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EPISODE 161: “Stop Giving Your Power Away Part 1”

April 7, 2021

I know you’ve probably never thought of it in these terms, but simply by virtue of being a human, you have amazing power! 

Now the question is, given the title of this episode, how much of your power do you give away?

Most people, in an effort to please others and to be liked, give away a huge amount of their power and don’t even realize they are doing it.

And, what happens when you give away your power…you’re powerless…that’s what. And, what happens when you’re powerless?

This is a short episode and I introduce the subject of giving your power away. I give you an amazingly simple exercise to do so you can start keeping more power in your life.

What does this mean? I’ll explain more about it in the next episode.

Right now this episode is going to be an awareness and the start of you making choices to stop being controlled by others!

So, for now, give the episode a listen and do what I suggest you do and we’ll go to the next step next week.

Transformational Takeaway

You give your power away when you live your life by what others think you should and should not do.

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Full Episode Transcript


You're listening to the Transform your Life from the Inside Out podcast. This episode is titled, stop giving your power away. And this is part one of a at least a two part series that I'm going to do. But I want to start talking to you about how you may live your life in a certain way. And you're giving other people all of your power. And then these very people are controlling you. So keep listening.

Hi, I'm Jim Fortin, and you're about to start Transforming Your Life from the Inside Out with this podcast. I'm widely considered the leader in Subconscious Transformation. And I've coached super achievers all around the world for over 25 years. Here, you're going to find no rah rah motivation, and no hype. Because this podcast is a combination of Brain Science, Transformational Psychology, and Ancient Wisdom all rolled into one to take your life to levels, you've never thought possible. If you're wanting a lot more in life, to feel better, to heal, to have peace of mind, to feel powerful and alive, and to bring more abundance and prosperity into your life then this podcast is for you. Because you're going to start learning how to master your mind and evolve your consciousness. And when you do that, anything you want, then becomes possible for you. I'm glad you're here.

Don't Just Consume Content, Execute Content

Okay, so stop giving your power away. And let's go here first. And by the way, before we go anywhere, this is really going to be a short episode. And the reason why is I could give you content all day long. I mean, you could spend the next, you know, every waking hour of your life for the rest of your life consuming content. But it doesn't mean your life's going to get any better. And that's what so many people do is they consume content. And many will listen to motivational things and empowering things and you know, things that they think are helping them, you know, their lives, but yet their lives don't improve. And the reason why is you you can consume content all day long. But until you execute the content, and you bring the application into your own life, nothing is going to change. So in this episode, I want to start talking to you about how you're giving your power away. And let's stop that. I mean, for crying out loud, let's stop giving your power away. And so this episode, we're going to start creating awareness. So I'm going to give you an assignment set this episode. And then I'll dig into it more next episode.

But I want you to take a week between this episode and the next one, to really look in the mirror with what I'm going to share with you today. Now, you know, I don't know when you're going to listen to this podcast. And what many of you or some of you might do is listen and go well, you know what? Okay, yep, I get it. I do that that's really good. Click Next episode? Well, you're not helping anyone, you know, what's the point of even listening if you're not going to execute on the content. So wherever you are in life, whenever you're listening, take what I'm giving you this week, and execute on it, and then come back to the next episode. And at least give it at least three, four or five days, before you even go to part two of this. You know what I'm talking about, before you even dig into part two, if not Part two is not going to be of any value to you.

So let's start here is let's start with how you give your power away. And let's go here, what does it mean? Well, it simply means that when you live your life according to the expectations and the wants and wishes of other people in that moment, you're giving your power away. Now, how do you give, you know, how do you do this? That's what it is what I just just explained. But how do you do that? Are you ready? How you do that is when you do or do not do something in your life, based upon how you think other people are going to think about you for what you did. Meaning you either do something or you don't do something based upon oh my gosh, if I do that, or I don't do that, then other people are going to think x, y, z about me. And if they do, that's going to reflect poorly on me. Therefore, I'm going to give them all of my power by doing or not doing what I think they should do or not do. And in that moment. In that moment, you have just given them your power. And then what happens many times is you give them your power. They abuse your power, and here's what happens next.

They control You, yeah, they control you. Why? Because you're living your life, which is even listen to how that sounds your life, you're giving your life away to other people out of fear of what they are going to think about you. And in that moment, you're no longer living your own life, you no longer have your power, you're living your life by what you think other people think you should or should not be doing with your life. And that's an extraordinarily disempowered place. And many, I mean, many people, and I see it people, you know, a phrase that I use is many people are in their 40's and 50's. And I say that they, they're letting their mothers live rent free in their head, and their 30's and 40's. And when they're being controlled by their mothers from 30 years ago. I mean, it's, and there's no judgment here. I mean, I'm not at that place in my life now. But it's shocking to me, the amount of people that are 30 years old, 40, and 50 years old, and their parents are still alive. And they won't do what they want to do with their life. Because they're afraid, their parent is going to think x, y, z about them.

And they live their life, or they live in places that don't want to live or keep jobs or stay in relationships or whatever, because of their parents. And there's no power in that. Because see, the second you do that, the second, you do that, as I said, you're giving your life to the other person, and you're not living your life, you might think you're living your life, but you're not living your life, you're living their version of what they want for your life. So in this episode, let's create some awareness because we can't change anything unless we have awareness. And we want to create the awareness so we can stop eliminating the behavior of you giving away your life. So this is what I want to do this week. Now I know again, that many people come here and they want the content, give me the content, you know, and, and what people do. And I know because I'm no different than I look at my old self, what people do is they consume and they consume, and they consume and they consume. And you know what? They forget 90% of it literally, within a few days, within a few hours, people will consume content, and they literally will click off. And 10 minutes later, they're right back to their old behaviors. Again, the only way, the only way you're going to change your life is through application. So this is what we want to do.

For the next seven days, what I want you to do is I want you to keep a running tally of how much that you do or do not do. Because you're concerned about what other people will think about you. And that runs the whole gamut of literally Should I get married? Should I not get married? Should I go out to the bar tonight with my friends, should I not go out to the bar with my friends. I remember many years ago, and he had such a lack of skills, interpersonal skills and personal skills is I called a friend of mine, many, many years ago, and I was going to call him and say, hey, let's go out tonight. And he wasn't answering his phone all day, which I thought was a little bit odd. And this is back before cellphones, or Yeah, right around the time we just started getting cell phones. And I call them and no answer. So I went out with some other friends. And he was out that night. And I ran into him. And I'm like, Where were you all day I tried to call you and he goes, why didn't know you were trying to call. And he goes, the reason that I did not pick up my phone all day is because of other people called I didn't want to tell them that I didn't want to go out with them.

And I've always remembered that story. And that that entire afternoon prior, he was holding his life captive, you know, captive to the people that he didn't want to do or you know, do something with because of their expectations, or whatever it was, and he had no power. So what I want you to do, keep a small note, you know, no book. It's easy. Also, don't do it on your phone. You can but do not do it on your phone. Why? Out of sight out of mind. Keep a small little notebook, a little moleskin or something and I've got in my house, I have tons of moleskin notebooks and in my office. Why? Because I'm always actually tracking my behavior because my behavior will tell me everything about myself.

Because we love to fool ourselves. And when I can track behavior, I can get an accurate picture for what I'm doing or not doing, despite what I might think which many times is self deceptive because we love to fool ourselves. So keep a small notebook. And what I want you to do is I want you to notice Literally around, you know, early afternoon, two o'clock, whatever, one o'clock noon, whatever, just stop for a second and take an inventory of how many things that I do or not do this morning, based upon what someone was going to think about me if they found out that I did or did not do something. And that's again, you know, returning phone calls or going to lunch with somebody or not going to lunch of somebody, you know, so look at that, the simplicity of that, and then do it, you know, in the evening before bed, you know, 8, 9,10 o'clock at night, whatever, do it just sit down for a couple of minutes and look at what happened. You know, what happened today? What did I do or not do based upon what I thought someone would think about me If I did or not, you know, didn't do it?

And what I want you to notice that and I want you to Well, let me back up here, I want you to notice that notices and all of your life. Did you shoot a video today? Because you wanted to do a Facebook Live and friends were doing it but you were afraid of you that they were going to judge you? Did you shoot a video or not? You know, shoot a video.Did you buy a new car or not? Buy a new car. Did you buy some car that you didn't want? Did you go on a date? Did you not go on a date? Did you say something in public? Did you not say something in public? Here's a biggie? Did you tell your family or not tell your family something based upon what you think they're going to think about you? What about this? Let's bring it a little bit closer home? What about your partner? Did you if you have one? Did you tell your partner things you know or not tell your partner things based upon what you thought they would think about you if you told them you did or you didn't do something? Now, notice, notice and get honest, how much of your life is controlled by other people? Now I know also, what I'm going to have here is I'm going to have some people saying No, that doesn't apply to me, I do what I want to do when I want to do it.

Maybe, but I doubt it. And the reason that I doubt it, for most people, is because so many people are influenced, because we're social creatures influenced by what they think other people are going to think about them. Because people not people will spend 99% of their time and think about this. People will spend 99% of their time either trying to look good in front of other people, or trying not to look bad. Now listen again, they will spend 99% of their time trying to look good, or not look bad in front of other people. Now, imagine that I had a mirror and held that up right in front of your face. What do you see? And then what people might, you know they might do is say, Well, yes, I see that in myself. But what I'm wanting you to recognize in this episode is that if you see that, and you're honest with yourself, and you see that in yourself, guess what? You're being controlled by other people. And right now in our culture is the greatest time to look at that.

And I'm not taking any sides here. I'm not going to say anything personal in this podcast in terms of my personal thoughts on it. Because my thoughts don't matter to the masses that is, is I want you to look at the two sides of the aisle about wearing a mask or not wearing a mask because of COVID and do you you know wear a mask? Do you not wear a mask? What especially you know where it's mandated where you have to, but but look at what you do and don't do and do you do it because of the external influence. That right there is your barometer. So for the next seven days, you know what to do and just keep a running total of it and running track. And then what I want to do again in the next episode, as I mentioned earlier, is I want to dig into this deeper and look at tools that you can start using and start releasing yourself. From what I call it as cicala leaking your personal power.

It's like for example, you go outside of your car, if you have a car, and you take the little cap off the little, the tire stem, you know where you fill your tire up, and you poke a nail into it, not the tire but the stem and you get the hissing noise because why air is rushing out of your tire. You're leaking air out of the tire. Well as a being, you're leaking, you're leaking your energy, you're leaking your power, when you actually do or do not do based upon what you think other people are going to think about you, you're leaking your power. And here's something else, which I'm not going to go into today. When you leak your power, you have no power. And when you have no power, you have no power to heal yourself if you need that you have no power to create and manifest if you need that. Why? Because you're powerless. And that's what we want to start putting a stop to.

So remember this, here's your takeaway is that you give your power away when you live your life by what you think you should or should not do, based upon the opinions of other people. Okay, you've got your homework. So you know what, and get started right now on it, literally the second you're done, get started on that. And let's start creating some transformation in your life at a deeper level. Okay, thanks for listening, and I'll catch you on the next episode. Bye bye.


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