
statistic? I don’t know. But I know that in my own life, I can see this.
But I read that before a child turns 18 or at 18, we’re told no 18 ,000 times in
our life, meaning 1 ,000 times a year, we’re told no. Can I be something? No, can
I do something? No, can I have something? No, can I go somewhere? No, no, no.
And then if you’re like, my family, well, how come? Because I said so was the
answer that I would always get. And so it’s just like a virus in this world.
The amount of people that just, they don’t think that they are worth things or they
don’t think that they deserve things. And as you’re listening, you know what? Be
honest with yourself. You probably feel like you don’t deserve something or you can’t
have too much of something. And many times we think we can’t have too much of
something or we don’t deserve something because of other people that are in our
life. And then we’re like, well, how is it gonna affect them? If I have XYZ, so
therefore it’s gonna affect them in a certain way, therefore I don’t deserve this
and I won’t do it. So I wanna say here that it’s worthiness.
And I’m gonna go to the topic at hand about self -worth and habits in just a
moment. But worthiness, It’s so, like I said, it’s just a virus in the world that
we don’t think we’re worth things. And in my programs, I mean, I have people from
all over the world. Now, many years ago, that would be like a bragging right. This
day and age is no big deal because we’re all connected, right? And it’s no big
deal. But you know, whether it’s Germany or Australia or Peru or Moscow or Canada,
you know, people from all over the world in my programs and it’s the same
everywhere in the world is that people just don’t feel like they are worth something
or they are not enough. I want to share a story here. I remember after college,
buddies and I, and I was in a fraternity. I was the fraternity boy, etc. But after
college, I did a lot of binge drinking. And back then, I thought, well, this is
what my buddies than I do. We go golfing, and we go binge drinking, and we go to
the bars, and all that kind of stuff. And what I recognized a lot of years later
is that even though I rationalized in my mind that, “Hey, this is what boys do,”
and we play golf, and we get drunk, and we drink, and we go to the bars,
telephone in the morning, what I recognized back then is that that was a form, I’m
sorry, I recognize now that that is a form of self -sabotage. And there’s something
that I heard many, many years ago, and this still rings true today, and it’s a
very powerful phrase, and I use it a lot, is that we don’t destroy what we love.
So look at your own life. What kind of destructive habits do you have in your
life? And we judge ourselves so harshly. You know,
what’s interesting is so many people are worried about other people judging them when
they judge themselves more than other people. And I’ve been there as well. And we
have to start with self -love, which again, I’ll talk about a little later in this
episode. But look at what you may do. Maybe you get up in the morning and you
walk in the bathroom and you look in the mirror and you’re like, “Oh my gosh, you
look like hell this morning. You look horrible. You’re so fat.
Look at those bags under your eyes. Your hair is starting to come out. You just
don’t look like you used to. And on and on and on, and we judge ourselves. And we
judge ourselves harshly as what a lot of people do. I wanna share a poem with you
here that I found many years ago, probably 20 -something years ago when I read it,
it was just a stunning poem to me. And it’s by Dorothy Lawl -Nolte.
And for those of you that are parents, Google it. She left the planet, I think, in
’95 or so. But again, her name is Dorothy Lawl -Nolte -N -O -L -T -E.
And the poem is this. And if you’re parents, you probably want to actually or maybe
get a copy of this and put it on your refrigerator. And the poem goes like this.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with
hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with ridicule, they learn to be
shy. If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty. If children live with
encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn to
be patient. If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate. If children live
with acceptance, they learn to love. If children live with approval, they learn to
like themselves. If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children and live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in
which to live. And that was written back in 19, I believe, in 1950s,
and it was copyrighted in 1972. But listen how I started that.
And what I want you to look at is how did you grow up? Did you grow up with
criticism and hostility and ridicule and shame? Or did you grow up with encouragement
and tolerance and praise and acceptance and approval? Because see, you know by now,
by listening to me for so long, for those of you that have, is that we learn to
be who we are before about the age of eight years old. And you want to look back
at that time, how did your parents treat you? Now, my parents did the…
This is what I tell people, is My parents did the best job they could with what
they had, meaning even though they might not be considered the most amazing parents
when it comes to parenting skills, that’s all they knew. And they did the best they
could do with what they had at that point and who they were. And my father used
to be very, very harsh on us as kids. I don’t know if any of you and I’m sure
you can, you can relate to that. But my parents, and I know I’ve said this on
another podcast, my parents actually thrived on people praising his kids for being
well -behaved kids. Something that drove my parents was that when other people would
say, “You know what? When we were out to dinner or something,” and people would
say, “You have the most well -behaved kids,” my parents would actually thrive on
that. And they’d be, “Oh, thank you so much. Thank you so much.” And they took
pride in that, Yet, they completely, completely subjugated us as kids. And there’s a
whole lot more that I could add there. But there was a fair amount, I think, when
we were kids, of criticism of our behaviors. Not so much hostility, but ridicule and
shame were a big thing because my parents cared so much about what other people
thought about them and us as kids that they would do anything to keep us in line
as kids. So maybe some of you can relate to that, but I’m just telling you that I
grew up in ways that contributed to me having low self -esteem. And what I’ve
noticed over the years is that most, and I do mean most people, it’s amazing,
it’s epidemic, so to speak, but most people have low self -esteem, yet we don’t want
to admit it or we don’t recognized it as that. Not only that, and I know I’ve
mentioned this either in the podcast or somewhere else, but many people use low self
-esteem to achieve. Two classic examples would be, well,
there’s three right now. There’s one right in front of us. But Richard Nixon was
notorious for having very, very low self -esteem and self -worth. And what he did is
he actually, his whole MO was achievement because he thought if he achieved, other
people would approve of him and then he would get his validation from the external
world. And the same thing about LBJ. He was the same thing.
He was notorious and extremely, extremely, he felt inferior compared to the Kennedys.
I mean, obviously the Kennedys were one of the 10 wealthiest families in the nation
when JFK was president and very, very wealthy and powerful an elite and Harvard
graduates, and here Lyndon Baines Johnson was, some little farm boy who went to
Texas State Teachers College. And if you look at their biographies, and I’m a
student of history as well, and, you know, I have a degree in political science and
psychology, and I watch a lot about biographies, that it was notorious that LBJ
always felt secondary to JFK. And that was one of the things that actually drove
him to want to succeed so badly and to want to be president. I remember one of my
one -to -one clients a few years ago and I said, you know, I’m not sure if you
recognize this, but you have low self -esteem. And she said, Jim, no,
I don’t. And she was, according to the Wall Street Journal, she was ranked as one
of the top 100 producing real estate agents in the United States. And she said to
me, she goes, I don’t have low self -esteem? How could I be one of the top agents
in the country and have low self -esteem? Well, same thing with Nixon and LBJ. It
was her low self -esteem, which was actually driving her to perform and driving her
to be driven.
I want to be careful here. I literally, I’m just, I’m being transparent with you
guys. I don’t have any partisan affiliation in politics at this one in my life. If
I were anything, I would be libertarian. Basically, I want the government to keep
their hands off me and keep their hands out of my pocket. Beyond that, I just
don’t care anymore. And I’m not apathetic, and I’m not anti -American or anti
-patriotic or anything else. I’m just saying that it’s such a dog and pony show in
politics these days. Now, I am not a licensed therapist, so I’m going to just give
you an interpretation. If you look up the definition of NPD,
Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and you look at the characteristics of NPD, and
then look at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, they match. And a lot of people,
I think Donald Trump’s been called by a Harvard professor, like a morbid narcissist
or something like that. And we can look at the outcome, but what I’m looking at,
and I think I’ve said here in the podcast before, is if that is true and he does
have narcissistic personality disorder, number one, it’s not his fault. Secondly,
and this is where the compassion comes in, at least from my point on this, is my
gosh, because the NPD comes from extreme, extreme insecurity as a child.
And I start thinking, wow, if he does have NPD, then man,
what a tough childhood that guy must have had. So, you know, I understand where it
comes from. And again, I’m not a Harvard psychologist making any diagnosis or any of
that. I’m just sharing my interpretations. But I think when we look at it from that
perspective, it also gives us some compassion for people when people have things like
NPD or people try to overcompensate or they try to brag or any of that to other
people because they wanna look good. because people spend also the majority.
When I say people, but I mean the majority, the majority of people spend 95 % of
their time either trying to look good in front of other people or not to look bad
in front of other people. And that all comes down to self -worth. And in all
fairness, I’ve been there myself before with I think a lack of self -worth.
So We also, what I see a lot of this in my coaching programs is that many times
in relationships, I will see partners let the other partner subjugate them and then
do what I call steal all their power because they don’t feel like they’re worthy of
even speaking up in a relationship. And I see this so often. And then of course,
relative to the topic this week about habits, people that don’t feel worthy of or
feel worthy to to to have their place in the relationship. What kind of mental
habits and even behavioral habits do you think they pick up that they perpetuate
into the relationship? Research also shows and you hear me talk a lot about identity
is that confirming identities they match up and get in the relationships.
Now what I mean by that is A woman that believes that she’s not worth anything
will many times seek out. And by the way, when I say, you know, a woman, it could
be a man as well. So let’s just be very clear about that because I have worked
with guys that have been domestically abused in their relationships. But let’s just
say, for example, that a woman believes that she just doesn’t have any worth. She
doesn’t have any value. Then what she will do, and there’s research that confirms
this, So, if that is her identity, what she will do is she will seek out a
partner that will confirm her identity. So let me give you a colloquial,
meaning just my verb, it’s my words. But let’s say, for example, a woman believes
that she deserves to be hit, and women will say things and so will men, okay? So
guys, I don’t want any flack on this and any feedback or any emails, I’m just
telling you what research says. So If a woman believes that, you know what, he hit
me and it’s my fault, it has nothing to do with him hitting me. It’s my fault
that he did it. Well, that’s low self -worth and low self -esteem. Now, what research
also demonstrates is that men will seek out women that they will say,
well, if she deserves to be hit or women deserve to be abused or whatever, words
that you will hear in the culture that women deserve would be slapped around or put
in their place. What I want you to take away from this is that in your
relationship, you get what you deserve, meaning you will seek out people, commensurate
with the degree that you value yourself and let that soak in.
Because so many people, we don’t value ourselves then what we will do according to
research is we will seek out people that will validate that we’re not worth very
much because they will treat us in ways that are firm to us that, “You know what?
I’m not worth all that much.” So food for thought for a lot of you. What I want
you to look at, though, relative to this episode is look at your habits.
And then what habits do you have that are created relative to your level of worth?
So just ponder that for a bit. And I’ll give you an example of that. One of my
sisters, she’s an older sister, older than I am,
and she’s obese. She’s very overweight. She’s probably 200 pounds overweight. Now,
remember her saying something to me many years ago? She said, “You know what? People
won’t pay me for that.” And it was something that she was very good at. And in
that moment, I recognized in the way that she said it, that she really wasn’t even
valuing what she had to offer at all. And then that comes from a lack of self
-value. And she’s never really had high paying jobs, which is a reflection also of
her value. She’s always worked at places like Walmart and Target making, you know, a
few bucks over minimum wage. And she used to always say things like, “You know
what? I can’t afford to eat well.” And as a result of not eating well, she, you
know, she’s overweight. And she may listen to this. She may not. I don’t know. It
doesn’t matter. I mean, this has all been discussed, etc. But I’m sharing this to
be of service to you guys. So what she would say is, well, I don’t have enough
money. So because I don’t have enough money, then I can’t buy good food or healthy
or nutritious food. And her entire diet, her entire diet is junk food. Now,
her entire diet is junk food, which then, of course, leads to her being overweight,
but it all comes back to, if you notice here the circle, it all comes back to her
level of self -worth.
Recently, I was walking out of the store also and I saw this guy, this was about
a month ago and he caught me in the parking lot and I knew that he’s going to
ask me for money and I’m fine with that. I mean, I literally carry money in my
console and give it away. Some of you could say, “Well, you know what, you’re
perpetuating homelessness.” You know, maybe, maybe not, but if somebody needs help and
I can help, I will. And the guy stopped me in the parking lot, and I knew that
he’s going to ask me for money. And he said, “Hey,” he goes, “you know, sir, can
you help me out?” And he goes, “You know,” and he had a camper on his truck, and
he goes, “I’ve got some tools in here, and you know what, I can sell you some of
my tools. I’m not asking for a a handout, but you know what? I’m hungry, I need
gas money, and I’m sleeping in the back of my truck. Can you help me out? And in
exchange, I will sell you some of my tools. Well, I don’t need any tools. I mean,
anything that I need, I just hire somebody to do, and truth be told, I’m not all
that handy around the house. So what am I going to do with tools other than put
them in the garage, you know? And so I said, you know what? I don’t think that I
have that much cash on me and I was a few cars away and I went over to my car
and I had three bucks to my console. It’s all that I had in the moment. And I
said, here, just, you know, here’s three bucks. And I said, what I said was, and
here’s the irony or the interesting thing is I drive a Porsche and he saw me go
to my car and get the money. And I gave him the money and I said, here’s my last
three bucks. And that was just colloquial. I mean, it’s the last three bucks cash
that I had in the car. And the guy said to me, he was very kind, but he said, I
don’t want to take your last $3. And I’m like, dude, don’t worry about it.
This is not my last $3. And then he was very grateful. And then I went back
inside to the ATM, and which I didn’t want to do. I was tired as a long day, as
around midnight, but I went back in and I got him more money. And he literally
three or four times, he said, Are you sure? Are you sure? I mean, really, do you
really mean this? Do you really want to give me this money? Are you sure? And I’m
like, of course I’m sure. And I walked away and I wondered the situation that he
is in life right now, how much of that is tied to, because he demonstrated evidence
of low self -worth, how much of what he doesn’t have in life is tied to his low
self -worth. And I see this so much because I would assume there’s a fair amount of
online entrepreneurs and business people that listen to this podcast. And for that,
I’m grateful. I’m very grateful.
And so many times in business, and I’ve been there as well. I’m not there today,
but I’ve been there as well.
People don’t value what they do and they don’t charge accordingly. And that’s, I
have it as well. You know, candidly recently, there was somebody that I’ve been
coaching, actually we’re friends and I’ve not coached this person in a couple, in
about 18 months. And I helped this person take his business literally through one -to
-one coaching. I helped him, this person take their business from $2 million to $10
million in two years. As a matter of fact, it’s two years this month. So the way
I look at it now, if I help this person five times their business from 2 million
to 10 million in two years. You know what? I’m valuable.
I’m good at what I do and I deserve compensation. And that’s why today, that’s what
I charge, what I charge because if I build someone else’s wealth, I should actually,
you know, work from reciprocity and build my own life and my own wealth as well at
that level. But many years ago, I wouldn’t charge what I was worth. And I’m just
being transparent. One of my clients, she was a CEO of a billion dollar company. We
became personal friends and she said to me, she goes, Jim, I don’t think you
realize, and this was 10 years ago, and I was making multiple six figures in, but
she goes, I don’t think you realize how good you are at what you do. And candidly,
I didn’t, and I wasn’t charging accordingly because I didn’t value my own work,
which I’ve talked about in another podcast episode. So also,
do you limit your earnings because I had a client recently that he didn’t want to
earn more than his father because he felt that if in some way he earned more money
than his father, then his father would look down on him that he wasn’t worth the
money. So look at your earning. Do you cap your earning because you feel like
you’re not worth it based upon other people in your family. And I’ve even seen the
reverse of that. I have seen people that will not earn because if they do, then
their family will look down on them saying, who do you think you are driving that
brand new car? Who do you think you are living in that house? And what they do,
therefore, they believe, well, if my family is not worth it, I’m not worth it. And
if I do actually exceed or pass them, then they’re going to look down on me,
therefore that I’m not going to do it.
So right now I am at my home in Sedona, Arizona. I’m heading back to Dallas in a
couple of days. I live between both places. And I started watching Elton John
Rocketman, the movie. And Elton John actually, as I heard, as I read,
not heard, but as I read, Elton John really approved of the movie. And the whole
movie Isn’t like Bohemian Rhapsody, which in my opinion is an amazing movie. It’s
more about Elton John’s personal life and he never getting any praise or any support
emotionally from his parents. I mean, he craves his father’s love and approval and
he never got it. And he lived many, many, many years of self -denial and many,
many years of not approving of himself and many years of having no self -love for
himself. And interesting movies. So watch it, maybe some of you can relate because
that’s what people crave. Human beings crave the affection and approval of their
parents. One of my clients one time, his parents on a company and he’s in the
family business, but there are also other businesses, I mean, other companies that he
could work with that are in that business. And I said to him, I said, “Do you
know what’s happened here is that you’ve outgrown where you are and you’ve captured
yourself and what would serve you well is to move to another larger company in your
industry because you’re captured where you are. And the thing is this, he seeks,
even if he says that he doesn’t, I know that he does because I’ve watched him and
coached him, he seeks his parents’ approval, therefore he will not better himself and
go to a different brand and even a more prestigious brand because he doesn’t want
to disappoint his parents. You know, also, I’m just, you know, speaking candidly
aloud here and just putting some thoughts together as we go. I do not do this
anymore, but I did. And I’m sure many of you do this as well. And I’ve been there
is that most of us judge ourselves, as I said, we’re very harsh on ourselves. And
we judge ourselves against other people, which is a, That’s a recipe for failure and
self -love. But we judge ourselves against other people, and then what we do is we
put ourselves below other people.
And I remember reading this meme on Facebook, and basically it said that we let our
lives be affected by people who judge us, and they don’t even have their own crap
together, and we’re letting them actually judge us and letting them affect us. Now,
I mentioned earlier about my father. He was very, very critical.
Put it this way, whatever I did, and I was an A student all the way through
school, minus math, which was a whole different podcast audio that I did on
subconscious programming, and my first grade teacher telling me I wasn’t good at
math, and I was making As in everything in school except math. But whatever I did,
And I’m sure a lot of you can relate to this, that no matter what I did, it
wasn’t good enough. And this was, I mean, I don’t care if I made straight A’s,
I would hear, well, aren’t there A pluses? And I know a lot of you listening can
relate to that. So I lived an entire lifetime with my father, never being good
enough. And when I was in college, I actually went to the school psychologist and I
wanted to take an IQ test. And I took one and he put me through some other
assessments and he says, you know, it looks like to me that you have low self
-esteem. And back then I’m like, no, no, no, not me. Because that was popular and I
had a lot of friends and identity and I didn’t see myself air quote having low
self -esteem. But when I looked back years later, I did, I did have low self
-esteem. And honestly, I don’t remember how, I mean, back then what I did or what
he prescribed or anything else in terms of prescribed, I mean books or exercises or
mental work or anything else. But yeah, I mean, I was part of the pack and I had
to lose self -esteem. Now, I’m not there today. And I’m going to tell you, I’m
going to share with you my secret is I remember one of my sisters saying to me
one time and my sister is calling me Jimmy. And she’s like, we were traveling
actually, we were, we were out in rural Peru, We had just actually left Machu
Picchu for some spiritual work there 20 years ago. And my sister said to me,
she goes, “Jimmy, do you love yourself?” And I was kind of like, “Well, I guess.
I don’t know. I think I do.” And I’ve had a lot of people over the years say,
“Well, how do I know? How do I know what self -love is?” And I’m going to tell
you what I’ve discovered on my own journey and I’ll do another podcast on this and
share more things with you guys. But what I learned long ago is self -love is such
a slippery thing. I mean, what does that mean and how do I do it? And I found an
easy way to engage in self -love. And to me, in my experience with my life,
we become self -loving when we become self -accepting.
Because see, when you accept who you are, whatever you are, you might have listened
recently to the podcast with Naduk. It was a Monday podcast. And Naduk,
and this was probably two or three episodes ago, two or three Mondays ago, she
didn’t accept herself because of her name, Naduk in ID UK. So she thought,
and she talks about it in the podcast episode, that you know what, people are going
to reject me. And I’m not as good as other people into it’s rejecting herself based
upon even the fear of her name and what she thought other people would think about
it. And I’ve learned that when you just accept yourself, your name,
your body, your weight, your sexual orientation, your religion, your nationality,
your height, Whatever it is, when you accept yourself, then that becomes self -love.
Because when you accept yourself, then you move into peace. And there’s nothing more
powerful in my interpretation than peace. Because I can say love to you and you can
make all the definitions and interpretations you want about it. And we’re gonna have
all kinds of interpretations. But when I say peace and peace of mind, every single
one of you, you know what I mean because you’ve had peace of mind before at
different times in your life and you know what I mean. So I wanna leave you with
this, is my interpretation of self -love is self -acceptance because when we do that,
we become peaceful and that is a loving place. Now one more thing, I ask one of
my transformational coaches and I tell you that she has a PhD only for credibility
reasons. And I asked her because another client has said, “Hey, is there a book on
self -esteem or self -love?” And I thought she was gonna say some formal text kind
of book. And here’s the seven steps like Nathaniel Brandon’s, the six pillars of
self -esteem and stuff like that.
She didn’t say any of that. She goes, “Oh yeah, she was, I wanna recommend the
book.” And again, I don’t make any money off this, there’s no affiliate link, but
it’s a book that says “love yourself like your life depends on it.” Title of the
book is “love yourself like your life depends on it.” I don’t remember the author’s
last name, but it’s like “remit” or something like that or “commit” or “remit” or
something. And it’s a very simple book. It’ll probably take you 30 minutes to read,
but it’s a very powerful book because it also plays into what I teach people is
how to program and reprogram their subconscious minds. Okay, so hopefully you could
see yourself on a lot of this episode and in my wish, because this is what I tell
all of my students and you’re not a student or you may not be because you’re
listening to the podcast, but there’s one thing that I want for everyone and that
is I want people to have joy and joy comes from peace. Okay,
so your transformational takeaway this week in this episode is this, is we treat
ourself like we perceive ourself. And to the topic at hand,
if you have habits that are self -destructive, you are treating yourself with those
habits as you perceive yourself. Okay, next episode,
Wednesday’s episode is, It’s about judgment because so many of you have challenges
with judgment and I’ve already created an episode on this, but I’m going to create
another one and just being transparent with you. The reason I’m doing it is because
I have a video marketing company, one of my best friends that’s creating a lot of
videos as well on these topics and they’re going on YouTube in different places. And
this is one of the topics, even though I’ve already done a podcast episode on this,
so I’ve got to sit down and brainstorm how to bring you a fresh approach even to
that last episode on self -judgment, which actually stops so many of you.
What we’re gonna talk about in the next episode, more than anything, is your fear
of judgment from other people. And that episode, and when you get this, when you
get this, oh, it is like the lights come on. The title of that episode,
are you ready, is I am not who you think I am.
You are who you think I am. Get your mind around that one and I’ll catch you on
the next episode. Take care and thank you so much for listening and sharing. I
really appreciate it and I’m just, I’m very grateful. Okay, stay well. Bye -bye.