EPISODE 189: “Podside Chat – Five Random Thoughts To Transform Your Life”
In this week’s episode I dug into some old notes and teachings I have acquired and I wanted to share them with you.
I’ll give you a hint as to what I cover in this episode and then you have to listen to the episode to discover more for yourself.
The five random thoughts are:
1. You don’t get what you want in life, you get what you need.
Have you ever noticed that many times you’ve wanted something and you didn’t get it? Instead, you got something you think you didn’t want and it turned out to be better? Higher mind does not give us our simply wants all the time, it gives us what we need to grow and evolve spiritually.
2. What are your biggest distractions in life?
How often have you wondered, “Why do I waste so much time and why can’t I focus on things?” Distractions are the biggest thing that keep you from what you want in life.
In this segment I talk about how we often distract ourselves from greater things in life and the 2×2 between the eyes is that what we allow as major distractions are also what we become devoted to in life.
3. Deciding what you want to do with your life.
You’ve often seen social media posts with lists like, “The top five regret of those dying.” There is a reason people have these regrets and I’ll share that in this episode.
When we “use our life” and we live it purposefully we have no regrets and we live our lives well!
4. Fighting with yourself
You see in the world where people are fighting this enemy or the other but have you considered that the greatest enemy you have is yourself? Conquer that enemy and your life will forever be much happier.
You may think that your greatest enemy is outside yourself and for most of us our greatest enemy is in ourselves.
5. Acceptance surrender
Trying to control things in your life? Trying to make things happen? Frustrated when things don’t work like you want? There is an easier way.
When we accept ourselves and accept others for who they are life becomes a lot easier and peaceful
These are five powerful lessons I have learned in my time working with a shaman and I share them with you in the hope that you’ll find power in them for yourself.
Be purposeful and be in peace.
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You're listening to the Transform your Life from the Inside Out podcast. This episode is titled Five Different Thoughts to Transform your Life. This Episode is actually a really simple episode, it's easy for you to digest, I think the point is, is just to give you some random things, to ponder and things to think about. And especially to look at some of the things that have been getting in your way, stopping your transformation, and keeping you keeping you from what you want in life. Keep listening.
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Podside Chat - Five Random Thoughts To Transform Your Life
Okay, so this episode, Five Random Thoughts, Five Different Thoughts. in putting this episode together, I started thinking about what I wanted to do, I often go through my notes, I don't have like, I don't have any notes right now in front of me. But I mean, I have piles and piles and piles of what I call spiritual notes. When Don Xavier, my brother in law visits with me, for 20, over 25 years now, I'm always taking notes. And you know, they can be one line. And later, I'm like, What are that? You know, what was I saying there? What's my chicken scratch, or they can be pages and pages of notes. So I looked through for this episode, just some things that I wanted to bring to you that might hop out at you, that might jump out at you a little bit, to give you some pause, and food for thought. first thought is this. It doesn't mean that we can have what we want in life. But the first thought is, is you don't always get what you want in life.
Now, the reason behind that, or the reasoning, I guess from you know, the cosmic perspective, is that many times we want things that are not aligned with a higher path for us. I want to go back I know I told the story here in the podcast before. Actually, before I tell that story, I want to share another one with you. I remember this massage therapist in New York City many years ago, that worked on me quite a bit. His name was Danny. And the first time he worked on me, I was like, good. Gosh, I mean, this guy knows body work. It was like he knew, like everything behind my shoulder blades and in my fingers. And in my elbow. I mean, the guy was amazing. And after the massage, I said, Where did you learn this? And I mean, how did you learn because I've had a lot of massages in my life. candidly, most of them aren't that good. But I've had a lot of massages, where if I feel like somebody kind of just rolled me up on a ball, like a tight tight ball, and then unraveled me and I'm like, Oh, you know, this is this is Nirvana, this is peace.
And after that massage, I you know, I did say Where did you you know, where did you learn this because you're an artist. I mean, you understand body mechanics, unlike just an analytically trained therapist, you get it. And he told me that many years prior back in the mid 90's, he wanted to he was lost in life, and he didn't know what he wanted to do with his life. And he said, I planned the trip to Europe to backpack across Europe. And I was planning to go just to kind of, you know, get quiet and get out of my environment and, and think and absorb and explore the world a little bit. And he said, 10 days before I was to leave, I was in a really bad car accident. And he said I was in the hospital for a bit. And I had to have physical therapy to rehabilitate myself. And it goes as they were rehabilitating my body. The thoughts were, Wow, what an amazing job these people have. Because they're helping people rehabilitate the body they live in. They're giving these people a better life, you know, mechanics and movement and mobility. flexibility. And he said that really interested me.
And he goes, I wanted to learn how to do that. And so I really dove into it. And today obviously you know if you a few years later I am a different places call them different things. RMT Registered Massage Therapist, LMT Licensed, whatever, but a massage therapist. And the reality was is he even said to me, I remember he is I didn't get what I wanted. I wanted the trip to Europe. And I didn't. I didn't get that quite the opposite. Is I got the the accident. I can say from personal experience. Had you asked me prior? Hey, Jim, you know, it's Monday, you got nothing to do? Do you want heart failure this week? I would have said Hell no, I don't want heart failure. This I don't want to at all, not this week. And I healed from that.
And then I had the hemorrhagic stroke. And if you asked me, hey, Jim, you know, do you have a great ride? Last time? Why don't you know, how about a hemorrhagic stroke this week? Hell, no, I don't want a hemorrhagic stroke. So the heart failure in the stroke, and I wanted neither. But what I want to share with you is, those two events in my life, are two of the most significant events in my life, not because they were air quotes, significant, but because of the learning opportunity, they gave me. The self exploration, opportunity, the opportunity to learn at a core level, how to heal, how to dig deeper, and myself and then to myself, and to look into myself and to explore even things in my life. Like, what's my level of gratitude? What truly is my mental power? What is the body capable of doing, and I'm serious I, you know, I mean, who gets I joke now, who gets lucky enough to have a stroke and heart failure, and the very same year 2020 of all years on top of COVID, and everything else. And not only that, I did have COVID, a few a few months back. And that was also not a fun experience. But I take so many natural things that even though I was technically high risk category, I literally had COVID, it wasn't a walk in the park. But I appreciate that experience, because I had extreme exhaustion. And it taught me to be grateful for when I have energy, it reminded me to be grateful for when I have energy, and I'm feeling good and vibrant.
And even now I hop in my car every day, when I will all day long, and I do things. But remember, even a couple of couple of days ago, I hopped in my car. And I said, you know I feel amazing today. And thank you, body, thank you body, for the mobility and the feeling good and all the things that you do for me. So when we look at things that we get in life, you know, many times we're like, I didn't want that, whatever it might be. We think we don't want it. And then later we look at it and we're like, you know, that's exactly what I needed. I've often found that people also couples also attract to themselves. Many times you've heard the old phrase before that we attract opposites. Now, I don't know if that's true or not that we attract opposites. But I look at my partner. I mean, we're night and day opposites. And we've been together 20 years. And I have to say looking at my own life, is that many times we don't attract what we think we want in partnerships. We attract someone who pushes every one of our buttons, someone who you want to wring their neck half the time, and they want to wring your neck half the time. And the reality that I learned about that the observation is that even in relationships, many times we don't get what we want. We get what we need to grow and evolve spiritually.
And in the world that we live in, most people I'm human, I'm going to use the word most are clueless about that. Because what do they do? instead of choosing to evolve and grow? They cut and run meaning you know I'm not going to change you change a divorce court and all this kind of stuff is on the way and then people get into relationships and repeat the same patterns again, not recognizing they took their self with them to the next relationship. So the takeaway first bullet is we often don't get what we want in life. We get what we need. I've told it here before a very short story here. Many years ago, I wanted to work at the Carter Presidential Center. I'd mentioned that and I think in the last episode of the one before. And I mentioned that I left the Carter Presidential Center. And the reason why is the final job that I wanted, there was the Assistant to the President Carter's cheapest staff.
And my good friend, Doug said, who I've mentioned on the podcast before, he said, if you get it, that's great. If you don't get it, that's great as well. My thinking was, What do you mean, I want that job, I really want that job. And I didn't get it. And yeah, I think I didn't get the job. And the reality was, I didn't get it in the way that I wanted. Let me put it that way. That's a bigger story. But let me put it that way. I didn't get it in the way that I wanted or the outcomes that I wanted, or where it would take me. And the reality was, is that I wouldn't be doing today what I'm doing. had that not happened, back then had all the events that were surrounding that not had happened in the way that they happened, I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing today. And I can tell you that I'm truly passionate about what I do, and I love what I do.
Okay, next bullet is what are your biggest distractions in life? That's a big question. What are your biggest distractions and life? And then I asked you, what are you distracting yourself from a segue thought. And you've heard this before, I suppose. And I've heard it for many years before, as I was reading a post a couple of days ago, and somebody said, I'm really excited, I'm going on vacation. And I thought, I grew up that way, learning that, hey, you know, you work and you go on vacation. And I thought, What a pity it is that we live in a world, that you have to go on vacation, to get away from a vocation that you spend 80% 90% of your time, or however, whatever percentage of your time doing, see my life. I don't need a vacation, because every days of vacation, I'm a really high income earner. I love what I do. I love everything about what I do for the most part, and I get to help people. I mean, there's so many rewards for me, Eric, we're going to work. But anyway, I want to segue back to what are your distractions.
And one of your biggest distractions for most people is the internet. And we can have all kinds of distractions, they can be the internet, they can be chemicals, they can be hate, you know, be behavioral, they can be gambling, they can be sex, it can be drugs, it can be, it can be internet porn, which there's a challenge with that on the world. It can be drugs, it can be a lot of things. But the question that I have is, which we'll come back to number one is what are your distractions? And secondly, what are they distracting you from? Consider that, what are your distractions, distractions, distracting you from?And what I've noticed in my own life, and people that I've coached over the years, is that many, many times people can use their distraction as a crutch, they can use it as an excuse as to why they can do something, therefore my life is what it is. And I'll just continue my distraction of, for a lot of people, it's surfing the internet. And, you know, I know I've talked a little bit about this before the brain aspect of this. And I just want to be candid with you is there was a whistleblower recently about Facebook.
But you know what social media and in particular, Facebook doesn't have your best interests at heart, what they have at heart because their company is keeping you distracted and air quote, addicted to Facebook, and WhatsApp and Instagram. And the reason why, because you know what, the more eyeballs they have watching, the more ad space they can sell, you know, the more ad time and ad space and the more money they can make. And it's not just that we watched Facebook, I'm not going to go into it in depth here, or really as long as I could. But there's a concept called racing to the brainstem and that's a reptilian part of the brain. And there's also a part of the brain that's the reward center. And Facebook does things were did things for example, when they give you a general example here, but it's a real example is I remember years back when you might log on to Facebook and you didn't have any likes on you know, whatever it might be you posted no likes, and you log on later. And you have a lot of likes, and then you hear that back when they just have like ding ding, ding, ding all the likes.
The reason They do that or did that was because that is a bigger dopamine in their brain chemical payoff if you have multiple Ding, ding, ding, ding ding dings than simply one thing. And so they would, they would hold your dings and you're like, tell they could rack them up and give you multiple. And it's kind of like going to gamble in Vegas, is when you pull a slot machine and you hit the you know, you hit the jackpot, what happens, the whistles and the bells and the sirens and everything go off. And the reason why major dopamine, release what's which makes you feel good. And then what we do, which we called Neural, Neuro Associating, we neuro associate associate, which means we tie that good feeling to that ding. Now we have a dopamine drop in the brain, a dopamine release. And it's all contrived. It's all contrived to keep you glued, and I'm shocked at the amount of people that are glued to their phones. And people can't put down their phones, and full transparency. I've been one of those people as well.
But the thing is, is I knew that I was being deceived, and air quote, tricked. And I knew the dopamine release, and I was aware of all those things, I would do it for distraction, because I chose that's the operative word. I knew what I was doing. And I chose to have that as a distraction at those times in my life. But if we don't know and you don't know what I'm sharing with you now, then literally You are a brain prisoner. And your your distractions which take away from things that you could be doing to build and improve your life are robbed from you by social media, you know, think about how much time but I'm just going to tell you my opinion only is that Facebook is trash, it's garbage. It's a humans, for the most part a human garbage dump. And that which we're going to get to in a minute. And that what's posted there quite often is people arguing and bitter people and opinionated and tearing other people down and, and literally negative commenting and all these kind of things that bring out the worst in people, not the best in people.
So I may do another episode on this, I don't know. And here's here's your takeaway this bullet is think about this for a moment. What continuously distracts you is what you are devoted to. What continuously distracts you is what you are devoted to. Nothing for a moment. Do I have the outcomes that I want in life? Okay, no, because I'm, we devote our lives it's just something we do we devote it to working away, like, on the side of the road or painting houses or, or art or, or even what I do, I'm devoted to this. But we have to look at our life and say, Do I get the outcomes that I want? Okay, yes or no? And if no, then we have to look at what am I devoted to, because what you're devoted to will pull your attention and energy and you spend your life basically tied into what you're devoted to. And then when you look at it, you know, you look at it closely. That's to me. I've been there a pretty nasty picture. When you look at am I devoted to personal development and growing and becoming as spiritually aware as I could this week? Am I devoted to completely spiritual growth that might have voted to personal development? Am I devoted to working out? Or am I devoted to scrolling online, and scrolling and scrolling, which is what a lot of people do, because they find so many distractions, even in that concept of scrolling, scrolling, not scrolling. And the reason why is because they're scrolling for things that interest them, and then they get sucked into it like a vacuum cleaner. So anyway, that is the second point is what continuously distracts you is what you are devoted to. And I don't know about you. But for me, that's like a whammo two by four right between the eyes.
Next is my mentors mentor, once said to me, and it's been one of the most profound things ever said to me, and my mentor, obviously, is Don Xavier, not the one on YouTube, a Shaman. And by the way, if you've not done it, or if you're new, go back to the very beginning of the podcast, and start there. I've just hold people forever. That's Start from the very first episode because we tend to want to dig in, you know, wherever we find something, go to the very first episode because I talk a lot about my brother in law, but not about him about the lessons I've learned from him. But his mentor, once said to me, is, he said, the most important thing that I ever did in my lifetime. And when I ponder this, I'm like, holy crap, that's powerful. He said, one of the most important things I ever did in my life, was I decided what I had to do before I crossed over, meaning before he left the planet. And most of us never go through our lives deciding what we're, you know what we're here to do. And we spend our entire life being reactive and responsive, and just trying to eke out a living because we don't understand which how the world on the universe works.
You know, you see often on social media, and like, even my own personal Facebook, I don't use it I used two years ago, and one day it dawned on me is like, this is crap, this is toxic, this is the gutter. I'm not coming back here. And I just stopped using my own social media years ago. And in fairness, I mean, I have to be honest, as social media does help, because it helps me reach more people in a positive way. But I think it's as humanity, I think, many of us have gravitated towards using it for self serving, economical purposes. And in my opinion, we're miss using technology and what it can actually do for us. But I remember many years ago, I saw post and I saw it multiple times. And it was like, the top five list of those are the top five regrets of people dying, written by a nurse. And who even knows what's true online, and it could have been written by, you know, Mr. Snuffleupagus, or Joe Schmo, who knows who wrote that. But all you got to do with the full people online is put some incredible looking on it.
But anyway, so when I read that, and I started thinking about this episode, I thought the top five regrets of those dying now, had they devoted their life and decided what they wanted to do with their life before they passed over. Do you think they would, they would have been regretful because people have asked me, I've been in a lot of interviews, and people have said, What do you regret in your life? And that's such a, just a common human question. The people What do you regret? And honestly, I have one regret. I think that's it. I'll tell you in a minute, but I don't regret anything. I don't regret anything. Because anything and everything that I've done or haven't done is brought me to where I am today. Now, the one regret that I do have was back 10 11 years ago, and I'm being partly jovial. But it is a small regret, because I love watching people that are at the top of their craft. I mean, I love watching people that literally, I mean, they're maestro's, they're masters at what they do, whether it's pottery, or art, or singing or whatever.
And many years ago,it was the last week of her last show at Caesar's Palace. And I had front row center tickets to see Cher. And I love Cher because she's reinvented herself so many times. I mean, she is the epitome of resilience. And if you ever watched the interview, she just basically tells it like it is I mean, watch her many years ago, her and David Letterman, you know, get out with each other. And I'm like, you know, front row center, Caesar palace tickets to share, and I did not go and I thought what would I have absorbed and learned from watching that entertainer, a person who has mastered to the highest degree their craft, and I chose to miss the opportunity when I had the tickets. And you know, that's kind of crazy. People might think, well Andrew Bocelli or you know, I don't know what's her name, Celine Dion. And now this these are great artists too. But that's I love watching showman at the top of their game, or show women at the top of their game so I do regret not going to that concert. But I made it for it. 10 years later, 11 12 years later, because the next year, I have front row center tickets to Elton John and i that's the second they came out. I got online, I found Two front roads smack dab center tickets. And I hit by now right then and there. So hopefully I can make it up with Elton overshare many years ago and both of them by that time, I mean, they're both going to be in walkers anyway, they're both mid 70s. And I'm kidding about walkers. 70 is not that old,
Anyway, is are you just haphazardly going through life? Seriously? Consider that. I mean, just stop for a moment. Well, if you're driving, just don't stop. But stop your thinking for a moment. and ponder that. Have you fallen into your life? Or, and use limit wrote, and it's what you're supposed to do? And what mom and dad and society thought you're supposed to do? Or have you consciously chosen what you want to do with the rest of your life. Because if you want dividends in life, and you want a powerful life, then you know what? Use your life. And I remember when I worked at the Carter Center many years ago, Jimmy Carter, there's a lot of things which people are not aware about. I mean, I was a nembhard, with the things that I would see when I was in the, in the, you know, in his Executive Offices, and the people that he helped in the world, people think he's just Habitat for Humanity wrong. That man would travel the world and monitor elections. I mean, he cured through getting donations, river blindness, in Ghana, Africa. And he was constantly doing extraordinarily far reaching humanitarian efforts at all across, you know, places all across the globe. And I thought to myself, holy cow, that man uses his life. And I remember watching last season, I watched Debra Hurt, not Abra, Oprah her last season. And she said, use your life. Now, I don't know what you think about me or don't think about me, I mean, your opinions, none of my business. But you know what? I use my life.
And I know that when I'm done with this life, that I'm metaphorically going to slide in the home plate. And I'm going to say, holy shit, that was an amazing ride that I just took. And I played that game well.Which is one of the reasons that you know, for example, I like Cher or Andrea, how to say his name in Andrea Bocelli or, you know, people like this, because they're playing Fallout. I mean, they're letting the divine this and Spirit come through them. And they're fully in the game playing, not on the sidelines watching. Next one here, is fighting with yourself. How much do you fight with yourself. And let me give you an example of fighting with yourself. And my interpretation is beating yourself up and then feeling bad about it. That's fighting with yourself. I remember back in the 90's, I was at an event. I only saw him live a couple of times, and that's back when I used to listen to motivational speakers. I listen to Les Brown. He said, that dude's a really good motivational speaker in my opinion, that man knows how to entertain and also inspire.
And he, he repeated an African proverb. And the proverb was something like, if if there is no enemy without the enemy within can do no harm, or something like that. On the line, I got it backwards. If there is no enemy within the enemy without can do no harm. There we go. Okay, I got it. So anyway, you think about what enemies do you have within yourself? And I fumbled that because I've not thought about it in 20 years, the Les Brown thing I just said, but think about that is what enemies do you have in you? And then what enemies Do you feed? What self pity? Do you feed? What ego do you feed? What self importance do you feed? Here's the biggest one. What fear Do you feed because whether or not you've recognized it, most of your life, for most of you, has probably been a fight with fear. And that is fighting within yourself. Why? Because the fear comes from within you. And you fight yourself. Meaning the fear in you, you fight it, which means you fight yourself. You're the one who created it. Now you're going to fight what you created because fear doesn't exist in the world that only exists in you And the human mind, it can't exist in the world. It's a human mental structure.
So think about that consider consider that is how much do you fight with yourself? And then what specifically do you fight with yourself about, that's a big one. And if you're fighting your fear, you were fighting yourself, you were actually you have the enemy within. And then what you do is what I kind of alluded to is you feed it, you feed, the fear is kind of like it's a fire, and we fan the fire to make the fear bigger. And the fear gets more insurmountable. At this point. Now, we're just completely paralyzed, because we can't get over the fear. And then we have talked about fear before, and I'm sure I'll talk about it some more. And the final one final bullet, is acceptance, and surrender. One of the biggest causes of pain in your life, is because you refused to accept things as they are. It doesn't mean you can't change things. There's no question we can change pretty much anything in life about ourself, our thought processes in particular, and our bodies, our circumstances are easy to change, most of us don't like them. And then we fight them, when we're the ones who created them. And most people, I'm going to use the word most because it's an observation. And it's true, we spend most of their life fighting themselves in their environment.
But what causes a lot of people a lot of pain is a lack of acceptance. And there's a couple of lacks one big lack I want to talk about is a lack of accepting yourself. doesn't mean you can't change yourself, or transform yourself or create, reinvent yourself, you can definitely do that. But we don't accept ourselves many times because of how we look, or how we sound, or what our skin color is, or what our orientations are, whether you know, whatever our religion is, and people are going to judge mom and dad are going to judge because they don't like this or whatever, whatever whatever, is, we don't accept ourselves. And then we don't surrender to you know what?
Big sigh, big relief is now I can be at peace and rest into my life is when we don't surrender. And we don't accept ourselves. We fight life. But to give you a really tangible example of a lack of acceptance, there's a phrase that I share a lot in my coaching program. And it just, it just dawned on me one day when I was watching somebody, and they were actually trying to argue with me, and I just I didn't get into it. And I thought in that moment, that person was beating their head against the wall. And I thought, because my nature is to help when I'm invited. And I recognized I was trying to help this person, but I wasn't invited. I didn't recognize that they had not said hey, Jim helped me out. And I hopped down, and I didn't say Oh, let me give you advice, or I wasn't it's not how I show up. But I'm basically I just stepped in and kind of said, Hey, you know, you've been doing XYZ, have you thought about ABC?
And the person got defensive, and they shot me down and told me why I was wrong. And in that moment, I let go and said, okay, and I the thought that popped into my mind was, this is all great. It's all good, is let her have her experience of life. Ponder that is the reason you don't accept things is because you don't want the experience of life from who you are at a deeper core level. Or you're not willing to accept other people's experience of life because in some way, it threatened you now is going to go back to a 3D way that I'd mentioned before I segue. There is you want to see a perfect lack of acceptance in the world that causes So, so so much pain and division is politics. No question. Politicians are corrupt. I mean, look who's you know, look who has their hands in their pockets? Or who's you know, whose pockets they have their hands in? We live in an oligarchy in the United States, not an opinion. It's an observation, the mega wealthy.
You know, the billionaires control the world because they control the politicians. Why do you think that chicken shit like Bob Dole many years ago said, Well, I don't know if you know, smoking causes cancer or not. I'm not a doctor. Well, guess what? majority are a large portion portion of his money came from the tobacco lobby. Come on, give me a break. But you know what, it's fine. The way I look at if that's what he wants to believe that's fine. I don't want to fight the guy. I can think he's a coward. Which that was an opinion years ago. And now I really don't care. But my point is, is you look at politics right now in the US and the world is that living in Texas? Well, I don't live in Texas now. But there's this, I haven't followed all of us so I'm gonna kind of Mangle this.
But there's a six week state abortion ban now that if women don't have abortions prior to six weeks, then it's unlawful to have an abortion. Now, my thought is the state's regulating morality. And then all these people fight about this, which side am I on allowing us to have control over a body or you're not allowing us to have control of our body now we're going to fight you or the other side is we're not going to allow you it's wrong according to our moral order, it's wrong. Notice many times, I'm gonna give you the best example in American politics right now is the what's called the American political liberal, tries to tear down everything the American political conservative is doing. The American Conservative is trying to tear down everything the American liberal is doing. I'm standing back at this point in my life, even though I worked in politics decades ago, and just watching and kind of shaking my head going, this is pretty, this is pretty interesting to watch. And staying out of it, I'm staying when I called dry, I'm not getting in it. But the bigger lesson for all of us, is just surrender.
Now doesn't mean a smite has got a gun to use surrender mean, you guys know what I mean? Right? But it let me take it here, let me go here with it is with a caveat, meaning somebody's hurting somebody or somebody's hurting you, you know, calling you body bodily harm. I let people have their experience of life, whatever it might be, whether they're gay, that's fine, I want you to be as gay as you can i want i that's great. You want to be Catholic, be you know, big Catholic, that's great. Be the best possible Catholic you can be, you want to be neither be I mean, nothing was just pick, you know, pick your path. And I, we tactically all of us, the best thing we can do is allow people to walk their path, with grace, and with support for whatever that path is, as long as it's a path of growth, and evolution, and evolvement and transformation, and then be at peace with that.
So one of the things that we'll take away is, you know, what I'm going to leave it at this is, is let people have their own experience of life, with the caveat, as long as they're not hurting other people. And then people can get into all kind of debate, well, what is the person? How do you define a person when this person hits whatever? You know what I mean? I think most of you know what I mean, is, you know what, somebody wants purple hair, your kid your kids want purple hair, let them have purple hair. And that's up to you. That's your, you know, your parenting decision.
But let other people have that experience of life. So in this episode, the things that we talked about is, you don't always get what you want in life. I find what comes into our life is for our higher spiritual growth and evolvement. Secondly, is what are your biggest distractions in life? And what are you allowing to distract you and what you allow to you know, to distract you is what you're devoted to. Third is the sighting and choosing what you want to invest your life in. And I can tell you right now, if I gave you a conscious choice, to which you really have without me giving it to you, you have it, push A or B. A is the life you have, or B consciously choose on an entirely new life for yourself. Well, you know what that comes to you deciding and choosing what you want for your life. Bullet number four, is how much do you fight with yourself, and in particular, went back to fear. How much fear do you foster in your life, and then you find the circumstances of your life because of fear when you're the one who chose and learned the fear and you learned it. But you chose to hang on to it or still or did choose to hang on to it and you still do.
What are you fighting? And the final one is mainly acceptance, and surrender, but acceptance and letting other people have their experience of life as long as you're not physically hurt hurting or endangering someone else. And wishing them well. I mean, you want people to wish you well on your path, right? Whatever that is, well wish other people well on their path. Because this is a phrase that I use. I'm just going to segue a tiny bit here. Something I learned from Xavier, is that what I wish for other people, I'm wishing for myself. So I do not have any envy whatsoever of what other people do in life, or what they make or what they have, I don't have any envy of that. I have respect for that. And what I mean by that is, I want more of what they want for themselves, and their own life. As long as it's deemed to be healthy. I want for them more of what they want for themselves. And when I want that peace and prosperity for them, I attract more of that peace and prosperity or whatever it is back to me.
I do want to mention before we go here is I'm doing over on Instagram, so go over your if you're not following me on Instagram, follow me on Instagram, and I'm going to be doing some what we might call challenges, but they're not moving the first month is actually a non challenge. It's an anti challenge the first month, but I'm going to be doing things to engage people. No charge, obviously on Instagram, to help people Transform their Lives. When I'm in between my transformational coaching programs. I want to and it's up to you choose it's up to you whether you want to do it or not. I want to assist you on further evolving and growing and Transforming Your Life. So for now, I will just say go on over to Instagram and follow me there. And details will be there from time to time and probably in the banner in my in my bio. And I'll be talking about it more on the next podcast probably something we're going to start doing to engage you and other people to give you real tools to help you condition them into your mind and brain to create the life that you want. Okay, that wraps up this episode. Thank you so much for listening. And I will catch you over on Instagram or on the next episode here. And Instagram by the way is @iamjimfortin, that's my name and Instagram, @iamjimfortin.Okay, make it a great day, and I'll catch you on another episode. Bye bye.
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