EPISODE 192: “From A Life Of Quiet Desperation And Resignation To An Extraordinary Life”
Henry David Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.” And, when he said men, of course, these days we can interpret that as most people, both men and women.
Almost all of us have heard that phrase and it rings true for many many people but truly who owns it and what does it mean?
In modern terms, a life of quiet desperation means being at the mercy of our circumstances and living paycheck to paycheck, and struggling with money, health, and relationships, or a combination of any of these circumstances.
In my experience and observation, the best, easiest, and most rewarding way to start living an extraordinary life is to live a life in the service of others.
So many people want and search for a better life when it’s in front of them all the time if/when they move the focus off themselves and move it onto others.
Gandhi said, “The best way to find yourself is in the service to others.” And, that is the key, and let’s explore that. And, when you “find yourself” every single door in your life that is closed will magically open…I promise!
I want to take you on a short journey with one of the greatest mentors and friends in my life, a woman name Virginia Cook. As my podcast has a global following but for those in Dallas, TX real estate and maybe even some in national real estate, they have heard of Virginia Cook. Virginia built the second-largest private real estate company in North Texas in just under a decade and one day I asked her how she did it and she shared her magical formula with me and I want to share it with you in this episode.
The gist is, when we serve others we then inadvertently serve ourselves and the more we serve others the more we create and share in life and when we do this life becomes extraordinary.
When we switch from self-service to self (survival and getting by) and we change to building others in the world, our life becomes magical and extraordinary.
This entire episode is sharing stories and experiences I have learned from Virginia Cook.
When we first serve others we serve ourselves.
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You're listening to the Transform your Life from the Inside Out podcast. And this episode is titled from A Life of Quiet Desperation and Resignation to an Extraordinary Life. So in this episode, I want to share a story with you about someone who has made an extraordinary impact in my life and many people's lives and she lives, what many of us would call an extraordinary life. So if you'd like to learn a little more about that and in way to show up in the world to create that life, then keep on listening.
Hi, I'm Jim Fortin, and you're about to start Transforming your Life from the Inside Out with this podcast. I'm widely considered the leader in Subconscious Transformation. And I've coached super achievers all around the world for over 25 years. Here, you're going to find no rah rah motivation, and no hype. Because this podcast is a combination of Brain Science, Transformational Psychology, and Ancient Wisdom, all rolled into one to take your life to levels, you've never thought possible. If you're wanting a lot more in life, to feel better, to heal, to have peace of mind, to feel powerful and alive, and to bring more Abundance and Prosperity into your Life. And this podcast is for you. Because you're going to start learning how to Master your Mind and Evolve your Consciousness. And when you do that, anything you want, then becomes possible for you. I'm glad you're here.
Henry David Thoreau And Quiet Desperation
You know, Henry David Thoreau said, and I was going to say, Henry David Thoreau once said, but maybe he said it every morning. I don't know. But he said something along the lines of most men, meaning people, most men lead lives of quiet desperation. And I know that, you know, I know that a lot of us have heard that phrase, that quote, but what does it mean when you hear that? Most people lead lives of quiet desperation. And when I look at the world around me, especially doing what I do for a living and the amount of people that I impact, whether it be through Instagram, which I don't have a large following, I have an okay one there, but especially the podcast with millions of downloads and then my Transformational Programs.
I find it to be very evident that most people do lead you know, they do lead lives of desperation and quiet desperation, and then they lead. What I would say are lives of more resignation than anything else. And, you know, when you look at desperation and you think about desperation is what is it? And basically desperation is a person maybe lashing out or responding to the external world. And the reason I say quiet desperation is because I see so many people and perhaps a lot of people listening to the podcast that they're struggling. They're struggling through life. And many people have resigned themselves to that. You know, they, they get into a place I think in life where we get in their comfort zones, even though they're uncomfortable, their comfort zones, and they can be a comfort zone of just having enough, you know, just having enough in life and just getting by in life and just paying the bills.
And I call these people just enough-fers, meaning you have just a night by the way. I live that way for many years of my life, where I had just enough every month to pay my bills. And when I say I live that way for many years, I mean probably, you know, two decades, I lived that way. So I get it. And that's why I do the podcast to assist people, to stop living that way.
Living With Struggle
I remember I was in a coaching program many years ago, and the coach who was leading the program became a good friend of mine. And she's an extraordinary, not extraordinary, but an extraordinary Transformational Coach. Very, very gifted Transformational Coach. And she said to me, she goes, you know, Jim, you do what you do. And it's obvious to me, you do what you do because you grew up struggling and you do not want other people to struggle. So myself, for many years, I lived a lifetime of quiet resignation, basically, this is what it is. Let me work, you know, let me struggle. Let me go to work every day. Let me punch the clock.
Metaphorically speaking, which I actually did when I waited tables for, you know, I think two or three years trying to air quote, find myself and what I wanted to do with my life. But I've been there. And when I say resignation resignation, the definition of that is the acceptance of something and, you know, undesirable or inevitable, the acceptance of something undesirable but or inevitable and you look at your life, how many things have you, you know, have you accepted and you've resigned yourself to, and when we do that, we literally live that life of quiet desperation or resignation.
And I want to share on this episode, a couple of stories in just a minute of some people that I've watched live, what I would call extraordinary lives and it's really pretty simple. Trust me when I tell you, I mean, if I can do it, you can do it. Anyone can do it. It's really pretty simple. But this day and age, I live a very bountiful life of a fruitful life. I mean, a thriving life. I have pretty much anything anyone could want in the physical world, but beyond that, because that's not the most important thing but it helps trust me is, I mean, I have friends and family and, and health, and I've got all these amazing things in my life.
Most People Live Paycheck to Paycheck
And I want to keep this episode simple and that I often say in my money programs, and this is a statistic that I looked up last year, that 79% of the US population. Yeah. 79% of the U S population lives, paycheck to paycheck. Ponder that paycheck to paycheck. And I would say if you're not in the 79%, which probably most people listening are not in the 79% they're in the next maybe 10 to 15%. And they're basically living, you know, just enough, just enough in just enough out and a little extra for, you know, bills or, or travel or extra bills or getting, you know, getting ahead in life.
These little things. But when you think about that for a moment, it's real, to me, it's mind blowing that 79% of people live their lives in the United States, paycheck to paycheck. And then I look at, and then I observe ponder that for a moment. What quality of lives? Do you think these people live when they spend their whole life struggling working two jobs, maybe three jobs, maybe, you know, 12, 14 hour days.
And again, it doesn't have to be that way. And I want to point out also it's a whole different episode and I've talked about it before. Is I am I'm not talking about making money, your master, meaning that you bowed down the money and you use it to define yourself and you literally base your self worth on your money and what you do for a living, because these are all external things.
But the thing about money. Number one is when you have money, you can help a lot more people because it's really hard to be poor and help people. And someone once said, well, what about mother Teresa? Well, Mother Teresa had the largest corporation in the world behind her. And one of the wealthiest corporations, maybe not the largest, but one of the wealthiest. And that is the Catholic Church, which has billions if not trillions of dollars, but when it comes to helping people in the world that we live in the regular world. When you have money, you can help animal shelters. You can help people. You can put kids through college, you can buy food for people. You can help people educate themselves.
There are a lot of things that you can do when you have money. And as I was alluding to it just a couple of minutes ago, I remember reading something one time and it said, I, I don't remember know, remember what it was, but it was something like, you know what, it's a lot easier to cry sitting in a Mercedes-Benz than it is on a bicycle and I'm not advocating, you know, one or the other, any of that, I'm just, you know, illustrating a point. But the thing about money, which so many people struggle with, and I did for decades, I promise you I've talked about it on the podcast. I struggled with money and you listening right now.
I don't care where you are in your finances. It doesn't matter where you are. You can always, when you do what I'm going to share with you partly here in this episode, when you do this and I mean, you really do it from the heart. Things will change for you very, very quickly, but about money. It's not about money, but it does make life easier. It makes shelter easier paying medical bills and getting medical care easier. I mean, even here in the US we have people and we have, you know, people all over the world listening, but we have people here in the U S that have to decide between, should I purchase healthcare or should I pay my mortgage? But I can't afford both.
And these people are living lives of quiet desperation or resignation, and that's something that I want to help lift people out of. So let's go to the point of this episode and let's talk a little bit about designation or desperation, sorry, resignation, and then taking and going from there to an extraordinary life.
Living A Joy Filled Life
An extraordinary life can mean many things to many people, but the way that I want to use it in this podcast and in this episode is I want to talk also about a joy filled life. I really can't imagine, and this is only because of my value system, which one of my highest values is service. And I couldn't imagine a more joyful life than the one that I live. And the one that I live allows me to serve people and to help people. Because I've been there. I have been in financial situations where I've had no money. You know, sometimes I watch the old TV show Cheers back from the nineties. And one of the characters, Woody didn't have any money. And he said, he said, if you take all the money in the world and burn it, that's how much money I have.
Well, Woody and I could relate to each other at some point in our lives, because I definitely was at a point where if you took all the money, you know, you took all the money in the world and burned it. That's how much money that I had. None basically. So I get it. And if you've listened for any amount of time, You know that I had heart failure a year and a half ago and a stroke a year ago. And so trust me when I tell you I know how to heal ourselves. I know I've been down physically and I've been down financially. So at least those two areas. I know what it's like to be down. And I want to share in this episode, a story of two people and touch on a very quickly one is my brother-in-law, the Shaman, Don Xavier, and the other is a very good friend of mine. I've known her for a lot of years and her name is Virginia Cook. I've talked about her a few times here in the podcast. A few weeks ago, I flew to Dallas just to have dinner with her. And when I was talking, you know, I was talking to my sister about it and she goes, wow, you're flying to Dallas just to see her.
And my sister said that must be love. And it is love because I adore and I mean, adore this. For the person that she is and what she does in the world and for what she has done for me. And she's changed my life and so many ways. And what I want to share here, let's go to my brother-in-law first, Don Xavier. And I'm talking about Don Xavier and Virginia a Shaman, and a very powerful, formerly, a very powerful Business Woman and very influential woman in Dallas. She's in her lower eighties now. And she shut down her company and she's not, you know, she's not doing any of that anymore, but let me share these two stories.
Working With Don Xavier
Let me share the one about Don Xavier. First as many years ago back about 25, 26 years ago, years ago when I started working with him. He gave me all his instructions about things that he wanted me to do to start working with him. And none of them cost any money. And they were all things that I had to do to prepare myself energetically, to work with him. And I didn't start. And about two weeks, then he called me and he used to call me Cuñado, which is brother-in-law he now just calls me Jimmy, but he used to call me, you know, Cuñado all the time. He's from Mexico, that Spanish for brother-in-law. And goes brother-in-law Cuñado, how come you haven't started yet?
And excuse my lack of accent Cuñado I'm sure it's got a different and better accent when you speak Spanish, but he said, how come you haven't started the work yet? And I said, because I really, I don't have any money and I can't afford to pay you now he never asked me for money. And then 25 years, he's never asked me for a penny. And I mean, not a penny. Not a penny, no matter what he's done for me and all the ways that he's helped me. And I just had observed other people giving love offerings to him when he helped them. And so I made up my mind. Oh, if he helps me and teaches me and shows me and helps me evolve and grow, I have to give him money when be mindful here and, you know, to, to illustrate this.
He never asked me for a penny. And he stopped me in that moment. And he said to me, he goes, wait, the work that I do has nothing to do with money. And he said, he goes, it doesn't matter whether you give me anything or not. He goes, I do want to do, because that is who I am. Now here's what I want to share with all of you. He said he goes I get my compensations from the universe, meaning divine energy.
And I've watched Virginia over the years in the business. I remember one morning, one of her, and this was many, many years ago when I used to speak for free and somebody that I was coaching inside her company asked me to speak out of event. He was hosting, which was a networking event, downtown Dallas. And it was, I think it was a seven thirty in the morning, eight o'clock event. Now I don't this day and age at all. I don't do things it's I don't even do things till noon. There's a whole different story behind. Mainly to do a circadian rhythms, which we all have natural biological rhythms and natural biological clocks, but Virginia was a very influential woman in Texas. At one point, she had the second largest private Real Estate company in Texas and North Texas, which she built from scratch in a very quick amount of time and under 10 years. And. The reason I tell you that because this woman has things to do. I mean, hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of Real Estate agents and multiple offices and all the thousands of people that she and her company went impact.
And the morning she was there and I said, we were, you know, good. We are good friends. And I said, what are you doing here? And she goes very just somberly. And very soulfully, she said, I'm here to support Jeff. I've always remembered that I've always remembered that and the lesson was, and I've observed through her is she has had, She shut it all down, but she had a very large multi-billion dollar a year in sales, multiple billions. per year in Sales and Real Estate. And she built all of that by building her teams and building her company by first building people ponder that first building people.And I remember I don't listen to motivational speakers anymore, but many years ago, I sat in the event in Dallas and Zig Ziglar. You know, you probably heard of Zig Ziglar, the motivational speaker he's been around since the fifties, I believe.
I don't know why it dawned on me because I didn't have the awareness to capture it. Like I'm talking about now, but Zig Ziglar said, and I'm sure you've many of you have heard this. I was going to say all of you, but many of you, and he said to get what you want in life first help other people get what they want. To get what you want in life, help other people get what they want. Now, you hearing that right here and now wherever you are in the world, whether you're in Spain or Tokyo or, or Sydney or London, it doesn't matter because human beings are human beings. But think about what you're doing right now and think about how much of your life you invest into doing things to get what you want or doing things to help other people get what they want. Ponder that for a moment, are you trying to create more things and more expansion and more growth in your life or more things and expansion and growth in other people's lives?
What I want to share is an obvious truth. And it's so obvious that we miss it. And I missed it for decades. Is that when we spend our life building other people. Let me back up here, what we do most of, I think all of us, that's a natural, it's just part of the way we're built. We aspire for more. We air quote, want more. We want to create more in life, more what we call financial security through money. And more things. And I don't mean things like possessions, but just more opportunities and a better quality of life. And we do that by focusing on ourselves. At least that's the way that I was taugh most of us, you know, go work hard and, you know, apply yourself and all these kind of things we're taught. It's all backwards. It's all broken, in that I've learned, through my own empirical personal experiences, that when I try to build my own life, that's the hard way. That's the way we're taught though.
But that's the hard way is when I'm trying to build my life, why? Because I'm the only one building it. Why? Because everyone else is out there trying to build their lives. And we're all in our little bitty pods building our lives. And it's like a one or two person show building your life. But I've noticed and I've observed and the way that I live now, when I build other people's lives and I build their lives in a significant way, I help them live much better lives because of the Law of Reciprocity, which is also a brain-based brain trigger. And when I do that, I was going to say, I was going to say in something, but when I do that, these people assist to me by coming to me for more coaching and training. Why? Because they know that I can help them. They've experienced me, helping them expand. And as a result of that, they're coming to me for assistance to expand and to grow more.
And my whole focus is on expanding them first, expanding them first. Now, let me go a couple of places here with Virginia. I always in Dallas, as I said, a couple of weeks ago, whenever it was 10 days ago, week, whatever it was. And I was having dinner with her and for different reasons, she had a personal assistant with her, someone who helps her with, you know, different things and her name is Liz. And as we were eating dinner, Liz has been Virginia's personal assistant for a while and Liz was recounting to me. She goes, Jim, you wouldn't believe. And I would believe because I've seen it. And I'm part of the story. She goes, you wouldn't believe the amount of people who come up to Virginia. She's very well known in Dallas, in the business community, people that come up and say, thank you. You helped me do X, Y, Z in my life. And she goes, one night at dinner, this man was walking up that he goes, are you Virginia Cook? And she said, yes. And she goes, the man started crying. And she goes, then he went on to say, well, you know, Virginia, you don't know me, but you did this and this and this and this for my life.
And I knew I've said it before. But Virginia once said to me, when she was doing something extremely nice for me, she said to me, she goes, if I live to be a hundred years old, I will never recoup all the goodwill that I have created in my life. Little earlier when I started this podcast, you know, I, and mentioned before Oprah and president Jimmy Carter. These are two people in whatever capacity in whatever way, they literally use their lives to build other people. And I know that through I don't know Oprah personally, but president Carter, I used to work at the Carter center, you know, over two and a half decades ago in the executive offices.
And that guy was always doing something in the world to make the world a better place. And people think, well, you know, oh, he's famous for habitat for humanity. And that's what he does. No, he just this kind of like a face person for them, a spokesperson, so to speak or representative. And that I think he only builds a few houses a year, but he's jetting off all over the world. And he's monitoring elections here and there and here and there and doing this and very significant things that are very high level. Many years ago, I bumped into him in the hallway. He slammed, he came like barreling around the corner and slammed into me. And right behind him was U S ambassador James Laney, and basically what he was doing and James Laney, at that time, they were negotiating on behalf of the United States government behind the scenes at that point arms reduction with North Korea. And I mean, if you, if you ask anybody, well, what's Carter doing these days, I don't know, is playing golf or building out. No, he's helping people and this run a lot of years ago, of course, but he's helping people around the world and he's always helping people around the world, Virginia, is helping people in her community and in the city she lives in and nationally. And my brother-in-law Don Xavier is waiting list right now is over 400 people long and it's years because he's one person, one Shaman, that's going to take him years to get to these people.
But it's his life work. It's his Dharma. This is what he does to build other people. Let me go back to Virginia here for a second, many years ago, to show you how she shows up in the world, you know, on building people. Is one day, she goes, I want to take you and introduce you to so-and-so. And so-and-so was the president of one of the largest real estate companies, one of the 10 largest real estate companies in the United States. And I said to Virginia, who was a real estate broker and had a competing company. I said, but see, the president of the other company was her friend of hers. And the founder of the company was a friend of hers. They were literally icons and staples in Dallas business. And I said, why in the world? This was my thinking years ago. Why in the world would you take and introduce me to your competition? And she said to me, she said, Jim, it doesn't matter. She goes, what you do can help everyone in my industry. And if you can help more people in the industry live better lives and create more for their families and be better real estate agents then in the end, every one is going to win. And that's akin to that phrase. A high tide raises all ships and that's, I'm going to slow down here, but that is how she lives her life is doing her best to raise all ships. And because she's done that the reciprocity from the universe is that goodwill coming back from the business community and clients and name recognition and people who know her and people that are dedicated to her and agents and people that literally literally want to help her build a better company and want to work there.
Why? Because she's creating now, I'm going to share a story here and I don't know if I've shared the story. I'll make it short, but Virginia. And I wouldn't have told this story 10 years ago because she's very, very private, I mean, just extremely private, but I want to tell the story now very quickly is we were having lunch one day on Saturday. She goes, what are you doing? And I said, well, I'm training at your company on Tuesday. And then I'm flying out that afternoon to go to San Francisco to go to a seminar. And she you know, we are really good friends, so we had asked each other details and she said, well, well, how much does it cost? And what is that, et cetera. I said, it's 5,000 bucks. You know, it's five grand basically, and this is what it's about and all that, that was the end of it. We went on and we had our lunch set, our goodbyes. I saw her on Tuesday and she gave me an envelope. And in that envelope was another envelope that said, do not open until you get on the airplane.
And she always, when I would train in her company, give me cookies and muffins and different things, and I figured she was just giving me things, which is her nature to give and give and give . And I got on the airplane, open, rushed to the airport, you know, opened it up and it said, do not open till in flight while I'm sitting in the terminal going, well, I have to honor this, but I really want to open this because now I'm curious and I opened it and there was a card in there that she had written to me and the card basically was saying, thank you for the impact that I'd had in her life and her company and her real estate agents. And there was a check for $6,000, 5,000 to cover the seminar. And I assume a thousand for travel expenses or airfare or whatever it was. And what I noticed at the top of, of her check it wasn't the business check, which means she did not write it from her corporate business account, which, you know, again had multiple billions of dollars in real estate sales yearly.
She didn't write it from that account. She wrote it from her own personal account. So the whole takeaway here is service and service and service and service to others. When we serve others. Here, please get this. When we serve others, we serve ourselves. When we invest in others, we invest in ourselves. It just dawned on me as I'm doing this episode, there was a friend of mine he was a client initially in New York city. And I've told this in some degree before we, his office at Rockefeller center, he's a oil billionaire. And this was again over 20 something years ago. And he basicallyjust took a liking to me and wanted to work with me and told me, you know, he wanted to set me up in business and I'm gonna cut the story short there. But what he said to me was. And by the way, the guy had very deep pockets. What he said to me was I'm going to help you because when I help you, I help myself now ponder that when I help you, I help myself, but let's go back to what I was talking about earlier. Most of us want to help ourselves first and then we'll help other people.
The Mistake of Helping Yourself First
Let me give you an example of that. There was somebody that I had as a coaching client, a real estate agent. And he hired me because he wanted to go 750 a year in income to at least a million. And it was having a hard time breaking this 750. And I said, you know, looking at everything that you do, I said where's your service to other people. And he goes, Jim, I don't have time to serve other people. I've got a wife and two kids I've got to take care of. And this is exactly what he said to me, which seems to be the prevalent mentality in the world. And I had it for many years and it's what keep this keeps us trapped. He said, yes, I do want to help people in the world, but you know what? I want to help myself first because when I help myself, then I will have enough money and then I can help other people and do things and have more time and more leisure time and free time to go help, you know, the community in different things.
But first and foremost, I am going to take care of my family first. So think about how you live as I tell that story. Okay.
I think it's sinking in by this point and what I'm getting across here. I, you know, I've struggled with money, big time, as I'd mentioned Woody, and I burn all the money in the world and that's how much money we have, but all the things that I attract in life. Is I've learned by watching Don Xavier, the shaman, and he lives by what I call you've heard me say before, AYNI, A Y N I which is Ancient Incan. And it's the reciprocity of life. Life is Reciprocity I've mentioned before in the podcast, the Beatles song one line in the Beatles song is you get what you give. And, you know, what's interesting and I've been there as well as we can hear things and people listening will hear this right now.
Maybe you and you hear it. And you're like, oh, that's really good. I get it. I get it. I get it. Okay. Done with this podcast on to my next task, rushed, rushed to work. Oh, I'll get to it later. Nothing changes, nothing changes. And nothing's going to change until you change. And if you're living. For yourself and really only for yourself and your family, you're a small team, metaphorically working.
Creating Expansion For Other People
I don't mean against, but I can't think of a better word right now. You're working in a vacuum against the universe and that I want to create the expansion because I want it for others. And I know that when I create the expansion for other people, I create expansion for myself. A lot of us are afraid we're afraid to go live and create that expansion. Why? Because we have our, we have our fingers in what we're doing right now, my paycheck and I have to do what I do right now. I can't help other people because I'm so busy doing what I do right now. And I've got my fingernails into it big time and you won't let go of it and you keep repeating that pattern over and over and over and over again. So, if you want to create I promise, you just give it a whirl. If you want to create, and you want to experience extreme joy and satisfaction in your life. If you want to experience extreme joy and satisfaction in your life, go build other people.
Now, I don't know how that will come back to you, but it will come back to you by AYNI the universal law, the law of reciprocity, as I said, you know, when, when you help other people, you're helping yourself. Couple of more things here is that people often want to credit me. Especially when I'm doing live coaching and even in my programs, people that know me and interact with me quite a bit on a daily, weekly basis is they want to credit me. And I will tell people, no, it's, they'll say thank you, Jim. Thank you. Thank you. And ask anyone that's been in my programs. They many people will say thank you. Thank you. Thank you thank you. Thank you for what you did for me. And I'll say, no, you have it backwards. You have a backwards it's I, who should, should be thanking you because by letting me assist you, you're allowing me to live my Dharma, my purpose, and why I'm here on the planet. And for me, that's extreme joy by building others.
I'm living my Dharma, I'm serving, and that is literally. A very, very powerful place and a joyful place and a place of satisfaction to live from is when we build other people. So it's always, I like I thanking you. I thanking you for listening to the podcast. And I mean that from the heart and people again, that know me will tell you yes. I mean it, why? Because I have a joyful life of all the things I've created through service, which by the way, you can do as well. So a question for you, and this will apply to a lot of people here. Do you work for a living, meaning does your life revolve around a paycheck and living by timeframes and time constraints and restrictions and bosses and companies and people telling you what you can do when you can do it, how you can do it.
And basically. Whether or not, you've recognized it whole different episode is that money has become your master. Even though you might detest me saying that is that you do all of those things for one thing you think you do it for security. That's incorrect. You do it for money first, which is why most people do it so that they can have the full solution of security. But the question is when you're on that treadmill, that treadmill of life, how extraordinary of a life is that I remember one time, this event where I talked about the coach earlier, and she said something to me that was like, Muhammad Ali, just knocking me out or whoever I don't hold it filtered.
Somebody just hit Tyson. There we go. Mike Tyson hitting me right between the eyes and it knocked me out cold. And she said to me, she goes, you know Jim everything you're doing is well and good. But when you compare that to your Dharma and what you really could be doing and should be doing on the planet, which stirs and moves your soul, she said, you're just marking time until you die. So a question for you, a little hard hitting, maybe a little harder hitting that I wanted to ask in this podcast, but are you truly living an extraordinary life? Let's answer that first. Are you truly living an extraordinary life? Yes or no. And that would mean all the joy of not just having the joy in your life for the sake of having joy, because happiness is an inside job.
But all of the things that make your life easier and better and create expansion and give you more power and the ability to help more people. Are you actually living that way or are you living on the treadmill of day in, day out, day in, day out. So, anyway, I think I've brought the point home this episode is when you live your life to serve others and build others, and you allow the reciprocity from the universe to come, we have to allow the reciprocity to come, which is something I've learned as well. And we have to give it the time to do that But when we serve other people with an open heart and we build them with an open heart, and then we allow the reciprocity to come back to us, that's when magic happens and that's when extraordinary things start happening in our lives.
And I promise you that if or when you do that, that life of quiet desperation will disappear very very quickly, you know, and then by the way that's your transformational takeaway. As I'm doing these episodes, I sit down a lot of times and I, and I think how, how can I get through, how can, how can, how can I say something that they're going to hear it and on candidly, I would love to make these episodes about 10 minutes long. But we humans, we want explanations and reasons for everything. And we have to had everything explained to us before we even dig into it and explore it. But the reality is is that when you keep it simple, I've said it like 87 times, but when you create the expansion for other people and when you live to serve other people, I don't mean a lip service, like back in the nineties.
Oh, I'm a servant leader and all that. No I've seen more servant leaders, so to speak, be very selfish and very greedy. No. It's to serve others and I want to clarify here with reciprocity built in because if you serve and serve and serve and you don't have some way to bring that reciprocity back, meaning money and that capacity, then you're going to serve yourself out and not have anything is that we have to actually engage. Here's a better way to put it. And we'll wrap up here is, you know, I want to say like this, are you ready? We have to fully participate in the reciprocity of life that sums up this whole episode, the keyword is participate. We have to participate in the reciprocity of life. And if we're trying to do everything for ourselves and tuck our money into our mattress and only taking care of me first, you know, then we're not participating.
In the reciprocity of life were simply just hoarding for ourselves. And when we hoard, we literally create more lack for ourselves. So thank you. Thank you for allowing me. Thank you for listening. Thank you for sharing. And as you've heard me say many times before, if you find value here, please share with your friends on social media and your family and different people that you know, what also find value in these episodes as well. If you're newer to the podcast, go back to the very beginning and start listening from there. Because if I put all of you that have listened to the podcast in one room, those of you that have listened, and some of you have told me, I've listened now for a couple of years and you've listened to every episode many many times why? Because many times it takes time to soak in and it takes that epiphany that AHA for us to get it, but they will tell you there's great value from going back to the beginning and starting there, even if you want to stay up with the current episode. That's great. And I appreciate that and that's wonderful, but also make sure you go back to the very beginning and start there. So from the very bottom of my heart, thank you for allowing me to live my Dharma. So because, because I'm living my Dharma, I'm living what I would call an extraordinary, extraordinary life. Thank you so much. And I'll catch you over on another episode. Bye-bye.
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