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You’re listening to the Transform your Life from the Inside Out podcast. This episode is titled What Do You Assume Your Biggest Traps in Life Are. I want to share with you that assumptions promote people. Assumptions are your biggest traps. And the reason Is, you can use them to build your life, or you can use them to destroy your life. You can use them to create, or you can use them to actually keep you from having things that you want in life. Your life has one big assumption. And in this episode, I want to start exploring your core assumptions. And I want to actually start taking these apart and having you look at these in a new way. And then from here I request, and you may want to start reprogramming subconsciously. The core of assumptions that you have that keep you from what you want in life. Keep listening.
Hi, I’m Jim Fortin, and you’re about to start Transforming your Life from the Inside Out with this podcast. I’m widely considered the leader in Subconscious Transformation. And I’ve coached super achievers all around the world for over 25 years. Here, you’re going to find no ra-rah motivation, and no hype. Because this podcast is a combination of Brain Science, Transformational Psychology, and Ancient Wisdom, all rolled into one to take your life to levels, you’ve never thought possible. If you’re wanting a lot more in life, to feel better, to heal, to have peace of mind, to feel powerful and alive, and to bring more abundance and prosperity into your life. And this podcast is for you. Because you’re going to start learning how to master your mind and evolve your consciousness. And when you do that, anything you want, then becomes possible for you. I’m glad you’re here.
Let’s get right into its negative assumptions are your biggest traps in your life. So, what is an assumption? The definition of an assumption is a thing that is accepted as true or is certain to happen without proof. The point is many things that you believe about life and believe about yourself. Are literally beliefs you actually are making assumptions about things, and you have no evidence and no belief to believe that they’re true. And particular in this episode, I want to talk about. Assumptions that you make about yourself that are not true because see whatever assumption you make about yourself; you will literally work from that assumption. That becomes what I call your context. And you can never, as you may have heard me say before, you can never operate outside of the context that you have for yourself.
Most people create their lifetime assumptions on momentary assumptions. And we do this when we’re kids. Let’s say for example, that, you know, I’ll give you a life example for me. When I was six years old, math, first grade Mrs. Schilling she brought our math papers back. She put it on the desk in front of me. And she looked at me with a very, kind of a sad face. A disapproving face. And she says, Jimmy. You’re not very good at math. And that moment now I’ve talked about it before is I didn’t have none, we don’t have the ability to fully analyze until about the age of eight or nine years old. So, when she told me that I believed her. And I made that assumption. And I even remember in middle school telling people I’m not good at math, I’m not good at math.
Yet in math I was making literally C’s and Ds never met an F in my life C’s and D’s, but in everything else I was making A’s. And the reason why is because Mrs. Schilling she planted in me the assumption that I was not good at math, that became my, my self-image, my subconscious self-image. And I lived from that assumption all the way till my junior. No, actually. Yeah, it was my junior year in high school. We had a foreign exchange student from Japan who helped me with my geometry. And I made the highest grade in the class. So, in that moment I changed. Or in that school year, I changed my assumptions about myself and math. And I’ve never really had a problem with it since then.
The most powerful or damaging assumptions. Are the ones that we accept as true. You know, Mrs. Schilling said to me, when I was six, Jimmy, you’re not good at math. I accepted that it became an assumption that I worked under for many years. But, you know, you think about the assumptions, things about yourself. When I said just a couple of minutes ago, you learned them in the you learn them through experiences. And then the experience creates a thought in you and the, and the thought turns into an assumption. So, you think about what assumptions did you learn to make about yourself as a kid? I’m stupid. I’m clumsy. I can’t dance. I can’t do math. Money’s hard to come by. I’m not worth the trouble. It’s hard for me to do XYZ people don’t like XYZ about me.
Look at many of these assumptions that you hold in your life, even, even today. And if you trace them back, you’ll find that you learn many of these assumptions as a kid. You know, in the US, there was a movie about 10 years ago called the HELP. And in that help, they use the word made. And this was about Jacksonville. Or Jackson, not Jacksonville, but I guess Jackson, Mississippi back in the sixties. And it was about maids taking care of black maids taking care of white kids. And this black maid was instilling in this little girl, a white girl this phrase. You are kind you are smart. You are important. Now, assuming that little girl adopted that assumption, which learning that belief system, that context. That’s what she would have grown up with.
I remember many years ago when I lived in New York City. I was standing in a fast-food line. And even then, I went for a decade without even ever eating fast food. For some reason, I was busy, whatever that day. But I remember and I’ve told the story before on the podcast. This lady in front of me. Her little girl was a little fidgety. And the mother looked down at the little girl and said you’re more work than you are worth. I’m about passed out at the moment fainted fell over. I was like, oh my God, she literally just could have created an imprint, subconsciously a paradigm and assumption and that little girl that, that little girl will wear that assumption for a lifetime. Then what she going to create in her life when she created the assumption and works from the assumption that she’s more work than she’s worth.
So that’s what this podcast, this episode is about. Look outside of yourself because what is outside of you is what you’ve created from your assumptions about yourself and your assumptions about the world. Before we go any further, if you would please If you’re finding value in these, in these episodes and in this podcast. Please share with people that, you know, I would really appreciate if you’d share it on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, or any of your social media TIK TOK. I don’t know if you can share on TIK TOK. My team runs all that for me. But share this where you can please. And if you would please also go to iTunes and I do request if you’re getting great value here. Leave a five-star review on iTunes that simply helps me in the algorithms to some degree. So that I can help more people. I really, really appreciate that. Okay in this episode. I want to start taking apart with some questions in just a bit. I want to start taking apart some of your assumptions. And I want to start leading you to a place to creating new assumptions about yourself.
So, a couple of simple questions. How much money do you have in the bank right now? Do you have 20 million? Or are you dead broke? What is your health right now? Are you healthy or are you sick? What assumptions are you making about healing? What assumptions are you making about the power of the mind? What assumptions are you making? About getting sick. I know I’ve talked about it before. I think I did in the podcast. If not, I did in one of my programs, how there was this, it’s a real study many years ago, I guess like 10 years back in this particular school system. One kid felt sick and then it just started spreading in the in the classroom. And I think something like 20 different people that they ended up at the hospital in the ER for the same symptoms.
Yet there were psychosomatic symptoms. Again, I’m not making that up. That’s real I read research on that, or I saw a video or something a while back. But what assumptions are you making? I want to be careful not to go too far here. What assumptions do you make in your life about health and wellness? What assumptions do you make about the power of your mind? What assumptions do you make about the ability to heal anything happening in your body? Now being a hypnotist. I can tell you I don’t do it anymore as a professional hypnotist, but I did for years, and I still teach it. I can tell you right now be careful with the assumptions you make because the assumptions. And this is, this is fact the assumptions could be the difference between life and death for some people. That is a fact. What about your relationship status? How are you doing there? And then what assumptions are you making in relationships I see it all the time.
Men can’t be trusted. Women can’t be trusted women or this or that, or the other men or this or that, or the other, it’s a hassle to be in relationship it’s this or that or the other to be in a relationship. Just because it screws for you, you’re making an assumption. It doesn’t mean that it’s true. It’s simply true for you because you’re making assumptions about it that you’ve created at some point in the past that may or may not be true. And most often they are not true. There’s simply your model of reality. A couple of episodes ago. I did talk about assumptions, but in a different way. And I talked about the power of assumption as well. Now I use the power of assumption to heal. I don’t know how long you’ve been listening. But in 2020, I had both heart failure and a stroke, same year, six months apart and I’m completely healed today.
And I used the power of assumption. To direct my subconscious mind to heal. But I was making the assumptions. I was working from the assumption of, instead of working from, well, I’m sick and I’ve got to take it easy, and I’ve got to heal and all these kinds of things we get into, I started working from the assumption. Again, operative word assumption. I started working from the assumption that I was already healed. And I started noticeably healing a lot quicker. And I noticed my physiological function in my mental abilities and my physical abilities. Returning very quickly when I change my assumptions from, Ooh, I just had a stroke and heart failure and I’ve got to take it easy to, you know what I’m already well I assumed it. And I started physically acting from that place and I healed even quicker.
So, as I think, as I’ve already said, you can use your assumptions to build you. People like MLK. He had certain assumptions about what he wanted to create in his role in the world. On the opposite end of the spectrum. I recently watched on Hulu, a little documentary on Matthew Perry. The actor that was in friends and he had the assumption that he was not good enough. He had the assumption that he was less than, and that led him to taking something. I think he said 30 Vicodin or 55 Vicodin per day, he said, and he was doing cocaine and alcohol at the same time. And. Eventually his colon exploded, and it pretty much nearly killed him. But in that episode, I was watching it and I was like, what are the assumptions that guy was making? That was so destructive that pretty much, and almost nearly killed the guy. You’ve got to be careful with your assumptions and what you assume to be true about you. And in just a moment, I’ll start asking you some questions that I request you think through. To start, literally evaluating your assumptions.
You know, to make this tangible. And I talk about money a lot, and I do recently. Why because a lot of people have challenges with it. But mainly it’s very measurable. I mean, when we talk about assumptions, let’s say your self-esteem. It’s hard. Well, you can’t, you can’t say whoa. Okay. I’ve got 37% more self-esteem today because I’m making X, Y, Z assumptions. You can’t do that. It’s not measurable. But when you’re talking about money and assumptions in the applications, you could say, well, last year I made, you know, 74,000 this year I made 120,000 because I changed X, Y, Z assumptions about me. So, it’s you, you can literally. It’s tangible. But anyway, the example I want to give is that I grew up in a poor family. Very, very working class. And my core assumption about money is that I had to work hard for it. And I had to struggle for it. I grew up on a farm and I grew up working hard. That’s what I learned.
But before I created this episode, I started thinking, okay. What assumptions. Was I making about money and the predominant assumption that I was making is that I couldn’t attract money if I did not work hard for it. And the problem with that is working hard is a finite activity. Your body can only work hard for so long. Therefore, that means your money and the opportunity to build the wealth as a finite opportunity when you work from that assumption. So, what are your core assumptions about money? You want to know what they are. Look at your bank account. What are your core assumptions about your life? Your core assumptions about your health? Your core assumptions about your wellness, your core assumptions about your happiness and what it takes to be happy or what it means to be happy. Your core assumptions about your family?
I’m creating this episode the week before Thanksgiving, 2022. Many of you are going to be spending time with your family. Many of you. That actually have family are not going to enjoy time with your family. Why because you’re making assumptions about what Susan’s going to do next week or is Bob going to get drunk again and embarrass himself in the whole family or are, you know, is this person going to do this and that person going to do that. It’s not even Thanksgiving yet. And people are already making assumptions about it. How about this? Even your spirituality. Many people who follow the podcast are spiritual. What are your assumptions about your spirituality? I’ll talk more about that in just a moment.
Here. Finish the sentence. Okay. So, I’m going to give you some sentence stems. Meaning I’m going to start them, and you finished the sentence, however you want. I’m good at blank. Fill in the blank. I’m good at blank. What are you good at? I’m bad at blank. Fill in the blank. I have too blank in life. What do you have to do? Fill in the blank. I don’t have blank in my life. And I want it. What is it you don’t have that you want. Life is blank. What is it? Is it fun? Is it hard? Is it joyful? Is it work? Is it peaceful? Is it, you know, what is it for you? People are blank. Fill in the blank. And then jobs are blank. Job is J O B S are blank. Okay, the question is. How many of those statements. We’re verifiable and factual as opposed to opinions based upon past life experiences, which have created the assumptions you live in today.
That’s really important. Ponder that again, I’ll ask the question. How many of the limiting statements that you made just made, even though I didn’t say I assume many of you, because I know what people do. Many of you made very limited statements about yourself. How many of those limited statements, which also have most likely translated into assumptions about yourself. How many of those are verifiable, factually versus opinion, and assumption. Think about that because you will find a guarantee. You, you, you will find when you explore that. You’re living under many, many, many false assumptions because you’ve not learned differently, or you’ve been conditioned or subconsciously programmed to think in a particular way.
I mentioned spirituality a couple of minutes ago. What assumptions are you making about your spirituality? Now, if you’ve listened for any amount of time, you know, that I work with a shaman. And I say it again. And I’ve said it probably literally 500 times on this episode or this podcast. My brother-in-law is a real Shaman. Like the conduit you would find in the Amazon or Siberia. He’s not the dude on YouTube named Don Xavier. And. Of those of us that work with him, many of us have been with him for, I guess, 26, 27 years now. And it’s very easy trust me. I’m not there anymore in my life, but in the earlier years, it was very easy to say. I’m not very gifted. And the reason I would say that, and this was decades ago. The reason I would say that is because I could see other people working with him. That had seemingly amazing what I would call spiritual gifts. And then I assumed wrongly back then, because I didn’t have those gifts. I assumed that I was not gifted. And, you know, a great example would be there was someone in the I’ll call it the spiritual family. And no, we were not wearing white sheets and singing kumbaya and lived in a community and all that. So, I just call it a spiritual family because it’s easy. But there was a person. That was very close to.
And she could automatic, right. Meaning, she could just sit down with pen and paper and things would come. And they would come through her higher awareness or higher mind or higher sense. And I remember one time, she and I were talking about something that had come through her. And she said, Hey, Jimmy. Did, Moses build the Ark and I’m like, no, in biblical history or biblical, you know, the story. That’s Noah, not Moses. So, I knew that she wasn’t just making things up in her head. I would just come to her. But she had actually had along the lines somewhere. She had mojo. Actually. I’m just going to tell you; she was actually automatic writing messages from Moses. Now. Back then I would say things like, oh my gosh. I mean, I. I can’t do that. I can’t write like that. And it was very easy to make assumptions. Well, I’m just not as gifted as someone else. And I’ve learned over the years. It’s not about being as gifted as someone else. Because see things that I can do, like this podcast, a lot of things, I don’t have any notes on this for the most a lot of things just come to me, and they come to me, and they come to me, and I get my podcast and dreams. That drives my team crazy because you’re like, Hey, what’s your what’s your, your next four podcasts? And I’m like, I don’t know, I’ll dream about something. And I’m like, okay, create the podcast episode on that this week.
But my, my superpowers are dream time. And then when I’m coaching and I’m coaching live and my transformational coaching program. I mean this humbly, but people will say, how do you do what you do? And I’ve had people say, I really, I want to watch you coach war. And it just comes. It literally just comes through me so back to assumptions. When I used to make the assumption that I’m not as gifted as X, Y, Z. That was correct. I was not as gifted as that person I’m talking about at automatic writing at all, but you know what I am and was gifted back then and doing what I do are, which are things like this podcast, coaching of a spiritual nature and things of that, I’m very, very good at it. And better than this other person.
So, we have to be careful with the assumptions that we’re making okay. Because even though I could not feel or hear, like she could. Actually, I could, I could feel viscerally when I’m in front of people, coaching people or in front of an audience. So be very, very careful with the assumptions that you’re making, because many of your assumptions are also made based upon comparing yourself to someone else. Like I just shared We’ll make assumptions about our ability. Then we reinforced the assumption by continuing to have the assumption. About ourselves based upon comparing ourselves to someone else. You know, back to money for a second. One of the biggest assumptions that I made for decades in my life. Because again, I grew up poor. And I literally mean when I really think about this. I’m like Jim, that’s the assumption you had for decades. And the assumption was, is you got to work hard, and money is hard to come by.
I remember when I lived in New York city, I had a client of mine very, very, very wealthy man. We were at his office at Rockefeller center. And we were talking about money. Oh. He said to me, He said, Jim, I want to help you make a million dollars a year. And I said, Raphael, I can’t make a million dollars a year. I’m a hypnotist. This was 1999. By the way so what, 23 years ago, and he looked at me. And he said, you know what, Jim, I make $10 million per year, whether or not I get out of bed. And in that moment, it hit me. What calls me to make the assumption. That I could make a million dollars a year and my given profession at that time. Well, that’s coming back from my past history from the ages of 5, 6, 7, 8, all the way through my you know, my teens and my twenties and into my early thirties. Which is where this was. When he said, I want to make, I want to help you make a million dollars per year. I automatically assumed given my career choice at that time that I couldn’t do it.
So, think about Now, if you’ve listened for any amount of time also, you know, that that I’m gay. Actually the 200th episode, I talk about it there and that’s I mean, to me, that’s medicine. The reason why is I’ve learned a lot of things as a result of being gay, that I would never learn if I was not gay. We all have life lessons. But I learned to honor myself and accept myself and appreciate myself, not the point of this episode. But many years ago. I used to make the assumption that if people found out they were, that I was gay that they were not going to like me. And then that calls me to hide from people and then, then go into my own world and my cave.
And for the most part. I was a loner. I didn’t know what was driving that. But it was the assumption. That you know what? I’m not good enough and people are going to reject me. So, you have to be careful with the assumptions that you’re making, because they will filter like rose colored glasses, every bit of your life. So, let’s play with this for a moment okay. What do you think? Is the biggest assumption that holds you back in life? Ponder that. And it’s going to come in this frame. It’s going to be, I can’t do be or have blank. Take a second. Just think of something that you think you can’t do be or have. I do want to point out there’s a small amount of practicality here. For example, if you have no legs, then you probably are not going to be able to win the Boston marathon okay. I mean, come on. That’s common sense. But then again, who knows because I’ve seen some extraordinary things, but I’m just saying, think through that for a moment. Think about, I can’t be, do or have blank and fill in that blank. Question time. I’m going to ask you some questions. Relative to what you think you assume you can’t be do and have. So that assumption that you can’t do and be and have blank question number one. What is the price that you have paid for keeping that assumptions.
What you want to do is you want to look at what you don’t have in life. Look at what you want, and you don’t have, and that is the price that you have paid to hold that assumption. Question number two. What have you resigned yourself to because of this assumption. You know, what I mean here is where have you stopped? And you’ve stopped trying in life. Because, well, you’ve stopped trying and you’ve accepted a life of blank. So, for example, it doesn’t apply to me anymore. But if I worked from the old paradigm, the old assumption that you have to work hard for money. Well, that’s what, you know, if I still had that, that means I would have resigned myself to that.
But what we’re doing here is we’re starting with these questions. We’re starting to challenge your old assumptions. And if nothing else, get you to start thinking about. The price you’ve paid for the assumption. And then what have you resigned your life to? Because of these old assumptions. Okay. Here’s another one. What is your already determined future? Based upon this assumption. Now, again, all these assumptions that we’re start we’re looking at here are about, I can’t be do or have blank. Okay. Because as I talked about earlier, positive assumptions are extremely powerful. We’ll get to that in just a moment.
But your negative assumptions. What is your already determined the future based upon this negative assumption about yourself? That being said is, you know, what do you think your future’s going to look like? If you continue to hold the assumption that I can’t be do or have blank, what do you think your future’s going to look like for most people? They think, well, it’s not going to be any different. Therefore, then what it creates is no hope and no hope actually translates into people giving up and creating nothing better in life. Next question. What has been your experience and attempting to change this negative assumption about yourself?
You know, in my BE DO HAVE series, which will be coming. Which will be coming up again next March. I believe. Is, I think I had 28,000 people to sign it for the last one we did a couple of months ago. But there’s, there are tens of thousands of people in there. That they’re there because they want more change in life. But what happens is people try to change and the way the brain was not designed to work. They’re trying to change in the way the brain, the brain does not work or design the work, or they don’t know how to work with work with their subconscious mind. They try to change, and they fail. Then they make the assumption that they cannot change anymore, and they stop trying. So, for many people, when they have the initial desire to create something new in life, what happens if they fail because they do not know how their brain processes information. Like I talk about in other episode’s neuroplasticity and habits and all these kinds of things and brain-based habits. That I’ll know about this. They fail and then they assume they cannot change. Therefore, they cannot create what they want in life.
Next question. What has been your payoff for living from your negative assumption? What has been your payoff? For living from your negative assumption. Your payoff is what I call your secondary game. Your secondary gain is basically a subconscious payoff for holding a behavior. Now what I mean by that is you could say, well, you know what? I’m afraid to put myself out. I have this beautiful art, I’m an artist I’m afraid. And I want people to see it. I want to sell my art. I want to share it with people. But I’m afraid to put it out. Well, the person is afraid to put it out. The reason why is because the secondary gain is if I put it out. People might tell me that I’m not good enough. People might not buy it. People might not reject me. So, my secondary gain is that I get to protect myself from not putting it out, even though a part of me says that I want to put out the art.
So, for me, hiding. My secondary gain, meaning I would just be quiet about myself, and I would hide I mean I’ve always been an extrovert. But I was not, I’m not vocal now about being gay. I mean, I don’t have a gay bumper sticker. I don’t have gay flags none of that stuff. You know, that is not me but here’s the thing. The secondary gain for me not being who I was and open and honest about who I am. My secondary gain was I got to protect myself from being rejected. And I’m, I’m one of the most fortunate people in the world, because not only did it create, but it did also not create rejection. It created more acceptance from my friends and my family. So, I’m one of the fortunate ones, because it doesn’t always happen that way.
So, what is your payoff? What is your payoff for living from your negative assumption about yourself? Okay. Let’s go back to the core assumption I can’t be do or have blank. Now, what we want to do you want to do is you want to take that core assumption. And you want to reverse it Meaning what’s the opposite of that assumption. The opposite is I can be, do or have blank. Even if you don’t believe it right now, that’s okay. Because it’s probably ingrained subconsciously and brain-based through habitual thinking neural pathways in the brain. But right What core assumption mind the powerful one recently in the last couple of years is I’m healed.
I’m healed. I’m perfectly healthy. I can do everything. Like what, you know, when I was healthy, when I was 30 years old. And so, I took the core assumption. My core assumption used to be is I’m you know, I just had got over, heart failure and a stroke. I have to be easy on myself and take my time healing. That was the core assumption that I was making. And I switched to too I’m already healed, and I can do everything is about if I was healthy 30 years ago. And that’s when things started to change, why that’s what I started the program myself with subconsciously through my self-talk. So, your new core assumption would be, I can. I can do be, or have blank, put what you want in the blank. Now in this episode, we can’t change it, but I’m going to direct you to where you can. All right. Because the, the $64,000 question. Is how do we get this new assumption that you can do or be, or have into your brain, into your subconscious identity? Easy. I talked about. Talked about it on episode 243 self-hypnosis. Question. I talked about self-hypnosis two episodes ago. I don’t know how often you listen, but I have many, and I mean, many, many, many people that have said I’ve listened to every episode, 2, 3, 4 times. I listen to every single week, but here’s the question.
If you’ve not fully explored and deeply explored and even terms in terms of doing your own research. If you’ve not explored self-hypnosis, I gave that to you two weeks ago. Ask yourself. What’s caused me to take no action on two weeks on something that I may believe may assume based upon what Jim said can help me change my life. So, if you haven’t listened to episode 2 43. Go back to that and then follow my instructions there. And get online and start doing your own research for hypnosis audios online for self-hypnosis. That’s how you reprogram your subconscious identity to literally reverse your core assumptions that hold you back. Now, I know that’s less than a dramatic ending to this podcast episode, but I only have so much time in these episodes. So, I let out the frame for you with the five questions.
Those five questions are working from, I can’t be do or have been a core assumption. What is the price you have paid for this assumption? Question number two, what have you resigned yourself to because of this negative assumption. Question number three. What is your already determined future based upon this negative assumption. Question number four what your experience has been and attempting to change this negative assumption. Question number five. What has been your payoff for living from this negative assumption. Your transformation takes away. The quality of your life. And I borrowed this from Richard Bandler, but I changed it. The quality of your life will be determined by the assumptions you make and choose to hold for yourself. As I said in the opening. Your assumptions are your biggest traps, or I didn’t say it, but I’m going to say it now. They are your biggest traps or your greatest allies. So be very, very careful with the assumptions you make about yourself. because your life right now and the circumstances of your life, your health, your wellness, your money, and the circumstances of your life. Are a reflection of the assumptions that you make about what’s possible for you. Thanks for listening.
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