EPISODE 214: “You Probably Won’t Change Until…”
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So, from the headline, let’s finish it: You probably won’t change your life until you hit a threshold.
What does this mean?
It means if you’re like most people you won’t do anything different in your life until you’re in enough pain to do something different.
You may complain, hope, wish, want, and pray, but at the end of the day, you already know that won’t work and at that point, people will do one of two things: They’ll quit and sink deeper or they’ll be sick and tired of being sick and tired and finally do something different.
Let’s look at this in a different way.
Nothing much will change in your life until you get sick and tired of being sick and tired or until you just get tired of hitting threshold and you commit to working from outside your comfort zone. It’s generally staying in your comfort zone that compounds into more and even greater pain.
So, can you relate or are you one of the small percentage that says, “Hey Jim, I listen to your podcast and others and I’m into personal development and I have been for years, what you are saying does not apply to me.”
My question to you…Are you so sure you’re actually different than the other people in the other category that I talk about?
Truth be told, you’re not much different even if you think you are? You’re just different, but only by degree, but not by doing every single thing it takes to create the exact life that you want.
Even people into personal development, I see many struggle for decades and they are always developing themselves and they do feel better but often times I still see them dead broke, sick, etc.
Because they won’t change and they won’t change because they are not in enough pain yet.
So, no matter where you are on the spectrum of change, you can always do better and do more, but things have to change in you for things to change in your life. And, you have to abandon your old model of working from the motivation of pain.
The seven questions are:
All of these may sound like a simple snap answer, but when you look deeper, there is a great deal of introspection to be had with them.
The bottom line is that if you don’t have something in life that you want then you are not being 100% responsible for making it happen and you’re not being resourceful enough to be responsible.
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You're listening to the Transform your Life from the Inside Out Podcast. This episode is titled " You Probably Won't Change Your Life Until". And you might be wondering, well, Jim, until what. And you probably won't change your life until you get out of your comfort zones. If you find that you're not getting the change that you want in all areas of your life. Then keep listening.
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Okay. So this episode is obviously titled you probably won't get what you want until you get out of your comfort zones. What prompted this episode? Was the fact that I offer Transformational Programs. Now this isn't obviously directed at anyone individually or any of that, but I want to share an observation with you. And then I want to apply that observation back to me. Because what applies to you applies to me and what applies to me applies to you because we're all on the planet. We're human beings and we're learning our lessons. So what I found or what I find interesting. Is so many people listen to the podcast. And they listen to all different kinds of podcasts and different things. Because seemingly they're looking for something different in their life. So I look at. What I'm doing. With the BE DO HAVE series, which is no charge. And then obviously different, you know, free coaching's that I do in things like that.
So for the last BE DO HAVE have series, I believe we had like 30,000 people show interest. Of the 30,000. 10,000 showed up in the Facebook group of the 10,000 and the Facebook group. We had like a thousand that were active. Of the thousand that were active then we had, I think about 400 or thereabouts register to get into coaching with me. And many years ago, I saw no difference between that and my own behavior. I would look at a lot of things that I wanted to do, and I would sign up for this and sign up for that and not attend to not show up. And I'm sitting here thinking, okay. I offer the BE DO HAVE series, which people have told me, Hey, Jim, you should charge a thousand bucks alone just for that free series. And it's free and people still don't and won't show up. And I look at that and I'm always thinking, what can I do differently?
What can I do to assist people? And by the way, I've done marketing for a lot of years.
So I'm always looking at the marketing angles and different ways to position it and et cetera, no matter what I do. The majority stillwon't show up. And then I look at my life many years ago and I really can't say a lot because they probably wasn't a whole lot different.
The Dog On The Porch
That takes me back to something many years ago. I remember the year it was 1992. And I was sitting in an audience listening to Les Brown. And he told the story. I believe I've told that here on the podcast, but I want to share it again. So I told the story of a guy that used to walk by a house every day and the guy would walk by the house and look up on the porch and there was a big old dog on the porch. And the dog was always kind of like. Uh, moaning and groaning all the time. And one day the guy walking by. He stopped. And he said, how come your dog is always moaning? And the guy in the rocking chair on the porch said, well, he's actually laying on a nail. Lang's Langer line anyway. Lying on a nail. We'll put it that way as long as no he's laying there again. He's laying on. I don't know. Anyway, he's on a nail there we texted he's on a nail. And the guy walking by said. Why doesn't he get up and move? And the guy in the rocking chairs said. Because it doesn't hurt bad enough.
Okay. I've only got that story out, but look at your own life. Think about your own life. Do you often not change even though you think you want to, and it's a good idea. You often find yourself in a place where you're not changing because candidly. You're not sick and tired of being sick and tired. It doesn't hurt bad enough. It doesn't hurt bad enough. And because it doesn't hurt bad enough. Then you don't do anything differently. So when I look at all the people who register for the no charge, BE DO HAVE series. Which I don't know, I'd mentioned before we may start charging fort. We may not, I don't know.
They're in a little bit of pain because they want something more in life. They want something maybe a little more, a little better, a little different. But they're not in enough pain to do anything about it. They're in enough pain to complain. The hope to wish to want to pray. But, you know what, at the end of the day, none of that works.
Most People Won't Change Until They Are In Enough Pain
It doesn't work. And the reason that it doesn't work is because the person's not in enough pain to do what's necessary to create the change in their life. That's why if you're like most people, and by the way, you are like most people, whether you think you are, or you aren't. You might be different in, you know, some nuances. But overall we're all raised on the planet and most of us are the same and a lot of ways we don't even recognize. But if you're like a lot of people, as I was saying, Then you'll complain. But, you know what. You're not in enough pain. To do anything differently. To take action to drop what you're doing to start doing something else.
From that point, what a lot of people will do.
I've seen it. I've kind of been one of those people many years ago. Many many years ago, decades ago. But they're sick and tired of being sick and tired. And they fall into what I call resignation thinking. Victim mentality. And then they just learned to be the victim. And they perpetuate the pain over and over and over again. But if you look at them and say, Hey, you're a victim. Then they get all pissed off. And they don't want to hear that they're in victim mentality. When in reality, that's actually where they are. So as I was mentioning a bit ago, About sick and tired of being sick and tired. You're probably not going to change. And this is really a bigger approach in the podcast. You're probably not going to change. Until you hit threshhold. Listen very carefully. You're probably not going to change significantly. Let me rephrase that significantly. Until you hit threshold. And threshold is when you're sick and tired of being sick and tired and you're done.
And then finally you're like, I've had it. I have had it. I'm done no more. No more alcohol, no more this, no more that literally people, no more drugs, no more marijuana, no more. Whatever it is. No more, no more bad relationship. No more of living paycheck to paycheck. No more. That's called threshold. It's the breaking point. And I've been there. Many of us won't change until we hit breaking point. I even remember many years ago telling my sister. I'm like, I'm just so sick and tired. Of being sick and tired of being sick and tired. Of the same old crap. And she started laughing, not really at me, but with me, but kind of back at me, gently laughing with me.
And she goes. She goes, brother, that's pretty bad place to be. And she was laughing and grinning like I am now because she was right. It's a pretty bad place to be. So people will either get sick and tired of being sick and tired and they'll hit threshold and they will change. Or many people will sing deeper and stay there for a lifetime because it's what I call and what psychologically is called. Learned helplessness. They will learn that they can't do anything differently. Therefore they will stay where they are. I want to go with different direction here. There are a lot of people that also listen. That will say, Jim? No, that's not me. Come on. I'm going to stop listening to this episode. That's not me. I mean, come on. I listened to personal development. I listened to your podcast. I listened to another podcast. I watch YouTube videos. I've been to this seminar, this seminar and this event and that event. And I read all these books.
The question I have for you. Is how come you still don't have what you want. Because if you had what you wanted, then you wouldn't be looking anymore. And it doesn't mean it does not mean we can't continue to grow because every day I'm on this planet. I will continue to grow. But the reality is many of you. And I know because I've been there.
Always Learning, Never Changing
You're Tom Cruise in the movie cocktail.
If you've never seen the movie before, I haven't seen it in decades. And Tom Cruise was a bartender and he always had a personal development book behind the bar. And his mentor his bartending mentor mentors, making fun of him. That he was always in the personal development. And you know what? I know a lot of people who get into personal development. And they're always learning, always learning, always learning. I'm going to keep going here.
Always learning, always learning, always learning, learning more, always learning, learning, more, learning, more, learning, more, always learning, learning, more, learning, more, learning more. Always learning, learning more, learning, more, learning more. Never applying. I've been there to. So we have to look at that.
We have to look at that. And if you think that, well, I'm not talking to you. I'm talking to you. I'm talking to everyone because it's coming from me because I've been there. I'm talking to everyone, listening to this episode right now. That if you're wanting to create something new in life. A new job. New income opportunities, new relationships, whatever it might be. The reason you haven't done it is because you haven't hit threshold. And then. I've seen some people saying I hate my job. I hate my job and no, listen to exactly what I'm saying right now. And they will say, well, in two years, I'm going to exit and do something else. I hate my job. I hate my job. I hate my job. I hate my job. I hate my job. And they never get to a point where they're sick and tired of being sick and tired because they're in so much fear. Not even recognizing you have tremendous amounts of power.
You know, the, the movie, the Wizard of Oz.
When Dorothy and the wizard were in the basket at the end, and Dorothy wanted to go home to Kansas. The wizard said something like you've had the power in you all along.
And Don Xavier, my brother-in-law being a Shaman, A sorcerer, a babalau. He's a medium. Meaning he's able to, for lack of better words and just the most, I guess, correct word he's a channel. And you can channel other beings. And not like, for example, if you're familiar with Abraham Hicks, not like that, where Esther was walking around and talking and everything else. And she's allegedly, supposedly, supposedly, maybe channeling Abraham, the energy in the being of Abraham. And not the Abraham of God, so to speak, but Abraham, a composite being. And Don Xavier when he's channeling he's gone. I mean, he's literally, you can tell his not even anywhere to be found in the physical body he's gone. And a very powerful being came through him one time. Many years ago. And it's actually this time of the year around the Spring Equinox in 2003. And that being said, something that I've always remembered and is so profound that I want to share with you. And what he said was. Is the fact that you're born on this planet means that you are equipped to create anything that you want or need on this planet. Let me repeat that. The fact that you're born on this planet means. That you have the need or ability. Or does. I'm kinda messing it up there, but basically you can create whatever the hell you want to create because you're born here. You can do whatever you want.
There we go. I tried to get that all out, all nice and, and packaged up and sounding good and like, whoa, Jim, that's a great quote. But that's the gist of it is the fact that you're born on the planet means that you have every single tool that you have. But people, I, we sit there, we sit there and we waddle and we waddle and we waddle and we waddle. And the discomfort never making the change, but yet we have all the tools right in front of us. And so back to the title of the episode is. People just exist. They exist and mediocrity of being, and living and creating because they've not hit threshold and they're not sick and tired of being sick and tired. And therefore they just kind of quit. And then expect something else to happen for them. Somewhere else. I want to go in this episode. You've heard me talk about it before is comfort zones.
People Stay In Their Comfort Zones Because It Is Predictable
Most of us stay in our comfort zones. And the reason that we stay in our comfort zones is because of predictability. Which is brain-based. The brain loves to predict it's a survival mechanism and it loves to predict what's going to happen next. You know, for example, if you didn't have that part of the brain. If you saw a rattlesnake on the ground. And mind you, there is some people in some parts of the country of the U S that will play with rattlesnakes. Ah, that's their deal. Okay. But anyway, most of us know that you just don't go pick up a rattlesnake. And the reason you don't go, just pick up a rattlesnake is you can predict what's going to happen if you do it. So as an example to the fact that the brain likes to be able to predict. But oftentimes we feel if we get out of our comfort zone or we think that if I get out of my comfort zone, even though I'm uncomfortable in my comfort zone, If I get out of my comfort zone, that I can't predict what's going to happen. Therefore I will stay in my comfort zone. Because it is predictable. It also it's called identity verification. If you know who you are and who you think you are. You'll stay in that particular zone because at least, you know who you think you are. And because you think you know who you are, then you can predict what's going to happen later in your life.
You're going to be abused. You're going to be loved. You're going to be broke. You're going to make money because you're already predicting because of that part of the brain. So, what people do is they stay in their comfort zone. And what I want to point out something I just alluded to. Is, I don't care where you are in life right now. I don't care if you're making a million a year. 10 million a year or 30,000 a year. You're in a comfort zone. You're in a comfort zone. Now I do want to point out. You may want to be there. For example, a good friend of mine, James Wedmore, and I were talking once about, you know, how many millions do you need? You know how to point that just the, the money becomes just a thing. I mean, how much do you need? So sometimes we can get into, okay, I'm kinda done. I'm good with everything I've created for right now. Everything is exactly like, I want it. I'm going to focus on something else or whatever, but I don't need to keep achieving or whatever it might be. I get that. I understand that.
But where I'm going here is many people stay in a comfort zone. For many, many, many years. Decades. And they stay in the comfort zone. Not realizing, let me back up they are staying in the comfort zone to avoid pain. They're staying in the comfort zone to avoid pain and discomfort. Not recognizing that, short term comfort zone in front of them, meaning this year, you compound that year after year, after year after year. And then what happens? Is now you've compounded 20 years of being in a comfort zone. And as you're getting older, your abilities may be diminishing a bit your physical health may be diminishing your wealth. You haven't created it. You're getting older. You may have no fricking money in the bank. And you're in your fifties and sixties, no money in the bank. And your health is declining. When 25, 30 years ago. You could have gotten out of your comfort zone and done something different, but no, you wanted to stay in your comfort zone. And then you compound it year after year after year after year.
Now you're in one, hell of a lot of pain. A little later in your life. Why. Because you've compounded it for so many years. So what you've done without recognizing it. Is. You've traded the short-term gain of a little discomfort. You've traded that for many years. Because you want to stay in the, you want to stay in well, not in the discomfort. So year after year after year, you don't want to get a new job and you don't want to work out. You don't want to do this and you don't want to do that. So life's not gray, but it's okay. I'll just kind of stay with it where it is. And then what happens is that compounds. And then guess what, as I just had mentioned saying at a different way now, 30 years from now, you ain't got any money. You're broke. You're not in good health. Because all those years, you said, I don't want to work out. I don't want to get out and walk today. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do that. And by the way, if I'm pissing you off right now, and you're hearing this good, because it applies to you.
If I'm triggering you good, because I'm telling you something without recognizing it. You don't want to hear. And I'm doing it because I want you to create, I want you to have more in life. I want you to have everything you want, but I'll tell you this, it sure as hell isn't in your comfort zone. And comfort zone. As I said, for many of us as at least comfort. But the littler comfort zone creates a bigger comfort zone comfort zone later. It was like a bat to the back of the head.
I remember a client of mine in 2015. He hired me. And he was a Real Estate agent. He wanted one to one coaching, which I don't do anymore. And he was making about 800,000 a year. Back then. And a good Jim I want to earn about a million and a half a year and into the coaching. He was like moving a sack of potatoes. I couldn't get him to move no matter what I did, no matter how many times I'd put him in a bind, no matter how many times I would put him back on course again, I couldn't get him to, to literally do what needed to be done. I couldn't get him to engage with self integrity. I couldn't get him to be committed to his commitments.
And one day I recognized. Because he was talking to me a couple of days prior. And he was talking about, you know, Jim, everything's good. I'm doing well. The kids are in private school and I just bought a brand new BMW for my wife and we just bought a brand new home. What I recognized. Is, he was in his comfort zone. And because he was in his comfort zone. Then he had no reason to do anything else. He had no reason to take action because he wasn't done enough pain. He is like, you know, on the nail, not in enough pain. So he generally thought, well, I'll hire Jim. I want to coach I'll hire Jim, but you know what? I'm not in enough pain to really, really do the work and go through the things Jim's going to put me through to create the change that I want to create in life. Look at your own life. Look at your own life, whatever it is. And for many of you. I'm telling you statistically in the U S many of you are overweight. But you won't go through these short-term discomfort of working out or going to the gym or doing whatever you need to do physically for the long-term gain of feeling better for a lifetime. We generally always have to go through the short-term discomfort. To get to the long-term gain. And we generally won't go through the short-term discomfort. And embrace it until we hit threshold. That's pretty messed up. Right. But that's how we operate as human beings. And partly again, because it's brain-based because the brain doesn't know what's going to happen.
If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes
This is what I want you. I request to take from this episode.
Nothing's going to change in your life. Nothing. For the most part. Until you're sick and tired of being sick and tired. And you hit threshold. And the reason again, we don't get there is because we like to stand our comfort zone. And I want to share a story there. Two things. Two things I want to, before I share that story, two things, then we'll wrap up here. Because I'm offering the BE DO HAVE series again later in the year. Keep an eye out for it. It's always talked about on the podcast. It's advertised two months in advance. I talk about it every day on Instagram. If you're getting sick and tired of being sick and tired, then stop fricking talking about it and do something different and be on that training, which is no charge. Execute on what you're getting here in the podcast. Execute, execute, execute, and get out of your comfort zone. Okay off my soapbox on that. Now the story I want to share with you. Which I've shared before is my friend Drew Cannoli. I've known Drew for probably 12, 13 years. And in 2013 or 20, as I'd mentioned before in 2011 or 12. He was broke into the year. Uh, and to that year in December, a year later, he admitted his first million dollars. And I remember that conversation so vividly. I can even tell you where I was. I was in Kroger, Kroger, shopping for groceries in Dallas, Texas. When I live there. And I said, Drew, what changed?
And he goes, I just got sick and tired of being broke. That's what changed? Think about that. Now he's a multi multimillionaire with a company that does. I'll just tell you this up into the nine figures yearly. And he got sick and tired of being broke. I've been there. If you're there, I've been there. I really have, and I've been a victim being there. But I think you're getting from this episode and I'm going to stop beating a dead horse. Is that ain't nothing going to change. Until you get off the nail. And you adjust. And you do something else. And you do something differently. So why wait for threshold even hit. I'll tell you another story, then we'll go. Okay. I remember a friend of mine. One time he was going to alcoholics synonymous. And he was talking to another friend. He had a party at his house. And invited me over and I'm a drinker, but I wasn't drinking there. I don't drink much these days. And. I heard him say to his friend. Oh, you're a not Yetter. And I'm like, what is a not Yetter and a, not Yetter is someone who hasn't hit the wall yet, who hasn't hit the threshold yet. So they keep drinking and drinking and drinking because, Hey, it's not going to affect me. And there are not yetter meaning it hasn't affected that person yet.
And that's kind of what threshold is alike is like for a lot of people and me too is I'll wait and I'll be in a little pain until something breaks or something falls apart, and then I'll get sick and tired of being sick and tired. And that's when the real pain sets in and we just don't need to go to that place. So get out of your comfort zone and do something differently. Okay, thanks for listening to this episode and actually look at the links below here at the podcast and download things that I have for you right now that will help you start making a big difference in your life. Like how to actually start eliminating the fear and worry in your life. So you can doubt you can actually look below and get it downloaded. All right. I'll catch you later. Bye-bye.
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