Intro

Jim Fortin
You’re listening to the Transform your Life from the inside out podcast. This episode is actually an interview with a student of mine. And I’ve titled The interview, the power of choice to change your life. And there’s a lot in this episode, I mean, a whole lot. We visited for about an hour. And after the visit, I was thinking, How do I title this episode. And we talk a lot about choice and how choice has transformed her life. And I know that you know, in other episodes here at the podcast, you’ve heard other people talk about that I’ve interviewed, and I talked about it, the power of choice. And you may remember that I’ve said that life is not a choice. Life is choice. Meaning choice is literally one of the things your life is all about. Now we talk about a lot of things. Again, I couldn’t even figure out how to title this episode. But our main themes are gratitude, control issues, and choice. And she talks about how when she immersed herself, you know, in gratitude, and letting go of her control issues and surrendering, and started making the correct choices in her life, how her life transformed. I pick this episode, because I know there’s something in here for everyone, no matter where you are in life. So give it a listen. And enjoy.
Jim Fortin
Hi, I’m Jim Fortin, and you’re about to start Transforming Your Life from the Inside oOut with this podcast. I’m widely considered the leader in Subconscious Transformation. And I’ve coached super achievers all around the world for over 25 years. Here, you’re going to find no rah rah motivation, and no hype. Because this podcast is a combination of Brain Science, Transformational Psychology, and Ancient Wisdom all rolled into one to take your life to levels, you’ve never thought possible. If you’re wanting a lot more in life, to feel better, to heal, to have peace of mind, to feel powerful and alive, and to bring more abundance and prosperity into your life, then this podcast is for you. Because you’re going to start learning how to master your mind and evolve your consciousness. And when you do that, anything you want then becomes possible for you. I’m glad you’re here.

Chelsea’s Journey: Finding the “Missing Piece” in Mindset

Jim Fortin
Okay, so today we’re talking with Chelsea. And she’s been with me and in my programs for I guess, whatever, a year now.
Chelsea
I know it’s a year.
Jim Fortin
Okay, so let me do this real quick. I just want to thank you for being with us today, almost a year. And what I want to talk about, and who knows where this is gonna go, we’re just kind of visit, okay. What I want to talk about is, you’ve had an your life has amazingly transformed in many ways in the past 12 months, I want to talk about what you did, how you did it, where you were, where you are now, and then actually how other people can actually just take what you want to share, and apply to their own life. So let’s do this. I think you have an amazing story. But let’s give everyone a quick backstory of where you were in your life one year ago.
Chelsea
Okay, so a year ago, I had checked off every single box that I thought I had to, I had a great business, I had an amazing husband, who was funny and charming. I had, you know, the kids, I had the team, I had the nice home, I had everything on paper. And yet I was miserable. If the weather outside was crappy, I felt bad inside. Someone said something rude to me. It ruined my day. And so I realized that I was living life from an external point of view. And then I had no sense of inner peace, really, because everything that I was doing, it was to chase some sort of external validation or some sort of external reward. And I really just was not in my power.
Jim Fortin
Yeah. So let me recap there is, and I hear that a lot is that I have so much in my life, I’m lucky I’ve got a good partner and a husband and wife or whatever, and great kids, and I’ve got a good life. But for some reason, I’m still not happy. What’s wrong? Right. That’s where you were.
Chelsea
Yeah. And so I realized that the missing piece was really all within me. It was all within my mindset. It was in, you know, what I was choosing to focus on and not choosing to focus on. It was in reliving these old stories that no longer served me. And I knew that I was meant for more and there was a potential to be different and be happier and more joyful and bring more into my life, but I wasn’t doing it and so I felt like something was missing.
Jim Fortin
Okay, let’s go here because I’m going to take a lot of this apart. You weren’t doing It was, I’m guessing you weren’t doing it because you didn’t know what to do. And if I’m if I’m off target anywhere, please tell me. No, that doesn’t fit or that’s not correct. But there’s a reason you weren’t doing it. Because a lot of people will say, people listening will say, I know what to do, but I’m not doing it. Did that also apply to you?
Chelsea
Yeah. And so I found your podcast, I found it through manifestation, babe, then James Wedmore. And then I found yours. And you were always talking about this way of being. And it took me like six to nine months, I can’t, even while I was like, in the program, I’m like BEing and I was like, okay, is it this or this, I’m like, No, those are doing actions. And I realized that it was all in my beingness. Because it doesn’t matter what I did. It was how I was doing it, the way I was doing, it all comes down to a way of being. And once I really got that, in your program, all the dots connected, and I was able to really just work through it and grow through it, and then apply what I needed to do to, you know, be that happy, peaceful, calm, loving, kind person that I always wanted to be.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, yeah. And I want to come back to this because that’s the key issue here is you hear me say all the time, is well being is the ultimate state of life. I mean, well being. And guys, I know this is probably you’re listening, not on the podcast. But as I said that she started smiling, because it resonates with her is that we can have all the external things in the world, and the jobs in the home and the money and the relationships and everything. What comes what it comes down to is how happy how well how peaceful inner peace and inner balance we have on the inside? Because you’ve heard me say before Chelsea with without peace of mind, you can’t do anything. Now, let’s hop ahead. Where are you today? He told us where you were, you know, a year ago, where are you today?
Chelsea
Today, I am in a place where I consciously choose happiness first thing every morning, where I consciously and subconsciously through what you’ve taught us in your program, I’m able to be in a place where I really prioritize myself. So I prioritize my self love, I prioritize my self care, I fill my cup. And in doing so, I’m able to manifest on a whole new, deeper level. And so today, I get in 99%, less fights with my husband less arguments than we ever did. Today, I am a much more present calm, just more loving, playful mom. Today in my business, I’m the leader that I always wanted to be. And so I’m just in a much better place. I’m in a place of gratitude all the time. I’ve found through TCP, a tribe of amazing women and friendships, and I’m really just a place where I’m in my power, and I’m living life to the fullest.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, I want to cover some of that. You say that you and by the way, for everyone listening, we had a little bit of an internet lag there I’m looking at I have five bars. I did, I did speed test before we started and I’m doing okay, and it’s fine, we’re gonna keep on going. So if we cut out here or there, we’ll just do our best to pick up with whatever you know was cut out or whatever. When you say, this is the big deal, this is a big deal, because we do a week together on choice and our time together. And when you said consciously choose happiness, what does it mean? And how do you do it?
Chelsea
Well, I literally because I realized that it was that happiness that I was always chasing. And through your program, I realized that everything comes from within. And that happiness is a choice. And what I learned was the power of responsibility, and the power of choice. And I always knew because I’ve always been Doer. And I’ve always been able to achieve success in many different areas personal and professional. But that was always three ways of doing and actions. And when I learned that it was choosing the thoughts and the words. I realized just how much power that really had. Because it’s it’s you know, and it took me so long to figure that out. So long to figure out the focus of my thoughts and self you say the slightest impression of your thoughts will manifest and it’s so true, and I found myself manifesting things I didn’t want but when I took the responsibility and reflected on it and said, cable, where have my thoughts been? I realized that I had actually created all that in my life. And so now I’m much more able to create intentionally.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, so what I hear you saying is that you had all these thoughts about external achievement, even though you didn’t identify as external achievement, meaning if I go do all these things, I got to be happy, right? I mean, it just makes sense. If I do these things, I’m going to be happy. And you did the things. And you had the things, but you still weren’t happy. Right? And then you then you recognized, okay. This is very subtle for everyone listening. It’s very subtle and very powerful. Where am I choosing to hold my attention? Because you know, you’re granting and you know, this is that we are where our attention is. And for me, and thank you for giving me the space, we have good dialogue here, a good exchange is, and the podcast, I get it, I do human being sometimes it takes us a while to learn. And you’re even evidence of that saying, Well, why didn’t I get it all these you know, all this time? And when I say you are where your attention is, people listening, wherever they are right now are like, Wow, that’s really cool. That’s a great phrase, I’m gonna write that down, blah, blah, blah. And they forget, two minutes later, and then they go back, they listen. And they’re all happy and excited. Now, this makes sense. And that makes sense. And then they stop listening. And then they move their attention to I cannot believe what my mother did this morning. My husband did this. My kids did that. My boss did this. And then where’s the retention? And then what are they creating? Right?
Chelsea
100%.
Jim Fortin
Okay, let’s go back here also, because this week’s podcast that came out, was called radical or is called, what do they call gratitude, which is, which is radical gratitude. And that’s actually going to be out today’s Monday, it’s going to be out on Wednesday. But you talk about gratitude in the podcast. So everyone listening, look for the podcast coming up called ratitude. But it talks about the power of gratitude. What did you discover for yourself, when you started exploring that?
Chelsea
Well, when I started exploring gratitude, and I always had done it, but when I started implementing it into my day, every single day, and I wouldn’t just choose big things like my kids and my husband and our home, but I started to pay attention to all the little things, you know, like the air and the sun and just every, every silver lining I could possibly find. I found that as I was more grateful, I was much more easily able to identify
Jim Fortin
wait where you cut out, you cut out. So you said the air the sun and then you cut out let’s go back.
Chelsea
So just the air, the sun, little things, right? Like the light, the seat that I’m sitting on, as I started to tune myself into gratitude about everything, I then more things to be grateful about, were just always showing up. And I became into a state of this perpetual gratitude. And I truly think that that just brought even more things to be grateful for into my life.
Jim Fortin
Okay, let’s go there. So how do you implement gratitude?
Chelsea
Well, I realized that I had always been this amazing manifester. And then through the tools I learned in TCP, I coupled everything I learned from her program. And I took it and I actually created a planner and a journal for myself. And so every morning I sit and I write out my gratitude journal, and I right through that, just through my day,
Jim Fortin
for the little things as well, right?
Chelsea
For all the little things, all the big things I’ve learned to even celebrate the little wins in my life, the big wins in my life. And again, that coax is into me receiving more of that.
Jim Fortin
Okay, that’s actually what this podcast is about also. So it’s it’s it’s synchronicity, which you and I know, there are no accidents and synchronicity that I’m talking to you and we’re talking about this. We’ll go some other places here. What does for you? How did you use to show gratitude a year ago, versus how you show gratitude now?
Chelsea
So I used to show gratitude a year ago, only when good things would happen. Only when the external world was giving me things I would wait, you know, now I look for things to be grateful for, and I make things happen. And I declare that I’m grateful for them. So my mindset just goes there I have created through TCP, really this bubble of inner peace, where Everything that penetrates my bubble is only things that serve me.
Jim Fortin
Okay? And guys, no gratuitous promotion here, but it’s just habit for Chelsea because we’ve been together for a year. Now, when she says TCP, what she means is that’s an acronym for the Transformational Coaching Program, which is my program that she’s been through twice, twice now. Right? Yeah. What going on a third time next month, right. Okay, I love your body language. When you say yes, because I laugh like Sandra Chimera, who was I think she’s been around for a couple of years. But I remember she said, why would people go through his program more than once, he must be a crappy coach. And now she’s on her fifth round, I believe. And she’s like, I get it. Because we, when we grow, we shuck away like peeling layers of the onion. And we grow and we grow more and more and more. Okay, let’s go somewhere. No go ahead.
Chelsea
Just to add to that, it’s so true. Because when I went before I had enrolled for TCP, I was going through your podcast religiously. And I thought to myself, why would I enroll in his podcast, there’s, why would I enroll is in his program, there’s so much valuable information in his podcast, if I just listened to that episode, a couple times, I’ll learn everything I need to know. And yet I was still drawn to enroll on it. And I am so happy I did because every time I do, I, I learned something or I bring something new into my life. So the first round was happiness. The second round was inner peace. And my third round is going to be fearlessness and showing up I’ve already set that intention.
Jim Fortin
I love it, that it’s going to happen for you. And that you mentioned that in talking to everyone listening. Every year, twice a year, when we promote TCP, we do get emails saying at all I remember one is very arrogant. She’s like, Why in the world? Would I enroll in your program when I have your podcast? And you know, you’ve it, you’ve explained that. And it’s kind of like saying, Bruce Lee is going to teach you martial arts. But why should I learn from Bruce Lee, when I can just read a book on, you know, martial arts, it’s not the same thing. There’s a difference between hearing the podcast when we talk about and the experience of getting on the bicycle and writing through transformational content. And we talk about experience. A question I have here is how do you how do you feel when you have gratitude?
Chelsea
I, that sense of inner peace just comes through me. And I just, I feel like I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be really I do. And I feel and going through the lock downs and COVID, what I’ve realized is that, you know, all those extra things that we chase in life, really, what is truly the most important, all of us already have it, right. I mean, we’ve got a refund our head, we have the family that we love, we have food on the table. You know, I just I feel that, when I’m in gratitude, I’m able to really tune in to what matters. And I just feel a sense of inner peace, and an inner, inner inner love, really,
Jim Fortin
I love that where I’m supposed to be is you know that I live in a small town in northern Arizona. And for example, you know that I renovated my house and then we just got to the place and it’s like it’s never done. There’s always something you know, and this morning is as getting ready for our time together. The the screens, the house is 20 years old, we got it It literally but all the screens for the windows in the house are being replaced. It’s like the last thing we’re doing. And they came on Friday, and they got half of them, but they didn’t get all of them. And the the frustrating part is that we have so many vendors that will come back one time two times three times, oh, we forgot we ordered the wrong. It’s just a lot of that. And this morning, I said you know, I’ve got a call today with you. And it’s going to be recording for the podcast. And as what generally happens, somebody’s going to show up and beat on the door three minutes after I start, right. And then I said whatever happens is exactly what needs to happen. sigh breve because it doesn’t matter. Now, that’s a concrete example that I give. But is that akin to what you’re talking about? Just let that if it’s not say so for people but just let things go just be present and everything is okay.
Chelsea
Yeah, I mean, even just look before we started this interview, I didn’t have headphones. I would have been sweating. I would have been mad at myself. I would have been worried that I had ruined the whole podcast and I’ve let that Go. And we’re just going to go ahead and do it. And it’ll be as it needs to be. So yes, the ability to let things go is something I never used to be able to do. And I have done that. Through TCP, it taught me the skills to be able to do that. On a profound level, I’ve even been able to let decades of trauma go and I know that you don’t, this is not like a course for trauma. But I’ve been able to heal on so many levels because of the supportive community that TCP is. And because of the tools that I learnt, where I now have the tools in place to leave stories behind and move forward in a direction that truly serves who I want to become and where I’m going.
Jim Fortin
That’s huge. And let’s help some people with that. Even before being repetitive again, what does that mean, to be because I’m going to tell you right now, all the people listening to this podcast, you can see this now being on the inside with me that most and I’m using a generalization, but I mean it most people won’t let things go. What does that mean? To what does it mean to you to a year ago, let’s see if we can concretize that in some way. So that people listening can go Geez, that that’s me. And she just gave me a tool. Let’s just pedal with that. What does that mean to not be able to let what’s the opposite of that.
Chelsea
It’s being attached, it’s it’s holding on to something that is almost just eating away at you. It’s bird on your shoulder that you’re carrying, that you don’t have to carry? You know, and if you would just, if you would just put yourself out there and say what it is you need to say no matter how scary it is. Really, it’s about being courageous, being vulnerable, and allowing yourself to shed what it is that you know is holding you back.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, you’ve really, you’ve really absorbed we’ve not talked personally, even though I see you in the group, you’ve really absorbed a lot of what I teach in the program is that in life, we think about things, we think that life is about getting something, the more I get, the more I’m going to have, the better I’m going to be the more that I develop myself, so to speak. It’s a metaphor here. But then the better I’m going to be and it’s not about getting more it’s about and everyone I wish you could see the video because she’s grinning. It’s not about getting, it’s about letting go of things. Because it’s it says it’s trying to be more and have more, do more and get more is what drags us down. Okay, so I’m making notes here as we go. Let’s go the opposite direction here. Can you tell us and whatever you want to share is fine. What you don’t want to share is fine, too. Can you tell us anything that was really counterproductive that you stopped doing?
Chelsea
Yeah, well, I used to be the type of person who would ruminate over the smallest, simplest, stupidest little thing.
Jim Fortin
This is a great choice. And everyone listening this is not pre planned. But this is because people listening can go, I’ll check the box. That’s me keep on going.
Chelsea
Yeah, I would just I ruminate and think about the stupidest little things, and I would let these things ruin my morning or ruin my afternoon or my day you’ve been Stop, stop, I’m gonna interrupt
Jim Fortin
for weeks and give me an example of a stupid thing you would ruminate on
Chelsea
a simple thing that somebody said maybe they said it three years ago, and I was profoundly offended by it. And I would think about that. It could be something as you know, something like that, where I would just carry it with me. And I just alluded to earlier the power of letting things go. And it just it carries on with so many things when you truly know who you are, and love yourself and are grateful for what you have and just are tuned in to where you’re going. All these other little things that kind of hit you but they don’t penetrate that bubble, you know? Yeah, you’re able to move forward and then go Oh, okay, hold on a second. I got to focus on what serves me because this is a waste of my time.
Jim Fortin
Which by the way, we talked about that exact same phraseology, what serves me What am I going to let go etc. Let’s go somewhere here. Now you were doing well before TC I don’t know where you were doing well before before TCP right.
Chelsea
On paper, I was doing great but inner like inside me I knew I was made for more. I knew I had a greater potential. I knew I couldn’t be happier. I knew I could be more joyful. I knew I could be more present.
Jim Fortin
Okay, let’s let’s take this apart. Let’s first speak to people Because in the US, you know, I talk about all these things is that 78% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. There were a lot of people listening, that there are probably a good percentage that are financially sound and comfortable. And a lot of people listening, that they’re just not there. They’re not. They’re not in any kind of find financial stability or financial resourcefulness. Let’s say that you were coaching them through everything you’ve absorbed with me. What would you tell them to do to get out of the get out of money problems, you use the word money problems, what would you tell them to do to get out of the money problems?
Chelsea
I would say that you need to invest in yourself, because it’s your mind that’s keeping you stuck. And it’s the limiting beliefs from the stories you’ve learned from your past. And from your upbringing, or from wherever, wherever it is that you are, that narrative that you’re holding on to is what’s keeping you stuck. And I know that you did this workshop, or you did some sort of a call where you talked about work, being separate from money, and I grew up thinking that they were one in the same I grew up thinking that the harder I work, the more money I would have. But from going through your program, I have worked very little this last year and made the same if not more money than I ever have. And I truly think that the it’s just the way I frame money. Now, it’s you know, I contribute to the universe in different ways, not necessarily through hard work. But from my belief system, I’m able to just draw money in. And I, for anyone who doesn’t get this, I’m sorry, if you join Jim’s program, you won’t get it. But it just starts to flow. It really does.
Jim Fortin
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Jim Fortin
I’m thinking of where to go with that. And I love that. And when she says for anybody that joins Jim’s program, I’m sorry, because she and I talked prior to us talking to all of you. And I said, we’re not gratuitously promoting the program, I want people to listen to us talking and say, That’s me. That’s me. That’s me. I can relate. I can relate. Okay, let’s go somewhere else here. A good percentage of people listening are in relationships. How have you changed in your relationship from a year ago to today? And how has the ways that you’ve changed, affected your relationship and your partner?
Chelsea
Definitely,the biggest thing that has changed is his relationships, my relationship with myself, my relationship with my partner, and it all comes from me used to being the type of person that would react to things. And so we would get into these arguments over little things that had no meaning, you know, at the end of the three days, and our argument was over, I’d forgot what we were even arguing about,
Jim Fortin
hang on, and I met a guy, people listening and interrupting, we don’t want to take this apart for you guys. We would get into arguments over the littlest things was that you being a nitpicker back then or trying to control?
Chelsea
It was I think me trying to control and it was a lot of it was stemming from my attitude, instead of it was a bit of both it was controlling it was not being able to let things go. And if my partner would respond in a way that I didn’t like, or was it the wrong way, then I take it to the next level, and then he take it to the next level. And now I’m able to step back, respond instead of react. And I think that’s probably one of the biggest things I have learned is my ability and the power and the choice I have to respond instead of react,
Jim Fortin
which we cover a week on that also as you know, response versus reaction. How do you respond now, you would said that you stop you take a step back. Is that correct? You metaphorically Take a deep breath. What do you say to yourself when you’re about to respond as opposed to reacting?
Chelsea
I really just, things just don’t even they don’t even get to that point. Some things said to me, and I’m just like, all right, like, I don’t even get to that level where I have to take a deep breath. It’s, it’s more so that it’s just now become a part of me. I don’t take things as, as I used to, I’ve learned to let things go. I’ve learned to just to pick my battles and and choose them wisely. And, yeah, that’s a really powerful thing, but it’s kind of just turned into my way of being.
Jim Fortin
Okay. How has this affected him? Your change? What have you seen in him as a result of now she is grinning everyone? For those of you not watching video? How does that affect your change? How is it affected his change or his way? Yeah, you
Chelsea
know, it’s so funny, because just last week, I haven’t had a bad day or anything like that in a really long time. I used to have three every two, three weeks now, I almost never have them. But the other day, I was just going through some things and he’s like, Oh, do you need to turn Jim on right now. But in terms of how it’s changed him, he’s a lot happier. And he’s like, life is just easier. Everything just flows with more ease, because now instead of dwelling on little things that don’t matter, we’re living in more joy. We’re living in more happiness, we’re living in more ease, and things have just when you’re happy and joyful, and grateful for what you have, life is better. And so I would say life is better for both of us. We get along more, we laugh more. It’s just, yeah. ripple effects all around.
Jim Fortin
Okay, so let me ask, Where do you live?
Chelsea
I live in Winnipeg, Canada. So right in the center.
Jim Fortin
That’s all we need. Just you live in Winnipeg, Canada. Okay. Do you live in Neverland?
Chelsea
I know life is so good. I wake up every morning and I’m like, Oh, my life is so good. It you know, look at the sun is shining. And I would say that I do.
Jim Fortin
Okay, well, the reason I’m giving you that metaphor is you live somewhere on the planet, right? And there are people all around you, and still the news and, and your prime minister and this and that and social media, you’re in a world that pretty much everyone else is in. Right? Notice all the people we’re not going to dig on the topic of COVID. But look at all the people that have been affected by COVID. In extraordinarily, let’s say there’s no there’s they’ve not had anyone around them be sick or any of that. But their their mental attitude has been completely tarnished, because of not having social contact or whatever they choose. How would you coach that person listening right now who’s let their life be dictated and controlled by all of that?
Chelsea
Yeah. And I used to be that person, so I get where they’re coming from. One thing that you always say is to be in this world and not of this world. And I really, really tried to embody that. And just like I do with my relationships, even with materials in my life, I really choose to only bring into my environment that which serves me, and so I get the information I need to know. And then I shut the rest of it off. And I’m really just, you know, I’m focused right on where I want to be on what I want to think and I consume myself, with positivity and with inspiration. And with things that I can do in ways I can be instead of focusing on the things I can’t control, because when we focus on the things we can’t control that just spirals the wrong way. And it just brings us in a place where we’re in a low vibrational state. And anyone
Jim Fortin
Yeah, I want to create a distinction here is that people listening, some people could say, Oh, she’s Miss rah, rah, motivational Susie, Susie happy, you know, and I want to point out that what we’re talking about is not external or even, even self motivation. It’s not that this is we’re not having a pep talk. It’s that you’ve shifted, how you experience the world.
Chelsea
Yes. 100%.
Jim Fortin
Okay. So you’ve shifted from a place of being externally driven, meaning the world around you is going to determine how you feel to being internally driven. I choose how I feel.
Chelsea
Yes,
Jim Fortin
right. So I want to point out this is not an please your your, your positioning on this, is you don’t have to get up every day. And rah rah, motivate yourself and listen to Zig Ziglar and all these kind of things. You don’t have to do that every day. Is that correct?
Chelsea
That’s right. And I mean, at one point I did at one point, it helped me, but after I was able to really, you know, because it’s all about repetition, right? It’s it’s reprogramming that subconscious that you teach us how to do it. Then all of that then just becomes so much easier until it just becomes your state. And so no, I don’t need to listen to 100 different, you know, positive affirmations every single morning, I say my own, I make my own choices. You know, I block certain things out, I bring certain things in. And it all just comes together. And yeah, I mean, I, I’ve been in a country and in a city where our province our lockdowns have been pretty restricting for several months. And this last year has really just been, so many things have been shut down, or the way of life is so different. And I can truly honestly say that I have never been happier than I was in the last year.
Jim Fortin
I love that. And that’s a choice whether what’s going on in the external world or not? It’s still a choice, right?
Chelsea
Yeah,
Jim Fortin
let me point out here there are people listening, I know that are going to say, well, you don’t understand, because you don’t have kids, or you don’t understand, because you’re married or this or that. You do have kids, right?
Chelsea
I have three kids, I had, gosh, three years, I’ve got a two year old, or three, he’s three. Now I got a three year old, a four year old and a six year old. So I get it, I totally get it. Again, it comes back to taking responsibility for how we choose to think what we choose to do, how we choose to spend our time, who we choose to surround ourselves with. It all comes down to that. And I feel like I mean, I still got some work to do. But we all learned, I’ve learned so much how to make these tools work for me, and how to just elevate me.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, there’s something in and You are correct. There’s something you said there that even though we’ve touched upon it, I want to dig on, dig into it some more. Because you’ve nailed that 100% is, I think you just use the word choose three times you said something like it all comes down to how I choose the blank and how I choose the blank and how I choose the blank. Even if we’ve already talked about this, let’s see if we can drill down further. How do you choose how to love let’s see if we can take it apart for people meaning you live your life? How do you choose one thing? Or for another? How do you choose what’s How do you know what’s gonna, as you wrote down here your exact words or serve me? How do you how do you know to choose these things?
Chelsea
I think one thing is just sitting down. And being honest with myself and knowing what I want. And, and you know, a lot of people I think don’t get what they want in life because they don’t actually decide or honest with themselves about what they want. And then it just becomes a matter of consciously doing it. And at first I you know, I’ve made several mistakes along the way, I veered off path several times. But when the TCP community is there, you jump in on the group, you talk to them about what’s holding you back that day, and they help bring you back into focus. And you realize that everything is a choice, every breath is a choice. You know, every thought is a choice. And I think that that’s just become so ingrained that now I don’t even have to think about it because it’s just become second nature.
Jim Fortin
Okay, let’s go somewhere there. The word community is, you know, you’ve mentioned a few times we have a really strong community. And as you know that it’s unlike anywhere else. And when I built this program, I never ever, ever had any thought I did speculation that would ever turn into what it’s turned into, in your mind, what’s the importance of community, and our mental health and the way we live our lives.
Chelsea
A supportive, loving, strong community, I think is everything. I mean, as amazing as your coaching is, and as your coaches is coaches are, the community that TCP is, is what brought my transformation to the level that it is because in that community, we trust, we support we love we you know, we encourage each other, but we’re also able to learn from each other, what one person is going through. So we’re so many other people. And it really just creates this bridge from where we are to where we want to be. And there’s so many people around to help us get there and who are with us along the way. So the TCP community is is everything and it’s a community where is so hard to find because I went in there and I I can’t even tell you this, you know, a year ago, two years ago, I prayed for the people that I have in my life now I pray for them. And through TCP, I’ve found them TCP in ways but a lot of them have come through TCP. And it’s everybody who’s wanting to just grow and develop and live a better life and we’re able to do that together. And so I think communities very strong.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, and I want to point out, thank you, I want to point out to everyone listening, the community is not rah, rah, rah, I believe in you, girl, you can do it go watch. It’s not that. It’s let me get us somewhere here. Let me think about how I want to say this. somebody that’s now a coach used to be in other people’s programs, not like not transformational programs, because not a lot of people do what I do. And after she went through her very first TCP, she goes, I’m in a year long membership over here at this other place. And I don’t want to go back. Because there are so many people over there that are trying to build a business that are victimized, their victims, and they make bad choices. And they complain, and they won, and they moan and they groan. Let me ask you, as you’ve transformed your life and changed the way that you be, and we use the phrase BE DO HAVE what have you noticed about the majority of the world around us and how people show up?
Chelsea
WellI use to be them. I used to be that person. I used to be a victim. You know, I used to be in victimhood. I used to complain, I used
Jim Fortin
Stop, stop real quick. But did you ever recognize you were a victim?
Chelsea
No, because misery loves company, right? And so when I was at my lowest state, I looked for people to be in their lowest state with me, you know, I looked to bring people down. Oh, look what happened to me. Oh, I’m so sorry. This sucks, doesn’t know what I mean. And it was just this never ending loop. And one of the things I love about you your style of coaching and TCP is that we don’t support each other at our lowest states, right? We give people the choice and the responsibility to figure out for themselves how they can bring themselves up. And that’s what you need. Because you’re not always going to be there to hold our hand, we have to be able to to create that from within. So yeah, that has been a huge part of my journey.
Jim Fortin
Thank you for that. And we do as you know, we go to environment. And I really want to go back here because so many people, the masses are paralyzed by fear, and the mass hysteria around COVID. Okay, let’s not even touch upon what it is what it’s not, you know, we have a progressive community with the community of TCP and work. all I’m gonna say is this is that the masses are looking for a vaccination, as opposed to thinking, how strong can I make my immune system? how healthy Can I be? Let me keep drinking my 12 pack of beer a day and smoking, but I gotta have the vaccination when it comes out. Right? So when it comes to achievement in life, I want to talk to you because you’re you’re financially successful. When it comes to building a business or financial strength or financial stability. And your opinion, how important is community in doing that?
Chelsea
Well, community is everything because, you know, the people that I have on my team and on my my staff, I mean, they’re all communities, they show up because of each other, they show up because of the people that they get to serve. And so community is just everybody is intermingled, right and so, even with my team, I tried to focus less on being the boss I used to be I used to be all about get your work in, get this done. Let’s hit these targets. And now I’m more so in a state of how are you guys doing? Like, do we need to take you know, whatever time to kind of talk about how you guys are doing, we need to go into, you know, a mental health day do you guys need a meditation or something? So I’m more concerned with their mental state and how they are coping through the lockdowns and through everything going on. But we lean on each other and you know, we support each other and we help each other and I think my community has done a really good job of being there for each other.
Jim Fortin
Let’s go to okay, because they’ll relate to this. So we can set thank you for that we can say that you are by social standards, a successful woman. Right? I mean, you’re you have all the external things plus now you have what you call the internal thing. So you’ve got a good life. Okay. Lots of women follow me and listen to the podcast. Now we have a lot of women that are working two jobs and three jobs and they’re in horrible relationships and they stay in horrible relationships out of fear, then seek it for security which securities in illusion as you know, I mean, if you want to get you know abuse but you get security for that, well what are you really getting, but let’s go here, if you were doing a women’s event and you were and fellows This is gonna apply to you too. Okay, because it applies to all of us. If you speaking at a woman’s event, female The Women’s Entrepreneur Association of Canada. And you had to tell people how to go from a life that’s not serving you. Well, when you’re struggling to a life of prosperity and abundance and abundance, even though you might have already covered this, let’s synopsize that for everyone listening. What would you tell us? Take your time if you need, okay.
Chelsea
First, I would say, get clear on what it is you want. And then anything that isn’t that doesn’t contribute to that. detach yourself from it. Let it go.
Jim Fortin
Hang on. And please remember your train of thought, Okay, I know what I want. I want $100,000 a year job. But I’m married. And my husband is a horrible husband who never shows up and there’s no support. And I have no, no, like romantic life at home. And all I do is take care of the kids. What’s the fee for listing real? How would we answer that?
Chelsea
Okay, so your husband is at home, he’s horrible, you’re too busy taking care of the kids? To break it down fully, I would say, Okay, well, what can you do? Like, is there is there any way that you can look at what options or opportunities are there, there are a bunch of multi level marketing opportunities where women are working from home, there are podcasts with so much information on how you can learn to change your situation, right, there’s Jim’s podcasts, there’s a bunch of podcasts on just so I would say get as much knowledge as you can figure out what it is you want. Look at the opportunities available to you. And anybody that tends to pull you down, I would say break away from that, you know, when if you find yourself getting into a right where you yourself are spiraling down, I would say try to release that by journaling it out, or calling someone who is going to lift you up, do what you can to get out of that frame and always come back to where do I want to be?
Jim Fortin
Okay, let’s go one more step. So I’m going to, we’re going to roleplay is my husband, I need to leave that environment, okay. And my husband, I’m afraid to leave? Where do we go, then
Chelsea
I would say if you really want to leave your husband, and you’re afraid to leave now, you know, look at where your life is going to be a year from now, or five years from now look at how much time will have gone by and you’re going to be stuck in the exact same place. So I would probably go there. Because we can i can tell people what I think they should do. And I can give all the advice in the world, but I truly want it for themselves.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, Until they want it for themselves is the key
Chelsea
Until they want it for themselves and they’re able to pull the trigger and make that change.
Jim Fortin
Yeah. And that being said, let me ask you this, because I know you’ve been in some not so great places in your life. 99.9999999 9-10 times out of 100. When you make that scary choice, do you die, does the world coming to an end,
Chelsea
You never die. You never die, at least. And you and I both know what we lose. If people listen to your podcast, there only is life, right? But yeah, you don’t you don’t die. And everything that you want is on the other side of that fear. You know, when I came to terms with my trauma, and faced it head on, or when I said I’m stuck, I’m sick of being in a state of mind. And I was afraid to click that button to jump into your course. I left I said goodbye to those old ways. I said goodbye to those old stories. And I committed myself to only the future. And I think that’s what people need to do is they just need to say enough is enough. I’m ready to move forward. And they just need to do it. And there is always a way. And I think when you declare what it is that you want. I think that the universe puts things into place and gives you doors and as long as you can trust that and trust yourself. It always works out.
Jim Fortin
Yeah, I have a client of mine I’ve talked about on the podcast very, very little. But he went from zero his company analysis now does about 100 million a year in five years. And I’ve known him for a long time even asked me before he started the business he’s in what should I do? And we had not talked for about a year back around, I don’t know 2013 or there abouts. And I’ve coached him after that years after that and his entire C suite. And I said you went from broke last year to millionaires millionaire status this year. What happened? Now everyone listening this could apply to anything in your life, whether it be your health, your wellness, your money, your relationships, whatever. He didn’t hesitate and he said and it’s very, very simple, most people miss, but it’s very profound. He goes, I decided to become financially secure. Notice how simple I decided the operative word is decided, I decided to become financially secure. And that backs up what you’re saying, know what you want. And you know what, just put one foot in front of the other, the world is not going to come to an end, no matter who you are, you leave your husband, you’ll leave your wife, whatever, the world is not coming to an end. Okay, I’m going to give you the stage. Let’s say that we’re which we want to do, we wanted to do for a year and a half now a live global TCP event, because you know, the amount of students we have, and we become family, like community for real people that are of like mind, which most of us I would say, are air quotes, spiritual and orientation. very progressive thinkers, not only politically progressive thinkers, but just open human beings. So we want to have an event. And let’s say I put you on stage in front of because we’re in Sedona, so it’s a small town. So we can only probably hold 500 at an event, you only you got 500 people on stage, and it’s your audience, what’s the message that you want to deliver to them, to give them a better life? Take your time I hit you with that you don’t know what it’s going to ask. So
Chelsea
I would really just say like, I look at myself, and I look at, you know, how I grew up, low income, very little direction, very little, you know, I don’t want to get back into my victimhood or whatever. But I would say if I can be do and have anything that I want, and I have and I’ve proven that to myself, Time after time again, in the last year, I’ve cultivated that inner peace and that inner happiness, then so can anybody else. Anybody can BE DO and HAVE anything.
Jim Fortin
Okay, simple. We don’t have to. I spoke at a real estate event many years ago. And there were top producers there. And one of my friends was co hosting. He was at that time, a very large national real estate coach. And he called somebody on stage and the guy was like the top producer, I mean, mega producer in the western United States in Southern California. And he says, How do you become a top producer? And he handed him the microphone. And the guy said, That’s easy. I go to work, I do what I need to do. And I go home. And that was that. I mean, everybody’s expecting this, like massive Oh, here’s how I did it. And he literally just says, I go to work, I do what I need to do, and I go home. Okay, let’s give them one more takeaway. What do you think of everything you learned in TCP, and our time together. And we want it to be tangible to everyone listening, and I’m sure it will be. If you can only have one tool to transform your life. And our time together one phrase, one concept, one tool. I’m slowing slowing down, giving you time to ponder. You only get one. What tool would that be? That if you had to give it to someone else? And you say execute on this tool, it will change your life? What is that one tool?
Chelsea
So easy, because it’s what we’ve been talking about this whole time. And it’s just choice, right? And everybody knows they have a choice. But do they really get that everything they do think, say? Everybody they surround themselves with everything they would enjoy their life? Do they know that they’re making a choice, because you are. And if I could give people about awareness, that would change everything for anybody.
Jim Fortin
Thank you so much in the podcast, that’s why I say there’s a podcast titled, and it’s so simple that a lot of us miss it. It’s titled, The title is not life is a choice, the title is life is choice. And you think about that, everything in your life is choice. And you can what people do is look for, you know, ways around that. But you look at Viktor Frankl who wrote the meaning of life, and he was a Nazi war prisoner back in the 40s in Germany. And he wrote the meaning of life. And basically, the whole gist is, is everything can physically be taken away from you. But what can not be taken away from you is your power to think as you choose. And for all of us, no matter your circumstance, because you know, in TCP, we see people from 20 different countries literally, all walks alive from poverty, like me. I grew up on a farm for crying out loud, a real farm. You grew up not having a lot of money. You see the whole gamut of people doing that to people that have you know, very successful families and everything. But I think what we All Gad is that where we are in life, all of us is not a matter of the external world, it’s a matter of our internal world from the inside, you know, we work from the inside out, that is a choice. So, anything else you want to finish up with today? Or are we good?
Chelsea
Yeah, no, I just I’m going back to when you said you had that guy on the real estate stage and how he said, I just do what I got to do. And and then I leave. And it’s so true, if we all know what we need to do. And if we would just let you know that those extra distractions and the extra BS that we let into our life, take up so much and consume so much of our time, then I think there’s just so much that we can do and overcome or achieve and bring into our lives, if we would just stay focused. And through TCP, it really helps you understand how to focus in on where you want to be. And that’s one of the greatest gifts that I learned. So I am super grateful that I got to be here today. And I thank you for inviting me to this to the podcast.
Jim Fortin
Thank you on behalf of myself and everyone listening again, I know that we all you know, I can say things. And some people get it, some don’t. And I know my own life, somebody can say something and I’m like, Okay, and then somebody says the same thing, and a very different way. And I’m like boom. Oh, wow, I really get it. So I think we touched on a lot of things that people listening, even if they can’t, you know, they don’t air quote, get it from me. Hopefully what you said they get and they’ll start implementing and executing in their lives. Chelsea, thank you so, so much for being here today. And I’ll see you soon.
Chelsea
Thanks, Jim. Thanks for all you do.
Jim Fortin
Okay, thank you. Thank you, everyone listening.
 

Conclusion

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